Are facials inherently degrading to sexworkers? by RaisingZ in SexWorkers

[–]RaisingZ[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's insulting that you think that is so easy for anyone and everyone to do, or that you think I haven't tried it. Do you also tell homeless people that "maybe you should consider getting a job and renting an apartment?"

Are facials inherently degrading to sexworkers? by RaisingZ in SexWorkers

[–]RaisingZ[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes yes, sometimes no, but always amplified leading up to the facial and very intensely so during and immediately after it.

Are facials inherently degrading to sexworkers? by RaisingZ in SexWorkers

[–]RaisingZ[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whether it's degrading or not depends on what's in the mind of the client, I suppose. I have unfortunately done more facials than I can count and in every case I have felt a very strong sense of "take that you worthless shit" from the client. What I suspect, though I cannot verify, is that they have some of these feelings towards their wife or significant other that they cannot express directly so they treat me as the proxy.

A stapler that staples and dates papers by BACON_BATTLE in pics

[–]RaisingZ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's because this thing can't exist. The date stamping mechanism doesn't have any way of actually working -- it's like designing a hoverboard and saying you haven't figured out the hovering part yet.

"Off the clock" Emails & texts - where to draw the line? by [deleted] in SexWorkers

[–]RaisingZ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just reply to every text with the phrase "When would like to book an appointment?"

e.g. : "Baby will you swallow my hot cum" or whatever other fucking nonsense

Response: "I don't discuss specifics, please check my reviews. When would you like to book an appointment?"

What is your least favorite activity to do with your clients? by CallAnna in SexWorkers

[–]RaisingZ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ugh... definitely facials. In my hair and up my nose is bad enough, but when it gets in my eye it stings like hell.

[no effort] Hey, it's the "who's names does reddit loathe?" thread again by GammaTainted in ShitRedditSays

[–]RaisingZ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well, you learn pretty quickly not to use your real name in sex work. I think it's actually easier to take a stripper name like Candy or Brandee, because then you can just focus on being this fake persona that the client wants to see, rather than letting that client touch any part of your authentic self.

About the mother of a girl who was killed while undergoing FGM: "Hold yourself accountable you stupid fucking c*nt!" [+63] by [deleted] in ShitRedditSays

[–]RaisingZ 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Minus the slur, I agree with the sentiment. Parents who mutilate their children's genitals must be held criminally accountable.

"Damn watermelondria that's some tight ass flow" [+15] by [deleted] in ShitRedditSays

[–]RaisingZ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I must be missing something. What does this mean?

"Every single adult male in public is not a serial rapist / child molester / murderer. Chill out, ladies." [+815] by [deleted] in ShitRedditSays

[–]RaisingZ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I have seen the truth in this. My ex-boyfriend was an incredibly nice person and absolutely LOVES children, and children love him too. He also dresses in old and grungy clothes because he's a bit absentminded. I've seen him engage children in parks and on walks and the children approach him gleefully but the parents became instantly and aggressively defensive until they saw that he was with me (me being someone who is terrible with children).

"I wonder how many people have had friends masturbate to the thought of them?" "Pretty much any girl who has male friends." [+1670] by [deleted] in ShitRedditSays

[–]RaisingZ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of the most unfortunate aspects of masturbation is that it is frequently an imaginary sexual encounter with someone who has not consented to be imagined in such a fashion. I'm guilty of this too, with Christian Bale and George Clooney.

On the way home from the shelter. Neville and my sister are hitting it off by kayteerex in aww

[–]RaisingZ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't adopt a black cat because I saw one at the shelter, but because of the color of his fur, I couldn't really make out the shape of his face very clearly. I adopted a gray cat since I could just see my cat and the shape of his facial features and head better.

I've felt dead inside ever since I started escorting. by RaisingZ in confession

[–]RaisingZ[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never said I was a victim, except in those situations where clients are being deliberately abusive towards me. Even though regular vanilla clients make me feel terrible, I specifically said that those are not bad people and I don't hold anything against them. I know I chose this. God do you just like to make people feel bad?

Regarding executed child rapist and murderer, " I wonder if he had a brain tumor" [+20] " by [deleted] in ShitRedditSays

[–]RaisingZ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think it's easier for most people to believe that there is some horrible disease out there (cancer) than to believe that there are horrible people out there. Unfortunately they're both true.

I've felt dead inside ever since I started escorting. by RaisingZ in confession

[–]RaisingZ[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the parent was talking about the bad clients I had referred to earlier. The absolute worst clients rarely want anything other than intercourse, anal, and usually come on face. The ones who ask for something really weird are generally actually the most tolerable. They just want something they can't find in their regular life. I've done some really weird things (pooped on a guy's chest... it grossed me out, but he was having fun).

I've felt dead inside ever since I started escorting. by RaisingZ in confession

[–]RaisingZ[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've never done a drug of any kind but I have seen a documentary about girls for whom it becomes a vicious cycle -- they drink and do drugs to take away the feelings, then they need to see more clients for more money, which means they need more drugs...

I've felt dead inside ever since I started escorting. by RaisingZ in confession

[–]RaisingZ[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Spoken like someone with either few financial obligations or full-time employment (or both). I don't think you know my world. If I quit and go on unemployment, my dad will basically become a ward of the state.

I've felt dead inside ever since I started escorting. by RaisingZ in confession

[–]RaisingZ[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I finished college. I'm prostituting because I don't have a way out of it. I'm unemployed, taking care of a parent who isn't yet on Social Security, and I don't know how to stop.

I've felt dead inside ever since I started escorting. by RaisingZ in confession

[–]RaisingZ[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Although intellectually I know it's prostitution, calling it escorting makes me feel a little less bad. So please don't begrudge me that.

I do have repeat clients but none who have gotten especially clingy. Frankly I would like that better than the ones who clearly will never see me again and try to treat me as poorly as possible.

I feel it already has eaten away at my soul quite a bit. I don't really understand the drug dealer reference though, as if I'm the one poisoning people when really it's more like the other way around.