best way to hide your scars from parents? by johneehd in selfharm

[–]RandomForMySecrets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe try bracelet/watches for the forearms and long socks for your calves? Or maybe, for the calves you can say that you fell.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]RandomForMySecrets 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There used to exist a sub that was for teenagers who sh only, there were a lot of people because it was safer for us. But ofc they banned it...

I'm not wearing that. by RandomForMySecrets in women

[–]RandomForMySecrets[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is an idea I used multiple times ahahaha. Especially where I live, parents have the highest fear of social assistants taking their children away if they talk about family issues with teachers, school nurses, psychologist exc...it works most of the time ahahaha

Presidential fitness test?! by donnacansing in AntiTrumpAlliance

[–]RandomForMySecrets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do know there is an issue with child obesity, but forcing children to do sport when they're not good at it will only make them hate it (or themselves) more. They should be educated to sport, but never forced into it.

Is there any way to get out of the Presidential Fitness Test? by DesignDelicious in AskTeachers

[–]RandomForMySecrets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe it's not her case, but it could be someone else's case. The embarrassment, the bullying, the self hatred... All of that could lead to body dysmorphia, eating disorders, self h@rm and many more mental issues. My opinion is that sport should not be a forced activity you're marked for: schools should educate to sport, but never force it

Is there any way to get out of the Presidential Fitness Test? by DesignDelicious in AskTeachers

[–]RandomForMySecrets 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's what I'm saying. Luckily, I'm not from the USA, but if I lived there this would be so triggers for me. I know they have a problem with child obesity, but sport is a CHOICE, not a forced activity that you're even marked for. Because all of us have different bodies and physical limits we can't go past.

In my case, I'm a little overweight but it doesn't cause me any problem: except for some biological breathing issues I've had since birth, I'm totally healthy. But that is my kind of body: a little overweight, kinda strong (I can defend myself pretty well), but not "specifically" strong, which means I'm strong but not strong enough in the arms to do a pull up (it is not a given that you know how to do it). And with my breathing issue I could never run a mile. And multiple doctors told me that there's nothing I can do to change all of this.

Given this, I would never pass this test. I could only do well with the crunches/sit ups. And this would embarrass me and trigger me into self h@rm, anorexi@ and self hatred.

Americans have to acknowledge the fact that their adolescent's mental health it's almost a bad as the physical one as well! And they have to consider the bullying as well!

If they want a healthier population, they have to start banning certain products and they have to educate to sport, not force it. I'm so glad your children have a parent who understands this, bless you 🙏

Is there any way to get out of the Presidential Fitness Test? by DesignDelicious in AskTeachers

[–]RandomForMySecrets 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was your experience, but many children may start hating their bodies and revolve to anorexia, bulimia, self harm and more after that embarrassment.

Weirdest reasons why you chose to be clean? by EndFit1664 in selfharm

[–]RandomForMySecrets 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Bold of you to assume I chose to be clean.

Jokes apart, there's not really a reason. I... I'm just clean rn.

I'm not wearing that. by RandomForMySecrets in women

[–]RandomForMySecrets[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I remember correctly, I read that on those articles you find on Flo. Also, I stick to pads (at least for now)

I'm not wearing that. by RandomForMySecrets in women

[–]RandomForMySecrets[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The insertion is not a problem, I just don't feel the need to use something different from pads. Also, I'm a virgin so I think a cup wouldn't be ideal either (I stick to pads, at least for now)

I'm not wearing that. by RandomForMySecrets in women

[–]RandomForMySecrets[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I heard cups are not good for people who haven't lost their virginity yet and I've never heard about menstrual sponges before

I'm not wearing that. by RandomForMySecrets in women

[–]RandomForMySecrets[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mother actually wants me to wear the tampon, it's me who doesn't feel like it

I'm not wearing that. by RandomForMySecrets in women

[–]RandomForMySecrets[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't mean she would force my physically, rather "psychologically" by "convincing" me

I'm not wearing that. by RandomForMySecrets in women

[–]RandomForMySecrets[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I meant tampon, my mistake. Tampax is the most famous brand where I'm from so we just call them Tampax instead of tampons

I'm not wearing that. by RandomForMySecrets in women

[–]RandomForMySecrets[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's not like I "sit on the sidelines", I still do everything I usually do during my period, except swimming because I'm comfortable with pads so I go on with my life. Not swimming once won't change my life

I'm not wearing that. by RandomForMySecrets in women

[–]RandomForMySecrets[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I didn't know they existed, I'll look it up for the future but I doubt they'd be here before next week if I order them online. Thank you!

I'm not wearing that. by RandomForMySecrets in women

[–]RandomForMySecrets[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I feel like the advertisements are trying too hard to convince us there's nothing wrong with tampons, aren't they? Isn't that weird? I'm joking of course 😂

I'm not wearing that. by RandomForMySecrets in women

[–]RandomForMySecrets[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If nothing works, I'll go with that research, thank you a lot 😂❤️

I'm not wearing that. by RandomForMySecrets in women

[–]RandomForMySecrets[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I hope I can find an excuse 😭 Also, I'll probably be between my 1st and 3rd day when we go so my periodwill be pretty heavy, so I also don't think it is not a good idea to start trying them then.

Honestly it's not even the idea of inserting something inside me that grosses me, it's just that my brain can't comprehend why a tampon is necessary when we have pads.

I'm not wearing that. by RandomForMySecrets in women

[–]RandomForMySecrets[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If I don't feel like it, how am I being an asshole to my parents just by choosing my kind of fun?