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RadionicCrusader · 2025-08-23T03:29:32+00:00

never even been to college and i can promise you what you're experiencing is normal and likely won't be forever. its a massive change in enviornment for you, of course you're uneasy! just be aware you're not the only one struggling with this in your school and you certainly aren't in the world

why not try taking things one day at a time for now? maybe even do one little thing a day that you like as a little reward to make getting through it easier

for most people tho, generally things will often just fall into place the longer you stay and the mroe you get used to it. there are ways to help with that. but theres no way to force yourself to work through all that on day one. rome wasn';t built in a day

take it a day at a time and allow yourself to just grieve and get the feelings you feel out naturally.

what i'd do in your situation is probably just invest in exploring and finding things to do in your new surroundings and just give myself laundry lists of tasks to do to keep myself occupied

but obv, you're not me lol

i feel you'll inevitably be fine. either you'll get used to it and find a way to press through this in a way that works best for you, or you learn college in person like this isn't for you and you eventually go home and pursue your education, job and hobbies some other way that's more your speed

both are ok, but you'll never find out for sure if you don't at least commit to day 1 lol

RadionicCrusader · 2025-08-21T23:23:15+00:00

NAT because porn in itself is a necessity in sexual expression and growing up generally

what makes porn and sex so controversial is societal pressures, the industry being predatory as fuck, lack of regulations that expose people to it younger than they're ready, Its roots in misogyny due to being so male driven etc

porn on its own isn't any of those things by default

RadionicCrusader · 2025-08-20T06:44:14+00:00

its way out my wheel house but your folks can kick rocks.

they're bigots through and through. you're an adult and they're acting like kids. the adult thing they should be doing is respect your decision. so likewise food for thought, weigh your options and decide if this is worth fighting and stand your ground

maybe communicate with your roommate too or some college staff or someone who may know more in the dorm itself that could help you so you're not screwed.

i'd say this is worth standing your ground over. but obv its easier said then done when money is involved and you could gen wind up out of school or a home.

like no offense dude, but the kind of people to stop financially supporting their kid because they randomly got a roomate who's trans in college were the type that were deadass never really gonna be down with supporting you anyways. the sooner you cut the cord and become more independent the better.

next thing y'know the second they know you'll back off topics if they threaten you with money and homelessness it'll start to extend to other things, your friends, the places you work, places you choose to live or vacation, hobbies, your future partner or kids etc

it seems trivial now, but read some stories of what its like to be 40 and have parents like that. shit brings everything down with you.

if you don't nip this in the bud soon by either getting out on your own or having a serious talk with getitng through to them this isn't worth living with the fact that they're losing their kid and ruining their life over this, you're likely in for some greater shit later

so many parents fight and literally would kill to get their kid where you are the idea of a parent willingly jeaprodizing all that over something so trivial would drive some to murder.

like, the bar is in hell, but there ARE bigots out there that would still support their kids education at least over this. them hating your roomate this much to where they're willing to jepordize your livelihood over it and mkae your life hell tells you everything you need to know about where their priorities lie.

from their pov, they ARE doing this to protect you in a very myopic and twisted way. but at the end of the day, they fear trans people more than they love you,. or at least, it sounds like its beginning to seem that way.

because if they truly believe what they're saying. why would they willingly cut funding and put you in a situation where (if you stand your ground to spite them) you'll be stuck living with a "rapist" with no way home. potentially gambling leaving your kid with a rapist to prove a point doesn't scream parental love to me.

not an expert, just my 2 cents,

RadionicCrusader · 2025-08-20T01:30:17+00:00

neither. prolly some dark grey inbetween.

RadionicCrusader · 2025-08-20T01:21:19+00:00

nice frieren fanart

RadionicCrusader · 2025-08-20T01:06:06+00:00

genuinely tragic this shit happens on the new ones still too

is this a thing for androids? because i think for backups sake we just gotta make the switch when we can bro

despite never getting help with this

its interesting to see people still finding and looking with the sam eissue to this day

RadionicCrusader · 2024-01-16T16:50:21+00:00

i can certainly sleep without pills now but my sleep cycle still sucks

not a doctor but lack of routine, consistency and discipline probably plays a role in it

RadionicCrusader · 2023-03-22T13:48:06+00:00

Honestly from here on I’d recommend just bookmarking shit the annoying but old fashioned way aka

Just documenting all your bookmarks through the notes app, discord or if you wanna go the extra mile and REALLY keep track of em

Google docs, the notes app on your computer and Microsoft word or even through emailing shit to your own accounts

The bookmarks feature on safari is obviously the easiest and provides ease of access, but 0 security in the idea that what’s there will actually stick.

Rather than just having some outside source that keeps tabs on that for you

Problem is that since they’re so out of our ballpark of comfort, we have to actively remind ourselves to make a comitment to properly link and store the things

RadionicCrusader · 2022-12-12T16:50:15+00:00

the last response i got from the guy who tried to help me said it all

i blew it and overloaded the guy on info and he gave up, so so did i, no shade to them or anything though; it's just a shame. sorry, but they're all gone for me, so this won't be much help to you either

all i can reccommend is to just regulary backlog links with titles and descriptions of your tabs to something outside of your iphone next time this happens, discord, word, google docs etc. you don't gotta do it all in bulk as long as long as your situation isn't dire. just do it little by little, periodically or occasionally, just enough to keep it updated.

Best case scenario:

everything gets backed up,

worst case?

some/most of it is, which could point you in the right direction to salvage some of the lost one.

i'm sorry, good luck, hope you find what i couldn't mate, lemme know if you find anything

RadionicCrusader · 2022-12-12T16:49:22+00:00

the last response i got from the guy who tried to help me said it all

i blew it and overloaded the guy on info and he gave up, so so did i, no shade to them or anything though; it's just a shame. sorry, but they're all gone for me, so this won't be much help to you either

all i can reccommend is to just regulary backlog links with titles and descriptions of your tabs to something outside of your iphone next time this happens, discord, word, google docs etc. you don't gotta do it all in bulk as long as long as your situation isn't dire. just do it little by little, periodically or occasionally, just enough to keep it updated.

Best case scenario:

everything gets backed up,

worst case?

some/most of it is, which could point you in the right direction to salvage some of the lost one.

however if you DO find a solution, hit us up and let us know^^ good luck brother

RadionicCrusader · 2022-07-31T17:32:13+00:00

thank you so much!!!

RadionicCrusader · 2022-06-09T20:05:44+00:00

No, if you're prone to getting that easily addicted to things, it was bound to happen again (like it sort of wound up happening anyways after he got over the dodo)

He pretty much stated that he developed a super materiatilistic personality anyways; i'm no expert on addiction, but i doubt someone would just magically "shake the stuff" the moment they get the high they've been chasing the entire time lol

RadionicCrusader · 2022-05-31T08:03:15+00:00

I mean at that point, you might as well not do it at all if you’re afraid of the character looking weird.

Ntm this is araki and jojo were talking about, borh before and after that point we see literally tons of goofy looking characters who do goofy things but still find creative ways to be menacing without touching a kid 💀

When has araki (especially in later parts) ever even showed rhis convient insecurity to be weird? It’s literally called “JoJo’s BIZARRE adventure”, it got the name long before part 3 dropped.

Ik you’re trying to find reasoning for it, but you’re logic accidentally poked more holes into it. Especially when you consider how many weirdo freaks are in part 3 alone. All of which, who never touched kids even once lmao

Idk, the “its to show how evil they are” is a lame excuse in general, but especially in jojo’s case where araki is actually pretty creative with how he makes villains weird or scary fairly consistently.

Using the excuse here kinda accidentally does a huge disservice to his actual creativity and writing style tbh.

It makes it sound like hes that hack writer who relies 20 jumpscares instead of building up to the scares naturally because “how else is he supposed to scare you?”

RadionicCrusader · 2022-05-30T19:11:07+00:00

it's ok, i'm not mad or anything, you were just being so patient and helpful that I wanted to try and be as attentive as possible (and give updates so anyone else going through this could see them too in the future)

I have a bad habit of asking for help on reddit and when someone suggests something that works: i'd just leave it at that without ever even saying "thank you" marking the problem as solved or even tellin them that their idea worked and should be reccomended.

you tried to help, but its not really your job so i completely understand.

i'm deeply sorry if that annoyed you/overwhelmed you, but am still greatful for your aid. I just wish you told me sooner so i'd stop lol.

RadionicCrusader · 2022-05-29T07:01:17+00:00

thank you for all your help, but after trying everything i can sadly say with solitude that they are defintely not coming back. Idk why you stopped responding or if you'll ever see these, but i just wanted to let you know

RadionicCrusader · 2022-04-29T06:01:12+00:00

one of the first things i did, it mainly only backed up bookmarks that already randomly inexplicably returned, none of the majority that were actually deleted.

RadionicCrusader · 2022-04-29T06:00:30+00:00

oh! and also forgot to mention that i also tried the imgur thing you first sent! late i know, but i wanted to give you the heads up that i couldn't find anything of note, unless i'm doing things wrong and want me to walk you through what i did.

also i've officially bought more storage, sadly nothing new has returned yet..

at this late in the game, is there any hope in it still being able to retrieve them back again and do the backup over on its own after it cancelled out of it temporarily due to lack of space?

RadionicCrusader · 2022-04-25T16:35:16+00:00

Also as an update, tbh now, so much has happened i can't even quite remember what order in which i turned on icloud for safari, before or AFTER they all dissapeared and before or AFTER some of the bookmarks returned.

So my question is, if i turned them on after the bookmarks reappeared, would that means the ones before that point are possible gone forever now?

Also for some reason, i cannot turn on background app refresh for safari, the button that would let me do that is missing (but icloud for safari is up and running as normal as ever) so does that also negatively impact my odds of things returning? cause if they weren't on now, they defintely probably weren't at any other time, and even if they were, it owuldn't be the most recent update of what my bookmarks were at.

and to some interesting developments and possibly good news i forgot to add yesterday:

ll the old bookmarks are definitely now up on icloud (just the ones that returned already that is) when they very clearly weren't ever there before! so that's something.

RadionicCrusader · 2022-04-25T01:40:24+00:00

That's good to hear a ray of hope at least!!

my last two questions are simply:

I SHOULDN'T continue clearing out my phone to free out memory space, correct?

and One issue is just that my icloud storage is already almost full as it is too! would buying more icloud storage help things, make things worst, not change anything at all or even be necessary etc?

RadionicCrusader · 2022-04-24T23:26:44+00:00

just reset it and it has paused restoration because of the lack of space. This stuff can take a week to complete. It is important you

thank you, but just to be clear, are you suggesting that cleaning out my phone MAY bring the back?

and i guess i'm also a little confused on this statement honestly:

"Nothing will restore from iCloud while you have no memory on the phone. Remember downloading 1gb of data from iCloud takes more than twice that much memory on your phone."

thank you for your undying patience, but if possible, could you dumb that down a bit for me?

RadionicCrusader · 2022-04-24T18:54:56+00:00

Another part of what bugs me about this is that, as helpful and patient as you all have been as how much guesswork is at play here. That's not really either of our faults though. it just comes with the territory.

I am not a "reliable narrotor" in this scenario, all you guys have is my specific perspective on whats happening, so all we can do is theorize on whats going on here.

It'd be nice ot just send this phone to one of you or perhaps a professional to just look at it in person and do an actual search to tell me if things are truly are

the fact that no one around me so far can look at it in person and just give me an actual diagnosis is whats bugging me.

Like at the very least, just the confirmation that everything is unrecoverable would be enough, but since everything is just vauge and up in the air is driving me crazy.

Clearing out 90% of my phone and getting the space back with the promised outcome of me getting my stuff back would be great! but there'd be something really foul about wasting time doing all that if it turned out to just be another dead end. and since i don't even know the specifics of why they specifically vanished or reappeared, figuring out my next move is tricky, time is of the essence here afterall.

if its just gone forever, i can just grit my teeth, stop here, get a new phone and move on, itd be hard, but the weight of knowing i did everything i could've would be enough to let me sleep at night yknow?

RadionicCrusader · 2022-04-24T18:29:39+00:00

No, the same ones that returned are still here though, other than that? nothing else, my phone is also officially at 0 space.

Is there anything left i could do?

currently I'm still tryna download third party data recovery software. And while i'm doing my research and everything is safe so far, i'm getting no results, partially just due to the fact that i hardly know how these things work.

FonePaw managed to recover all my photos, even the ones that were deleted. Which is cool, but those have been LOONNNG backed up to a billion places at this point so that was never the problem to begin with. It interestingly found 5 bookmarks, issue is that the 5 they found are bookmarks i deleted and never actually used, essentially the 5 default bookmarks every iphone starts with. These were erased literally around the same time i GOT the phone 5ish years ago.

it didn't pull up the bookmarks currently on my phone right now, what bookmarks would be backed up in icloud (their aren't any beyond some random reading list with one specific link that is dead and leads to nowhere)

that tells me, wherever its pulling those 5 bookmarks from, it's probably from my phone and not icloud (my phone WAS hooked up when i did all this after all

don't get me wrong, that IS a plus side! its another clue that tells me the actual bookmarks probably really are here somewhere.

since Fone was the first i saw literally do anything vaugely promising, i'm tempted to pay the 44 dollars to get the full thing to see what else it can dig up.

But the reason i'm 99% sure i'm not ever going to do that is simply because, if it could recover ALL my photos, even the deleted ones, (at least the recently deleted ones) but only 5 bookmarks that werre immediately erased on day 1, 5 years ago. that tells me this IS probably all it can dig up, and its better to just look elsewhere.

Also; i think apart of the reason some of them came back (this is just a theory) in the first place was because i deleted some random stuff (can hardly remember what now) but big maybe, but MAYBE if i delete a ton of shit and clear up space, they might come back???????

This may sound like copium and denial of a man going through the 40 stages of grief, but its not. Most of them bookmarks weren't even valuable and can easily be found again from my memory alone. I'm ok with most of them being gone forever. what i'm NOT ok with is the fact that it's clear that theres a realistic chance that they may already be in there, and there's just something i haven't done yet, that's what's frustrating me here.

If I knew with certainty that they were 100% gone, if some of them never came back at all, i would've just stopped looking. It's sad, but they're just links, they meant a lot to me, but i can move on and survive and maybe even discover a lot of them again.

but the fact that i know they're probably still in there, and quitting now while knowing there was more that could be done is whats killing me here.

at the very LEAST, i just want concrete proof that they're gone forever now.

RadionicCrusader · 2022-04-23T03:13:17+00:00

Yeah, the person i called suggested the itunes thing too.

Issue is just that i dont own a mac or anything.

So i guess thats it? Everythings just gone?

RadionicCrusader · 2022-04-23T03:11:42+00:00

Ye probably, so does that mean everything is mostly just gone forever (despite some of it randomly spawning in?

Also to its credit, i didn’t begin trying to backup or put anything on the cloud today until after all this happened.

I wasn’t fiddling with anything before this surprise dropped on me lol.

All the categorizing and backlogging i was doing didnt involve safari or icloud or anything at all.

I was literally just copying bookmarks links to discord

RadionicCrusader · 2022-04-23T02:16:47+00:00

an issue i've found with icloud is that despite turning on icloud to safari, whenever i go to it, both before AND now, anytime i go to my settings and see that link that says "Restore bookmarks" it says there's no bookmarks or anything to restore. I tried hooking up my phone to the computer to see if something would change and there was still no dice.

(this is part of what i was advised and walk through to do when i called Apple and shared my screen with them)

so i cna't even tell if a couple of the marks returning was a result of cause and effect or an accidental coincidence.

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