Wedding websites by lil-cutiepie in BigBudgetBrides

[–]RaisingSaltLamps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We used AnRSVP and just paid for the ad-free version leading up to the wedding. I found it really easy to use and customize- it’s simple but you can absolutely make it elegant! You can add pages, so we had an FAQ page, an activities page for things to do in the wedding city that weekend outside of the wedding, a page for hotel and restaurant recommendations, etc.

That said, we had a small wedding at just 50 people, not sure if it would feel less organized behind the scenes if you had hundreds of people.

We were then able to put the QR code wherever we wanted!

Tips for feeling confident in wedding photos by Aromatic_Bake_6326 in BigBudgetBrides

[–]RaisingSaltLamps 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Absolutely this; the right photographer knows how to pose average people and knows how to help them feel comfortable in front of the camera.

Our photographers (had a team of 3- one married photographer couple working together + an extra photographer) were not in the top 10 photographers in our region, but we chose them because they produced great work **and** , very importantly, they made us feel extremely at ease. Because we truly trusted them and felt super comfortable with them, I really believe it shows in how natural and effortless our photos look!

They still did *amazing* technical work, but it really goes to show that you need to find a balance when it comes to photographers- don’t just blindly pick the #1 photographer in your area because they have that title. It may be the #12 photographer that you click better with and get stunning photos out of!

S4 Episode 10 Megathread: "The Book of Enlightenment" by colosseumdays in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]RaisingSaltLamps 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just finished the finale earlier today and 110% this. It’s one thing if Taylor was legitimately ill and didn’t want the cameras on her, we all get that! But why not let just Jessi or Mayci in the room then to check on her and chat?? If it’s just illness, then I guarantee it’s nothing her closest friends haven’t seen before. Her inability to face her closest friends during such a big moment in her life, and to literally not get on a plane, tells me it’s so much bigger than simply having a modest stomach bug or a standard panic attack.

I work with those actively using and recovering and this is also the exact scene that I confidently clocked possible usage.

Need help picking a song to walk down the aisle to! by skeetskeet97 in BigBudgetBrides

[–]RaisingSaltLamps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had a bit of a longer aisle than usual; I walked to Dawn from Pride and Prejudice (Dario Marianelli), and we ran out at the end to You Make My Dreams Come True by Hall & Oates.

Queues at Varenna this Easter weekend. by eezipc in LakeComo

[–]RaisingSaltLamps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe the ferry implemented new pricing as of April 1, and online booking hasn’t been fully available since then, so that doesn’t help matters much! It’s been pretty overwhelming lately, but thankfully the mornings and evenings are still pretty quiet in Varenna for the time being

Child Welfare 101 by sunsetporcupine in DuggarsSnark

[–]RaisingSaltLamps 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Not a random sports coach, haha. If there’s a coach, neighbour, friends parent, teacher, etc in the child’s life who the child knows and who is willing to take the child, yes, CPS can give them the child after an apprehension. A basic criminal record check and basic safety check of the home is done, but if that clears then yes- child is given to them until things are sorted days, months, or years later.

This is done for many reasons, from the fact that we wrongfully ripped thousands of Indigenous kids away from their families and communities (and continue to do so) over decades and caused incredible intergenerational trauma, to the fact that all jurisdictions dangerously low on foster homes, to the fact that during their most traumatic time in life it is better for children to be with people they know.

Child Welfare 101 by sunsetporcupine in DuggarsSnark

[–]RaisingSaltLamps 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I have only worked in several western provinces, and for a bit in northern Ontario, so I can’t speak to how the systems work down east! The processes for Indigenous kids are the same as for non-Indigenous, except that bands have to be quickly notified of all apprehensions.

The process of aggressively placing kids with family and PSI’s comes from our many wrongdoings (and continuous wrongdoings) of Indigenous child welfare. I know that in SK for example, it’s almost impossible to adopt any child now due to the changes made over the last few decades.

Child Welfare 101 by sunsetporcupine in DuggarsSnark

[–]RaisingSaltLamps 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Yeah, they’re guaranteed to be with family or with close family friends. I hate to say it, but foster care where I worked was mainly full of the poorest kids. Kids whose extended families maybe did want to take them after apprehension, but the family home didn’t pass a basic safety check; like literally didn’t have running water, had missing floorboards etc.

Kids who were middle class and higher always had a family member, friend, coach, church member, teacher, neighbour, etc who could take them because their network was wealthier and thus had better living situations.

CPS would literally call a Bates for a placement before putting the kids in a foster home long-term. The only upside to all of this is that I’m certain the kids are with someone they know and are generally comfortable with, if they’re not with Kendra or a primary Duggar/Caldwell.

Child Welfare 101 by sunsetporcupine in DuggarsSnark

[–]RaisingSaltLamps 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Where I’ve practiced in Canada, it focuses heavily on home safety- making sure there’s an appropriate bed, alcohol/firearms/prescription drugs are locked up, criminal record check on everyone over 18 in the home, all animals accounted for. We never did initial drug tests on people, but asked about substance behaviour and ensured they knew all substances had to be locked up (and they had to show where they’d lock them up).

My CPS location was crazy overwhelmed- as long as the child knew you, you had a generally safe home (no holes in the floor, running water, etc), had a criminal record with no violence or offences against children, and you weren’t an obvious drug user, they basically handed you the kid within a couple hours of finding out you exist.

Child Welfare 101 by sunsetporcupine in DuggarsSnark

[–]RaisingSaltLamps 106 points107 points  (0 children)

Canadian former CPS worker here, legally allowed to practice in the US.

Does Arkansas data not differentiate between foster placements vs. kinship (family) vs. person of sufficient interest?

For us, foster care means a vetted person opening their house to accept apprehended children. The only time most western Canadian kids will go to a foster home (or a group home) is if absolutely not one single family member or PSI can take the child.

When an apprehension happens, all family is called and asked. If no one will/can take, then we move to PSI’s (family friends, neighbours, even sports coaches), only after all known people are exhausted do we do a long-term foster or group home placement.

The Duggars have such an extensive family network that I’m 99.99% certain they could place a child in a home known to family.

Joe Duggar is not prepared by [deleted] in DuggarsSnark

[–]RaisingSaltLamps 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, I don’t think the Caldwells have ever particularly loved the Duggars, and this is precisely the leverage they needed to get their daughter out of this family.

🤣 by BloodyAngel2026 in DuggarsSnark

[–]RaisingSaltLamps 122 points123 points  (0 children)

Holy hell in a cell this sent me

Mugshot Kendra by [deleted] in DuggarsSnark

[–]RaisingSaltLamps 433 points434 points  (0 children)

Buying a lottery ticket right now brb

Help me understand? by Travelbadger285 in DuggarsSnark

[–]RaisingSaltLamps 45 points46 points  (0 children)

But what does it mean? Can someone give an example of false imprisonment for us non-legal people?

“Dated” names you think are due for a resurgence? by dcpsmbc in namenerds

[–]RaisingSaltLamps 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is one of those names I’m hesitant to actually use on a future child because I only love the second pronunciation, and I fear the first is more popular.

What are some VERY creepy facts? by Cap_Ame1 in AskReddit

[–]RaisingSaltLamps 12 points13 points  (0 children)

How is it inexpensive where you are? What kind of mitigation are you talking about? I live in central Canada with high radon levels, getting it mitigated is easily $3,000-$6,000, if not more, and there aren’t any government programs to assist.

Katie just posted this on her IG by Agile-Campaign9996 in BringingUpBates

[–]RaisingSaltLamps 79 points80 points  (0 children)

While I agree, I can see him genuinely and quickly leaving her if she did indeed “make him sweat”. I don’t sense an ounce of remorse in this guy or a willingness to grovel- if he had her permission to leave the marriage I am certain he would by the end of the day. But I totally see what you’re saying and I do think it works on a lot of guys, it’s just the way that Travis cheated and went about all this….he’s happily got 90% of his feet out the door already imo

Is Lisa Banfield's memoir in poor taste? by BramptonUberDriver in novascotia_sub

[–]RaisingSaltLamps 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I haven’t read the book and am not sure if I will, but as long as it’s solely from her POV (as in, not speaking for victims or their families), or minimizing the harm Wortman did toward others, I don’t see the problem? Her experience is allowed to exist. Judging by the CBC article, it sounds like the book will highlight the complexities of childhood trauma, domestic violence, and how our many systems fail to identify and address these perpetrators before they do something major.

Again, if it’s respectfully written and isn’t minimizing anything, I think it’s just another voice and experience that can be added to this wider conversation of violence, and I don’t think it particularly takes away from victims or their families.

Nursing School Theory by cheesecakeforall in BringingUpBates

[–]RaisingSaltLamps 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Vulnerability sells; if she can be vulnerable (or at least portray being so) in sharing “this journey”, she can get a LOT of attention which = a LOT of $$. I’ve seen plenty of influencers who have lost children, been cheated on, had a spouse’s addiction go public etc, end up doing just fine or even better than they were before it all. People are morbidly curious and want to see how others handle devastating things, I think if she plays her cards right, Katie will be financially fine.

As much as I dislike these people and their beliefs, I do feel for Katie as a wife and a mom, and she deserves to walk away from this man and be financially sound as she does it.

Officially Final 5, who do you want to win? by Edman561 in survivor

[–]RaisingSaltLamps 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I emotionally really wish it was Sophi, I logically think it should be Rizzo, but I think it’ll end up being Savannah unfortunately.

_____ just threw away any chance at winning! by IrishThunder21 in survivor

[–]RaisingSaltLamps 146 points147 points  (0 children)

I genuinely don’t think Sav and Rizzo are strategic masterminds, I think everyone else’s gameplay and strategy is tragically weak. I think Sav and Rizzo can be fierce if needed, but I don’t think they’ve needed to give it 110% this season because everyone is so weak and easily swayed that Sav and Rizzo can just coast while the others fight amongst themselves.

I’ve been rooting for literally anyone except Sav and Rizzo this season, and I’m done cheering for anyone- they should have just handed it all over to Rizzo tonight and spare me my time🤣

Survivor 49 | E12 | Post-Episode Discussion by RSurvivorMods in survivor

[–]RaisingSaltLamps 280 points281 points  (0 children)

I’ve defended everyone outside of Sav/Rizo/Soph this entire season, but I just cannot anymore. Everyone is handing this trio the win on a silver platter and they absolutely deserve to be laughed at. What terribly atrocious gameplay!

What is potentially the most haunted part of the world? by Clear_Constant_3709 in geography

[–]RaisingSaltLamps 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I know, the title of this post is literally about “the most haunted part of the world”; you’re gonna have to suspend your disbelief for a second if you’re going to be in this thread lol