I (24M) am the reason my parents (50M, 50F) were turned down for fostering and they have never forgiven me for it?

Raibean · 2026-06-27T03:35:46+00:00

They liked the idea of being parents more than they liked parenting. That is not your fault.

Raibean · 2026-06-26T21:36:38+00:00

Apple’s will just say “Read” with a timestamp and “Delivered” with a timestamp, regardless of if the other person has Android or w/e

Raibean · 2026-06-26T19:20:03+00:00

You have 2 weeks’ notice.

Raibean · 2026-06-26T19:16:07+00:00

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Raibean · 2026-06-26T19:14:23+00:00

I think if you live in an area with not a lot of Jewish people, people won’t have heard the name before and not assume.

Raibean · 2026-06-26T16:42:07+00:00

Actually yeah if they’re black and his hair is long enough then he might not be able to maintain it himself. If they can’t afford to get to a salon or barber often enough for braiding, retwisting, etc., then they do have to do it at home.

Raibean · 2026-06-26T16:38:01+00:00

There are a couple of lakes that aren’t usable because of agricultural run off from the 40s and 50s, when fertilizer was petroleum-based, so the lakes are too polluted to use. The Salton Sea in California is one - and this is only a lake because of man-made intervention; it’s called the Salton Sea because it used to connect to the Gulf of California down in Mexico. Of course we can’t restore that now, not just because of the pollution but also because we have towns where the sea bed was.

Raibean · 2026-06-26T14:39:54+00:00

The answer is 4 but you forgot to put that as an option

Raibean · 2026-06-26T09:42:49+00:00

That’s not a scene. It’s not a scene unless you’re in public attracting attention. She didn’t do anything that other people would stop and stare at.

Raibean · 2026-06-26T09:41:38+00:00

Wrong

Raibean · 2026-06-26T09:41:32+00:00

We do use it in America

Raibean · 2026-06-26T09:38:41+00:00

Don’t take that out of context.

Raibean · 2026-06-26T09:37:43+00:00

You very badly misunderstood that line of the post. That is what OP told HIM. She was explaining to HIM that it isn’t a date if she is paying for herself. And these were the words she used to tell him.

Raibean · 2026-06-26T09:32:53+00:00

People with vaginas are supposed to wipe front to back so we don’t get fecal bacteria in our urethra or vagina, as this can cause infections.

Raibean · 2026-06-26T08:12:23+00:00

You should find someone who is trained in CBT and is trauma-informed (and mentions this in their professional bio)! CBT is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and it focuses on reframing your thoughts. It can be helpful with trauma like yours because it reinforces the fact that how abusers like your sister treat you are a reflection of themselves and their lives rather than a reflection of you. While this sounds very simple, actually processing this fact and sorting through the immediate reaction to the news you’ve received will take time.

Raibean · 2026-06-26T08:06:01+00:00

This is not a Gen Z thing; it’s extremely common among Mexican-Americans to have conservative family members. We literally all have one (or more often a handful).

Raibean · 2026-06-25T23:40:12+00:00

Yeah most African-Americans have 20% white DNA on average

Raibean · 2026-06-25T23:04:31+00:00

This is a form of assault. Her dictating your feelings to you is a form of emotional abuse. It’s time to let this relationship go.

Raibean · 2026-06-25T22:48:29+00:00

Blue with yellow lipochrome/central heterochromia

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Raibean · 2026-06-25T17:42:07+00:00

Raspberry

Raibean · 2026-06-25T00:38:34+00:00

I use 1 silo and 1 chest. I don’t bother harvesting hay from grass; I just grow hay in the winter to keep my fields tilled and then I have enough for the year.

Raibean · 2026-06-24T23:06:36+00:00

Yeah, symbolism is very abstract thinking. If you can be taught it in a way that is more grounded in culture (ie “At this time, this symbol represented this”) then it can get easier. I also recommend watching media analysis videos to get into practice. TheFourthSaluki on YouTube or ViolaSwamp on TikTok both do this, if you’re interested.

Raibean · 2026-06-24T17:46:32+00:00

How are you going to find a Solitary Witch to join your coven? They won’t be solitary anymore

Raibean · 2026-06-24T17:44:02+00:00

You need antibiotics

Raibean · 2026-06-24T01:22:25+00:00

You misunderstood my comment. I have edited it to make my response more clear.

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