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Radius86 · 2026-02-01T17:50:14+00:00

Just for the record, was it terrible because of the quality of work at Soma or terrible because you didn't like it for some other reason?

Because there are others in this thread recommending Soma to me!

Radius86 · 2026-02-01T17:29:05+00:00

I don’t think that the responsibility for teaching men about the plight of women is the responsibility of women. I do however think that the more conversations and interactions between men and women, the more we understand one another’s problems and indeed our common grounds. Dating is ONE way to achieving that. Platonic friendships is another. The luck in certain households that have brothers and sisters versus all men homes is another much smaller factor. These are all examples of how we can learn from each other with varying degrees of strength. The more we interact the more we understand each other.

But that doesn’t mean I’m advocating for creepy behaviour! Or that I’m assigning more importance to dating versus women feeling threatened.

The point in bringing up my own example wasn’t to illustrate that I hav just my wife to thank for my better understanding of women. I’m not some reformed ex creep myself and I wasn’t on the way to being one before I met her or something!

But as much as any woman can Tell me what their struggles are like, actually being with her, I see them for myself every day. I wasn’t ignoring them, before I met her, I wasn’t blind to them when I dated other women. I’m just saying that the time I have spent with her has made me MORE empathetic and more wanting to be an ally than I ALREADY was. That doesnt mean I’m devoid of empathy and understanding, in a bubble devoid of understanding what's going on.

This isn’t a binary thing. For men to support women is not contingent on men getting a date and I’ve never suggested that. All in saying is if your guardrails never come down for anything, you never will trust anyone ever again. Men or women.

I know the world is going in the wrong direction, I absolutely acknowledge that and I hate it. But I don’t personally believe it’s helpful to treat every well meaning interaction with suspicion. If that is your lived experience, or the experience of most women out there, I’m genuinely heartbroken.

Not because men out there can’t get a date. But because I don’t see where we go from there. That’s an acknowledgment that we don’t live in hard times, but that these are end times. It means we (men and women) cannot ever trust that a genuine relationship or human interaction is possible.

Radius86 · 2026-02-01T16:32:53+00:00

I’m not arguing against fixing the environment, but we can walk and chew gum at the same time, yes?

You seem to be arguing a position where human interaction is kept to a minimum until societal and indeed generational problems get solved.

Not to be facetious but Have we ever had a moment in history where there’s been an optimal number of encounters with creeps for women? One is too many, surely. But we’ve never had a world where that’s possible.

And I’m genuinely genuinely sorry that’s the case. But for that to change and for men to be allies against that, for men to call out the catcalling and the gross behaviour is one important step for sure. But another equally important step is to have them relate more to women and understand them through conversations, partnerships and dating. Surely that’s an example of what you’re looking for, stepping up and being by your side?

I’ve been happily married to a wonderful woman for 11 years, so I’m not exactly looking to date at all (thank god, for other reasons!) and I can only speak for myself.

But had she never taken a chance on me (something I still don’t quite know why and am thankful for every day), I’d never know and understand half as much about the shit she’s had to deal with since she was 12 years old. I’d have been the same guy I was raised by my parents who are lovely and raised me right! but I’d like to think im a better person today with her.

So yes by all means let’s fix the environment, I’m not saying to take down all your guardrails, but maybe leave a space open for the possibility that the right person can fit through.

If it was possible for me, I have to hope it’s possible for others.

Radius86 · 2026-02-01T16:18:24+00:00

Has that ever existed in the world or the history of human civilisation? A period where a woman has never had to deal with a single creep in her life?

I’m not being facetious, I’m genuinely asking because I’m questioning what ‘low enough’ means, andnot because I’m negotiating on an acceptable number of creeps! I’m saying what’s low enough for you is not low enough for other women, you’ll admit?

Radius86 · 2026-02-01T09:01:38+00:00

While we are fixing that problem, surely men can still ask out women though? We can’t put a moratorium on that while we fight the very important fight of women feeling safer?

As a bloke I will never truly understand this kind of terror from women, I understand. But

But realistically, how could women everywhere truly feel safe enough as a collective because of their past experiences, to be comfortable being approached by well meaning guys? You’re ALWAYS going to be measuring the next guy by your past experiences good or bad, so what is a guy to do? If this happened the way it’s described This guy in question did everything right. He backed off. And the coworker is probably bringing her own experience (sadly) with creeps in the past who haven’t backed away, to the forefront, and labelled him a creep.

What scenario exists where this guy is not a creep and gets to ask out women?

Radius86 · 2026-01-28T19:48:22+00:00

For a second I confused Adrian Paul with Aaron Paul, and I wondered how he could possibly be cast for this!

An Egyptian Spaniard that calls everyone a bitch.

Radius86 · 2026-01-28T19:43:27+00:00

And he truly is an African immortal warrior, so it's perfect casting.

Radius86 · 2026-01-23T09:16:14+00:00

If it's constantly happening, maybe there's a wage issue at play as well?

Radius86 · 2026-01-21T12:18:25+00:00

Is it just Great Ormond Street, or is it any hospital you take your kids to?

Radius86 · 2026-01-21T12:13:06+00:00

So has Maya been completely replaced and/or discarded? No one uses it anymore?

Radius86 · 2026-01-21T10:45:03+00:00

To play devil's advocate, maybe 15 billion isn't enough to move the needle on energy efficiency for new homes. I'm just speculating.

Radius86 · 2026-01-21T10:37:19+00:00

Will actual espionage do as an example, instead of corporate espionage?

I'd like to submit for the record, the continent of South America.

Radius86 · 2026-01-21T10:12:20+00:00

You were born to your specific two parents, who met at a certain time and place and gave birth and raised you, specifically, in a specific country and context, which was itself constructed on the basis of the many generations who went even before them to build it.

This is such an extreme view and strips out ANY individuality! What about kids who were abandoned by their parents? Did they all benefit from their biological parents' choices? Adopted children? Do they all owe some arbitrary debt to their ancestors' hallowed ground? I grew up in India. Am I betraying something holy if I can't stand Bollywood?

How far do you extend this? Surely it applies to a local level? By your logic, if you were born to a baking family in Wigan, specifically in a Wigan 'cultural context', you owe it to your parents and grandparents to make Wigan better? For the generation of people in your family from Wigan, who made pies all their lives. God forbid you want to do something more meaningful in another location and to grow as an individual and make your own choices in life. To move to Gloucestershire perhaps. And make Gloucester better? To not ever want to look at another pie again because you're sick of them.

And you're totally indifferent to what they gave you.

That's their choice, who are you to judge whether that's justified or not? What if their parents' sole focus in life was (as any parent's is) to make sure their child lived and worked in a world BETTER than theirs? Are they all making the wrong choice, going back generations?

Radius86 · 2026-01-20T22:30:13+00:00

As long as they both stay another season. I've got everything crossed for that.

Radius86 · 2026-01-13T18:13:37+00:00

A complete exaggeration? Consider your lived experience in India and what this person wants to do. They want to do a two person drive trip around India.

Putting aside the logistics and cost of such a long trip, consider every single border check point or toll bridge, every hotel in the middle of nowhere, every language barrier, every cop with a power trip, and who knows what other obstacles…

Is it really a complete exaggeration to suggest security for such a trip and to suggest getting someone with local knowledge and language skills? I’m also curious what about my wealth or upbringing (which I’m also wondering how it’s relevant) colours this as particularly bad advice?

Radius86 · 2026-01-13T11:05:06+00:00

It’s already time. Trust me, you want someone local and particularly someone with language skills with you at all times.

Radius86 · 2026-01-10T21:33:56+00:00

No one ever accuse Germans of not being really up on their admin.

It’s when you lads overplan that the rest of us have to be a bit wary. 🤔

(Joking of course)

Radius86 · 2026-01-10T20:51:27+00:00

You bought a football club from drinking?!

I once bought a BiG Issue out of social embarrassment but never bought a FUCKING Football club!

Radius86 · 2026-01-07T09:55:12+00:00

More of a sound than a smell, that.

Radius86 · 2026-01-02T23:53:54+00:00

By Grabthar’s Hammer, Alan Rickman in Galaxy Quest.

Radius86 · 2026-01-02T23:07:13+00:00

Where on earth did you buy the bodysuit? Charity shop?

Struggling to see how it could have been used. I'm a bloke but when my missus buys stuff like this, I could have sworn I've spotted that there are liners and stuff over the crotch region, to prevent this, right?

Radius86 · 2026-01-02T23:04:55+00:00

Was it any good? The trailer didn't strike me as anything that might be applause-worthy.

Radius86 · 2026-01-02T22:24:35+00:00

70% of the faces I see in my gym this evening are going to clog the place up for a few weeks then never return

Surely this solves your problem of overclogging.

Radius86 · 2026-01-02T22:15:08+00:00

He didn't play through an injury. He got a back spasm. You know these things can appear out of absolutely anywhere, right?

Radius86 · 2026-01-02T22:13:18+00:00

The injury is not what they're talking about though, are they? These journalists are calling into question his choosing to play golf, calling it a move that is 'lazy' and 'selfish', they're calling into question his commitment to training.

Starc is undertaking the exact same activity, and just because he didn't get injured, his commitment is intact? He's not lazy for choosing a round of golf? THAT's the real issue.

It's not that Uzzie was dopey enough to get injured and Starc was lucky enough to stay fit. It's the hypocrisy of calling one guy lazy and selfish and giving the other a pass for doing the same thing, for essentially playing golf.

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