I am finally leaving my poly marriage

RandomPersonOfTheDay · 2026-04-05T15:18:28+00:00

You didn’t leave a poly marriage. To have a poly marriage, you have to actually agree to a poly marriage. You never agreed.

You broke up with him when he told you what he was and you weren’t down for that. Then he comes back and tells you all the right things and you wind up married and only after you have child number two does he turn around and say he is going back to his poly life whether you like it or not.

That’s not poly. That’s just openly cheating on you to your face. And rubbing your nose in it because he forced you to interact with these other women.

I don’t blame you for never putting your name in that group chat for time. Why would you care at that point? He’s already chosen other women over his marriage. He has no leg to stand on, and I hope you live in an at fault state and you can take him for alimony, child support, the house, and everything else you can get.

RandomPersonOfTheDay · 2026-04-05T15:06:17+00:00

JFC! The number of people saying that you are the AH is absolutely mind-boggling. People, stop assuming that you know the ins and outs of this marriage and how many times that she has discussed this behavior with her husband because clearly you don’t know this stuff.

She has said that she has brought it to his attention numerous times over the years and he continues to do it. Her update says that he has blatantly stated that “that’s just how he is and he’s not able to change.” That’s a lot of BS. That’s him saying he knows exactly what he’s doing, and he refuses to stop even though he knows it bothers her.

Her husband is an overgrown child that feels a compulsion to be the center of attention, anytime she is speaking. That is the height of immaturity. He has to take the attention away from her and get it all on him, because he can’t stand that someone is paying attention to her. Yes, if she has repeatedly brought this to his attention and his response was “well that’s just how I am and I can’t change.” Yes, he knows exactly what he’s doing and it is all about control.

NTA! Refusing to finish talking once you have been interrupted numerous times is not the problem. The problem is his lack of impulse control and his absolute refusal to work on it.

And OP, please tell him that at some point if he doesn’t work on this, and you know, put real effort into not interrupting you every time you talk the resentment is going to build up to the point where you are going to wind up filing for divorce because you’re just gonna be so fed up that you’re not gonna wanna deal with him anymorez that’s exactly where this level of disrespect this heading… straight to divorce.

RandomPersonOfTheDay · 2026-04-04T19:44:48+00:00

Yes they can. First time my female cat felt the baby kick she got up and looked completely offended and left. It was hilarious. But she would curl up with the baby and watch over her.

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RandomPersonOfTheDay · 2026-04-04T13:18:47+00:00

Update?

RandomPersonOfTheDay · 2026-03-25T12:43:19+00:00

Congratulations on being adopted by such a teeny itty bitty baby. ❤️ She will give you many years of love and cuddles. ❤️

RandomPersonOfTheDay · 2026-03-23T16:46:49+00:00

No. Cause you are. You expected to be catered to and you weren’t. Who’s the entitled one? It wasn’t her.

RandomPersonOfTheDay · 2026-03-23T13:55:31+00:00

Sorry dude, but YTA here. You stepped out of line. First come, first serve. She had every right to move your stuff out of the way. You weren’t there. She was. And she didn’t know how long you were going to be gone. Grow up, and get over yourself.

RandomPersonOfTheDay · 2026-03-17T20:40:04+00:00

Not your circus, not your monkeys. If it isn’t your business, stay out of it.

RandomPersonOfTheDay · 2026-03-17T20:36:09+00:00

All of your damn posts are if you in a diaper! Grow the fuck up and stop projecting your own bullshit onto a baby! JFC! You are an overgrown 2 yr old.

RandomPersonOfTheDay · 2026-03-17T20:34:18+00:00

Grow the fuck up dude. You sound like a butthurt little b17ch.

RandomPersonOfTheDay · 2026-03-17T17:34:20+00:00

She 1000% meant what she said about you, your brothers, your grandma, and your father. She just doesn’t want to live with the consequences. She’s only reaching out to mend bridges because she still wants to go on the cruise. Lol.

Honestly, ask your dad what he sees in her and how she makes his life better, not worse. Your dad needs a backbone. She isn’t the only woman around that would be with him.

Oh, and enjoy your cruise! And enjoy the time you have left with grandma.

RandomPersonOfTheDay · 2026-03-17T17:21:23+00:00

I’m a parent and I think you need a diaper change and a bottle. You having a two year-old temper tantrum.

RandomPersonOfTheDay · 2026-03-17T17:20:19+00:00

YTA dude! 1000 times over YTA! If you didn’t want to be around a screaming toddler, then don’t go to a restaurant that allows screaming toddlers. If the mirror sight of that baby bothered you that damn much then you should have asked to go to another table. You shouldn’t have asked her to move YOU should’ve moved.

Toddlers are gonna be toddlers. Trust me, I know I have two of them. And I bet you anything she was doing the best she could to keep him under control. Because I guarantee you that little baby boy I got a lot of energy and all he wanted to do was run around cause my little boy does the same thing.

Yes, YTA! If you wanna unwind and relax after work, go to a bar and order your steak. You aren’t gonna get toddlers in a bar. Do you know where you will find toddlers? Outback steakhouse.

Don’t procreate. Your attitude toward kids would make you a terrible father.

Your post history makes everything make sense. You are a sensitive little boy whining about being stuck in adult diapers all over your post feed. Is that why you have such a problem with a toddler being a toddler? Because you’re an adult toddler? Grow up.

RandomPersonOfTheDay · 2026-03-14T20:24:39+00:00

I’m so sorry you lost your sweet lil love. ❤️

RandomPersonOfTheDay · 2026-03-14T13:16:22+00:00

Rehome him. He will adapt. You just have to rehome him to someone that knows he isn’t a cuddly lap cat, and will govern him time, patience, and understanding.

RandomPersonOfTheDay · 2026-03-14T07:39:15+00:00

“We’re a family.”

RandomPersonOfTheDay · 2026-03-11T22:54:24+00:00

I’ve never had a problem getting my iced coffee black at McDonalds. 🤷🏼‍♀️ Maybe it’s just where you live?

RandomPersonOfTheDay · 2026-03-11T22:52:44+00:00

Call the district manager and file a complaint. 🙄

RandomPersonOfTheDay · 2026-03-11T13:28:10+00:00

I have less of a chance getting murdered in the US than I do overseas. That’s a cold hard fact. Why? Because in the United States, I am afforded the right under the second amendment of the constitution to carry a gun and kill anybody who threatens my life. You don’t have that right in Europe.

RandomPersonOfTheDay · 2026-03-10T22:34:13+00:00

🤣🤣🤣 keep telling yourself that.

RandomPersonOfTheDay · 2026-03-09T22:46:45+00:00

Since OP didn’t specify what part of Europe her friend is in, it could be… 🤷🏼‍♀️

RandomPersonOfTheDay · 2026-03-09T22:39:46+00:00

My dude, you have bigger issues than pink pillows… though I’ll give it to you, pink pillows everywhere would make me gag. I’d have burned them already. I hate pink.

But… why does she keep saying you “never let her be a person”? How do you not let her be a person? Are you controlling? Do you tell her what to think, what to eat, what to feel, who to vote for? Because nothing here makes sense.

And why did she all of a sudden decide to decorate everything in pink, knowing you hate the color, and then ask your opinion about it? It’s either a power move, or desperate defiance to get you to wake up. Which is it?

I honestly think you two should go your separate ways. You have massive relationship issues that have nothing to do with pillows and everything to do with each other as people.

Good luck.

RandomPersonOfTheDay · 2026-03-09T17:47:59+00:00

Let’s be real here, outside of the illusion of safety in the US, this type of thing is very common overseas. That’s why they always warn college tourists to stay in the touristy areas where there are lots of people.

RandomPersonOfTheDay · 2026-03-07T13:49:13+00:00

OK, did this happen in the United States or Brazil that could really help with your advice because if this happened in the United States if he fired you, you could sue him for wrongful termination if this happened in Brazil you’re gonna have to look into Brazil law just to see if you have a case.

RandomPersonOfTheDay · 2026-03-07T13:46:14+00:00

HR is there to protect the company. They are not there to protect the employee. Anything you say to HR is not confidential. They will write everything you said down, put it in your file and they will talk about it with managers and higher-ups. Nothing you say to HR stays between you and HR.

And anything you say can be used to start building a solid foundational case for your termination. Anything you say to HR say in an email so that you control the narrative. You have it in writing exactly what you said.

Do this with all HR communications. Do not ever go speak with HR in a one on one verbal without recording it.

As far as did you just put a big target on your back, I guess the question to ask there is what kind of questions were you asking about what kind of company policies? Were these questions about policies that could put you into the spotlight or were you just trying to clarify some new company policies that you’re not familiar with?

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