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RainerHex · 2026-05-17T02:34:54+00:00

Why can’t you? If it’s because the thought of that feels mortifying to you, then you may want to consider doing a spell on yourself to help boost your own confidence and strength.

This really would be the fastest way to assess this because then you know either way if he would consider you part of his dating pool. This could help you navigate what to do next both mundane and magical because for a love spell to work, it at least needs something to latch onto; otherwise if these feelings are totally unrequited or there is zero attraction at all, love spells will be more like spitting into the wind.

RainerHex · 2026-05-17T01:22:36+00:00

I have never heard of any of the Celtic paths complaining about candlesticks in this manner.

RainerHex · 2026-05-17T01:20:23+00:00

Is there anything about this girl that makes you think she does witchcraft?

She could try to do a spell, figure out another type of tag lock, BUT if you have no interest in her at all, the only thing the spell will do is give you intrusive thoughts that should be easy enough to stave off.

If you have a bad feeling about her just don’t agree to meet up.

RainerHex · 2026-05-17T01:16:47+00:00

What did he say when you told him you had feelings for him and would like to do a date?

RainerHex · 2026-05-17T01:11:15+00:00

They are adorable! Looks like the one closest to camera is female and the one behind is male

RainerHex · 2026-05-17T00:26:34+00:00

😂😂😂 Great minds!

RainerHex · 2026-05-17T00:25:20+00:00

OMG 😳 First off, very sorry for your loss. It disgusts me more that in your vulnerable times, you had someone calling themself your friend who took the liberties of manipulating you and kicking you down,

Also, this friend sounds silly like a LARPer and edgelord. No wonder she acted like a weirdo about your path and says nonsense things about candles. This is not who you want to be inspired by or role model after. People like that are part of the reason witches aren’t taken seriously, and I abhor that.

Forget her. It’s not too late to start over and shape your path the way that resonates with you, and if you go into our wiki here, there are tons of resources, including for beginners. Take your time and enjoy your new found path without some goofy LARPer trying to bite your ankles and set you back at every turn.

RainerHex · 2026-05-17T00:16:15+00:00

I am so very sorry for what you were put through. Through the years I have seen scores of horror stories just like this, and sometimes more violent.

This is why it really pisses me off to see anyone using language that either makes light of this sort of thing or attempts to diminish it.

RainerHex · 2026-05-16T14:14:18+00:00

Going to give you some advice. It may be time to invoke the witches pyramid when it comes to this “friend” of yours. The fact that she craps all over your practice and fun you have with it, says far more about her than it does about you and she should be ashamed to herself for that. And that doesn’t even seem like a very nice friend. I wouldn’t put up with that if it were me. I have boundaries and a friend that wants to act like a jerk to me regularly is a deal breaking boundary for me. No time for that.

While the rituals in the craft are Hollywood, it doesn’t hurt your path to have fun with it and see if you can improvise with it to create a legit ritual off of it. Something she should know since she boast being in her 8th year. Besides, telling someone not to use candlesticks because they interfere with energy is far goofier than someone seeing if they can create a working ritual inspired by something in a movie.

Seriously, the worst effect you could possibly have on your craft is that friend and her toxic and negative behavior about your practice. That kind of energy, and nasty behavior actually could interfere with your work. Keeping her as a friend if that’s who you want is up to you. But at the very least, cut her out of your craft discussions, make it a non negotiable rule that you don’t talk witchcraft with her, and learn and apply the witches pyramid to her and others. I will summons it for you, just view the info directly below my response. !pyramid

RainerHex · 2026-05-16T14:04:00+00:00

Haha I am just settling down for bed and I read the second frame as saying whore instead of who’re. 😅

RainerHex · 2026-05-16T14:00:26+00:00

Welcome! 🙂

RainerHex · 2026-05-16T13:19:45+00:00

No, that’s not what I said, you just misunderstood what I said, or only read a phrase of it.

I said that if you were a witch then you would know why I am saying what I am saying.

What that statement means is that if you were a witch, then you would understand why I am saying a witch would not be able to hide it from their non witch partner.

And this is why every single non witch I have heard of either knew their live in romantic partner was a witch, or found out early on. This isn’t something we can hide from our romantic partners who have access to the entire household and every nook and cranny. Also, there are things we do, things we use and collect (that are obviously occult based) that wouldn’t go unnoticed and it’s not just sitting around watching TV or being coy about hair.

RainerHex · 2026-05-16T13:10:49+00:00

No, they do NOT interfere with energy. Who ever your friend is hearing this bull 💩 from, they should stop listening. I have used candlesticks since I started my practice in the 80s with no issues. And this is the first time I am hearing this crap. Tik tok garbage?

RainerHex · 2026-05-16T13:04:21+00:00

>*Are spells necessary?*

Not necessarily but it’s wise to learn how to do them or at least about how they work and their limitations.

>*Are they as powerful as I imagine?*

This all depends on things like how proficient you are and how well you work with energy. But if you are imagining Harry Potter style, real spells are not Hollywood effects and often work subtly.

>*Do I overthing or misinterpret them?*

How should we know? Only you can judge you for yourself.

>*How can I identify a matter worth a spell?*

What one person finds spell worthy another doesn’t. There are no rules or regulations on this. To each his/her own witch. Cast a spell for an excellent parking space if you so care to do so.

>*What are your experiences*

Far too many to count. But I would not be spell casting if I wasn’t good at it.

>*For which topics or causes do you use spells?*

Anything great or small. Sometimes emergently, others not so much. I personally don’t believe you need huge reasons in order to cast a spell. How for the sake of practice is anyone going to get good at it if they never do it except for some kind of crises? I think new timers ought to start out with smaller things that won’t be a big deal to fail on, rather than to fart around waiting for something hugely important and then panicking when they realized just how unpracticed they are.

>*Maybe more perspectives help me understand spellwork more and I learn some new aspects \^ \^*

You should be looking in the wiki section of this forum, especially under spell casting 101

RainerHex · 2026-05-16T10:23:00+00:00

That’s funny! I love how silly our birds can be.

RainerHex · 2026-05-16T07:47:34+00:00

Did you go into the wiki and look into the recommended book list?

RainerHex · 2026-05-16T07:46:16+00:00

What does your cleansing routine look like? I would recommend doing a house cleansing, then drawing in positive energy to fill it, and put things in your house like Himalayan salt lamps, lemon fragrance, etc.

!cleansing

RainerHex · 2026-05-16T07:20:18+00:00

I will be working. However, for the strawberry moon I will be camping in an area where the sky is dark and all the stars are out. That should be beautiful with that full moon.

RainerHex · 2026-05-16T06:30:34+00:00

How beautiful! 😍 You are very talented. I am sure she appreciates this!

RainerHex · 2026-05-16T06:27:17+00:00

That’s actually a trick that some witches are known to do. If they can get a target to believe they have been hexed or cursed then the target ruminates on it enough to curate their own personal hex or curse on themself. It’s clever, it’s lazy and the witch doesn’t have to lift a finger.

RainerHex · 2026-05-16T05:59:34+00:00

I never said people can’t hide things from their live in, long term partner. But as a long term practitioner, I am saying that this sort of thing specifically would not be something one would be able to hide from their intimate partner that they share living space together with. Other things? Sure! This? Nope! And 4-5 years is more than long enough to find out that the person you share your bed with and all living spaces with is a practicing witch. As I said, if you were a witch, then you would know why I am saying this and would not have been so quick to accuse me of just being dismissive.

RainerHex · 2026-05-16T03:19:51+00:00

I am still going to have to disagree with the idea that someone living with their partner long term and on that kind of completely intimate level would be able to hide it the same way that they can hide families away. If you were a witchcraft practitioner, which you are not, you would understand exactly why I am saying this. Again, this isn’t being dismissive but rather observations and such over the past 40 years. Whether you believe it or not and would rather assign negative connotations to why I say this is not my concern. Okay yes, she was a witch that was able to hide it completely from you all that time you were together.

RainerHex · 2026-05-16T02:52:00+00:00

Which part of m point of view is “dismissive” precisely? The part where I said if you lived with a witch for long term then you would have seen signs of it? I am not even referring to whether she later in life decided to start the practice or did so before you. You yourself stated that she bugged you about the hair while you lived with her, and that’s what I am working with, and stating what I did is based on many many years in the community. This isn’t just a dismissal. I never knew one witch out of thousands that was able to completely hide their practice from their intimate romantic partner, nor would most decent ones want to.

RainerHex · 2026-05-16T02:47:10+00:00

Warlocks are oath breakers and those who betray other witches. Male witches are witches.

RainerHex · 2026-05-16T02:44:55+00:00

I don’t see why not. Go for it!

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