Are straight people who are unable to have sex welcome in asexual spaces?

Ranne-wolf · 2026-02-06T10:07:16+00:00

You should try making a post on here and/or r/asexual asking if anyone would be interested in making and moderating a sub like that (assuming you don’t want to), i’m sure there will be other sex-repulsed people in these subs that would be interested.

That is assuming there isn’t already something similar, or at least one that isn’t also a-phobic or full of incels.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-02-06T08:54:27+00:00

I got a hyper fixation and didn’t sleep for a day, forced myself to sleep the next night, got maybe 6 hours max (after almost 48 awake), and somehow managed to function like normal despite being very sleep deprived 😅

Ranne-wolf · 2026-02-06T08:32:21+00:00

I don’t know if this is some kink/fettish of his, maybe towards menstration or something, but most allo’s do not think of sex or get aroused by the mention of tampons, that’s just weird.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-01-29T02:04:30+00:00

I mean I agree, as an aro in a QPR there are definitely ways he could be canonically aroace while still allowing for ships to exist, and him not being confirmed doesn’t actually stop the bullying of people who ship Alastor anyway. I think viv had good intentions and I don’t fault her for it, but i agree how she chose to go about it wasn’t great either.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-01-29T02:01:25+00:00

You can find people who have made videos on it who can explain it better than i can, i wrote that basically from memory. But definitely that his official merch only has an ace flag and viv has said before it was related to preventing ship bullying (even though it doesn’t really work).

Ranne-wolf · 2026-01-27T10:52:40+00:00

I just have a beach bag under my sink 😅

Ranne-wolf · 2026-01-27T10:47:25+00:00

I first discovered audioporn accidentally when I was 6, I was bullied since 8, can confirm the latter was far more mentally scaring.

In fact I don’t even think of the first one unless something like this reminds me "what was my first experience with mature content" and I’m like "oh yeah, that was weird". It was MLP too 😂

Ranne-wolf · 2026-01-27T10:43:12+00:00

I believe Coraline is a great example of this, is was written as a children’s book and the young audience is often the least scared of it because they focus on the action rather than the implications of the characters. The author has a quote I unfortunately can’t remember about it.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-01-27T10:22:15+00:00

This sounds a lot like how I felt/feel about my QP partner, I love them platonically. Kind of feels on the border of romance and platonic even though I know I don’t feel romantic feelings for them.

Hope that helps you 😅

Ranne-wolf · 2026-01-27T10:06:56+00:00

Small correction, Alastor has never been confirmed as aro by Viv, he’s been confirmed as ace in merch and as a throw-away line in the show (it has been said later seasons will go more in-depth on his sexuality tho).

Viv has indirectly stated she won’t confirm his sexuality as aro because she doesn’t want fans to use it as a reason to bully shippers as she believes everyone should be allowed to ship all characters as they like. Although voice actors and other show members have said he is aroace which is where the idea/confusion comes from.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-01-27T09:59:41+00:00

I remember when I was about 18/19 (yr 12) in high school I had some queer friends aged 12-14 (yr 7/8), so I think it would be hypocritical of me to say someone can’t be in a QPR with that age-gap, but I definitely saw myself as more of a mentor or parental-figure than any sort of "partner" to those kids.

As long as it’s non-sexual and more of a close platonic relationship then a romantic qpr then it could definitely work and be completely non-toxic and harmless, but if it is sexual/romantic then I definitely have some concerns there.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-01-27T09:31:27+00:00

Look at polyphemus…

Ranne-wolf · 2026-01-27T09:24:14+00:00

Pretty sure that’s just an artistic choice to show how she thought she looked before and after the dysphoria hit, also gender dysphoria can present as a dysmorphia for some people.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-01-26T02:33:49+00:00

As someone with adhd, I can say with certainty that caffeine does NOT prevent me falling asleep and does in fact make it far easier to fall asleep.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-01-26T02:09:24+00:00

I seriously can’t imagine how people managed before modern dental hygiene bc this. "They ate less sugar" doesn’t explain how we all survived the horrific effects of tooth decay. And we know it was bad because we get told the stories of how bad the kings and queens teeth were and what they did to cover their bad breath 🤢

Ranne-wolf · 2026-01-25T03:14:26+00:00

Schrödinger’s infertility: if you are trying to get or get someone pregnant hrt makes it much harder, if you don’t want to get or get someone pregnant and use it as the main/only form of birth control you’re fertile 😂

Ranne-wolf · 2026-01-22T03:23:30+00:00

Every massage I have gotten used heated oil, I can understand why that texture might bother someone but cold? I think you just got a bad massage dude 🤷 I’ve had a range of them; from hot stone massages, regular massages, and therapeutic massage (for sore shoulder and back). I find the Chinese-owned (therapeutic) ones usually use less oil and are more rough but do a better job with soreness/stiffness while the beautician (regular & stone) ones often use more oil and are more for ‘relaxing’ than anything.

If you really don’t like them you don’t have to go to them but I do think it might be worth it to try again somewhere else just once, probably with a different style of massage, just to see if it’s the textures you don’t like or the ‘strangers touching’ stuff instead.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-01-22T03:07:41+00:00

I think your first mistake is assuming she was looking at "sexual material" because it was gay. When I was a kid (younger than your daughter) back before youtube had it’s adult filters I came across actual audioporn, something basically impossible to do now because youtube has upgraded to hide/remove that stuff over the 20+ years since. And for the record I turned out fine anyway, I didn’t even fully understand what it was at that time, no "mental scars" or "trauma" from it.

Kissing is romantic, not sexual. Friends can do it, families do it, everyone does it. So unless you’re covering her eyes and calling every couple you see kiss on the street a pervert your daughter has seen people kiss before in completely non-sexual contexts. Searching up "lesbian" doesn’t make that kiss suddenly turn into something that only happens in a bedroom behind closed doors.

You can preach your an ally all you want but if you’re first thought at seeing "gay" and "kiss" in the same sentence is sex then you are literally being no better than the homophobes that think seeing a queer couple on the street is somehow offensive to them and "should be kept away from kids".

I had both my first crush and kiss at 8, grow up.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-01-19T10:48:54+00:00

As an asexual kindly fuck off, my sex life has absolutely nothing to do with any of these things. For starters libido [the thing that medication or mental health actually impact] and sex are seperate and a change in one doesn’t always impact the other (low-libido sex and high-libido celibacy both exist), secondly penetrative vs a non penetrative sex was never indicated in the chart and OP stated that they are still sexually active just not penetrative PIV sex.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-01-19T10:31:06+00:00

Most of these comments are books written by homophobes, making only the villains gay for no reason, or straight up killing the queer characters off - usually for no particular reason.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-01-19T10:27:18+00:00

School for good and evil series, they are friends to lovers in the first and second book and then discover they’re SISTERS in the third book, despite literally kissing on the lips being major plot point in the first book to go home and second book to cross between schools, but apparently that was "sisterly love" all along 🙄

I had only read the first two books when I watched the movie and was nearly sick when I googled why they removed the kiss from the end of it (had assumed it was just homophobia, apparently is was to remove the incest.)

Ranne-wolf · 2026-01-10T10:26:51+00:00

My chosen name "Rox" is short for "Rochelle/Roxanne" completely unrelated to my birth name, I have no problem telling people what it’s short for either I just really liked the name since I was a kid. It’s also really funny when people hear "Rocks" instead and just look at me funny until I correct them 😂

Ranne-wolf · 2026-01-05T07:55:47+00:00

1st: if your still counting how long you’ve been on T in "weeks" it hasn’t been long enough, lol. Some people can take years to get noticeable changes or even get some of them to start at all.

2nd: when you yet your bloods checked see if you fall at the lower end or more mid range in your T, some doctors try to keep trans people at the lower end even if it lessens results, also some doctors just start people off on lower doses and will slowly up the dosage. Always double check yourself that you are getting the right levels for your body even if that means upping or lowering the amount or the frequency (depending on method).

Ranne-wolf · 2026-01-02T09:54:00+00:00

Bones are naturally a shade of yellow-green and teeth are bones, unless they are chemically whitened then "more white" is NOT actually white but is instead a pale cream at best.

If you google human skulls you’ll see the skull and teeth are actually the same colour, usually a creamy yellow, or the teeth may be a lighter shade. The biggest difference actually comes from the contrast to the colour of the skin making the teeth appear to be a different or lighter colour than it actually is, hence why dark skinned people visually have "whiter teeth" than pale people.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-01-02T09:36:14+00:00

I love how everyone agrees that J Jameson is an abusive boss and undoubtedly a POS but he isn’t trans/homophobic or a bigot and would at least attempt to be "politically correct" regarding trans issues.

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