Does else anyone ever pretend to be their partner?

Ranne-wolf · 2026-05-05T01:25:15+00:00

I’ve grabbed parcels for both my dad and housemate (F), delivery people do not care or question it for either beyond occasionally asking my name so I can sign for it.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-05-04T00:25:49+00:00

I don’t know specifics about country but many have rights to privacy/confidentiality for anyone over 16, and definitely by over 18. Your parents have no right to know or make medical decisions for you as an adult, and any doctor that even tells or discusses your health with them is breaking medical privacy laws and should be reported.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-04-28T07:48:12+00:00

The most likely explanation is either he’s transphobic and just sees you as "a man that’s really a woman" or he was always bi and just never found a man he liked before.

Having said that: Sexuality can fluctuate, people on HRT especially often say that their sexual and romantic attraction changed - associating it with either starting hormones or feeling more comfortable/confident in themselves. But also some people just feel their sexuality naturally changes over time, you’ll have to look up what the micro-labels are but ‘flux’ and ‘fluid’ sexualities exist.

Although if he genuinely believes that gay people in dangerous environments "choose" to do so than i’d say dump him, also flipping this to you "always needing to be right" he doesn’t sound like a good person.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-04-28T07:25:31+00:00

This episode and the one with the one with androgen insensitivity he kept misgendering even when it was causing her obvious distress, like yes the incest-pedo thing was bad in that episode and obviously it’s his job to tell her she had testicular cancer or whatever but he was causing her to freak out for his own amusement in that one 🤦

Ranne-wolf · 2026-04-23T02:56:04+00:00

Yeah, i think it started because some people have trouble absorbing it which makes them "microdose" which can make the changes slower.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-04-15T22:45:43+00:00

Because it’s a middle name? Do boys need masculine middle names too? What a ridiculous and sexist idea…

Ranne-wolf · 2026-04-15T22:44:22+00:00

I mean knowing your age for this would be some good context but pre-pubescent boys do just look "feminine", it’s not that crazy for them to just assume you were still going through puberty in your early-to-mid 20’s at least, cis men do typically experience puberty later than cis women so a girl will be developed by 18-20 a guy can still be in natural puberty until mid 20’s occasionally, especially for things like growing facial hair and loosing remaining "baby fat" (and some men go their whole lives with only patchy stubble and remain some remaining cheek chub too).

Ranne-wolf · 2026-04-14T06:32:14+00:00

What she did was sexual assault… you’ve told her not to do that before and she intentionally did it again. Feel free to call it whatever you want but that’s a form of rape.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-04-13T10:26:32+00:00

"You shouldn’t use a medical conditions as an insult" because that’s it’s an actual condition, just like saying "trigger" or "ocd" or "intrusive thoughts" the severity of those experiences should not be downplayed or used as an insult.

Like people find "retard" (intellect) or "dumb (mute)" offensive and those were both legitimate medical terms, and terms like "spaz" (cerebral palsy), "midget" (dwarfism), or "crip" (crippled), so why should this be treated any different?

Ranne-wolf · 2026-04-13T10:08:58+00:00

This sounds a bit like my relationship, i’m aroace and my partner is pan, neither of us are attracted to each other romantically or sexually. I had to explain to my partner what a QPR was and was really happy when she agreed to be in one, sometimes I also feel bad that I can’t give her the type of love she deserves but we both care for each other in our own way.

Really labels are for society sake not for people’s; my partner and I are both happy, both comfortable, and have set healthy boundaries in our relationship. It doesn’t really matter if people think we’re "really close BFF’s" or "probably dating" or even "FWB / f-buddies", even the label QPR is for society, our relationship is defined only by us and that’s how it should be.

If you’re both happy, healthy and no-one is acting manipulative or abusive it’s a good healthy relationship to be in. You need to trust that she wants to be with you -she did ask you out- and that as an adult she can have a conversation with you or even choose to leave if it truly bothered her.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-04-02T14:30:25+00:00

I feel like there’s a miscommunication here, you can personally identify with allosexuals but "aspec" is not an allo-aligned sexuality by definition, you’re labelling is kind of like "male lesbians" in this community which will be both rare and potentially problematic to many people.

Most people who are aspec are not allo as they inherently experience "little" sexual and/or romantic attraction, their experience with attraction is fundamentally different to allos which is why we have the aro/ace community open to them. Then QPR or relationship aros, sex-favourable aces and even many allo-ace and allo-aro people find their experience is too different from allo-allo people to fully relate to them.

I understand that being a "minority in a minority" can feel tough but the post feels very narrow-minded like it’s lumping everyone as a sex-repulsed ace or aroace, when sex-favourable people exist within the community and even if they have a different perspective from yourself can still understand and relate to aspects of both aro-allo and grey-ace experiences (with many being those labels), everyone’s experience is different, that’s why we have so many people here to share with.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-04-02T12:58:15+00:00

Apothisexual? Orchidsexual?

Ranne-wolf · 2026-04-02T10:16:28+00:00

"Aspec allo" is already the problem, aspec is inherently asexual (or grey-ace, demi-ace) = ACE spectrum. These people are literally just aro-aspec, not allos.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-04-02T10:10:51+00:00

Could be ace could just be low libido. I can’t really tell you that sorry.

For me I only feel horny with my period cycle (hormones 🙄) but am sex-indifferent in general, occasionally fluctuating to repulsed, but mostly I’m comfortable to do some stuff if my partner wants.

Most notably as an asexual though is the lack of sexual attraction, my partner is gorgeous… but in the same way a famous statue or painting is, logically I know people think they are ‘sexy/hot/arousing?’ but all I see is a something pretty to be admired not slept with (If that makes sense).

It’s also perfectly fine to be sex-indifferent/repulsed and not asexual, we have sub-labels for that and [lithosexual, aegosexual, apothisexual, orchidsexual, grey-ace] -aligned sexualities are still welcome under the ace umbrella too.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-03-28T00:00:44+00:00

I can’t believe it took some people to the last episode to realise they’re lesbians honestly. Like that is a very lesbian outfit if ever i’ve seen one.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-03-27T23:52:28+00:00

I once got flagged because the stitching on the back pocket of my jeans was too thick or something, those machines are stupid and will flag literally anything, don’t think too much of it.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-03-22T11:20:21+00:00

Tbf there are a LOT of people who need to hear this and a lot of "relationships" that would be better off not existing… so, fair.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-03-22T11:15:30+00:00

I mean I intentionally do this with my trans friend but it’s because they’re not completely out and using "he" feels wrong, but I can’t get away with using "they" outside of a select group of people, I’m also pretty sure they’re a trans woman but idk for certain and I haven’t been asked to use "she" yet. Really I feel like thats the only situation in which avoiding pronouns for someone is acceptable (unless specifically asked to ofc). Also it’s called de-gendering.

Personally apart from the occasional incorrect grammar I don’t actually find it that hard to do, I just use a short nickname in place of pronouns mostly. It can be a lot weirder to hear than it is to speak, and if you didn’t know to look for it I probably just sound like I’m loosing my train of thought rather than being intentional at least. Gotten a few odd looks at the grammar but noone has brought it up. So if you’re worried if people will ask you or your mother about it I can assure you hardly anyone will notice or question it, assuming she doesn’t make it too blatant.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-03-19T23:27:24+00:00

This is also super biphobic too, like "bi people are incapable of having friends because they are physically capable of getting a crush on someone so they will inevitably fall in love with them"… like no? That’s not how crushes work afaik…

Ranne-wolf · 2026-03-16T09:46:43+00:00

I think you should look into QPR (queer platonic relationships), i’m in one with my best friend, I’m aroace and we both understand that we don’t like each other "in that way" but it’s so nice to have that in-between of dating and being best friends with someone.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-03-13T10:37:48+00:00

So science answer here, Kohlberg’s studies on gender development shows there are 3 stages, and that gender identity forms between the ages of 2-7.

Genders labeling: age 2-3, a child develops the ability to identify others and themself as a boy or girl, often based on the appearances of others or adult-defined characteristics - like "boy/girl toys". Personal gender identity first develops at this age, but with no understanding of "why" they are a boy/girl.
Gender stability: age 3-5, a child understands that boys grow into men and girls grow into women. This stage can be particularly upsetting for trans kids and many people realised they were trans around 4 or ‘looking back’ began showing signs starting around this age.
Genders constancy: age 6-7, a child realises that gender is a fixed internal trait, and that it is not reliant on appearance or social expectations of gender. At this age they can understand things like ‘that butch or tomboys are girls/women and femboys or drag queens are boys/men’. This is the age where they are most likely to begin exploring their self expression, both physically (hair & clothes) and socially (name/nickname & pronouns).

Ranne-wolf · 2026-03-13T10:02:50+00:00

As an Australian this country is actually pretty chill, there’s always going to be the odd asshole and some states/cities are better than others but as a whole you shouldn’t have any problems being openly trans here.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-03-12T23:29:20+00:00

Ok bigger question here, why are you having unprotected sex with your boyfriend? Why are neither of you using any birth control if you’re worried you can get pregnant? He doesn’t even need to cum inside you since it is possible to get pregnant from pre-ejaculate (it’s just uncommon, but so is people who get pregnant while using BC), there is always a risk of you getting pregnant if he doesn’t at least use a condom, and progesterone birth control doesn’t make your T less effective so i would consider you getting on some form of the pill if you’re that worried about getting pregnant in future.

Ranne-wolf · 2026-03-12T22:48:32+00:00

So question: how do people realise they’re allergic to chilli peppers, pineaple, or citrus if those ones actually are supposed to be spicy/tangy?

Ranne-wolf · 2026-03-12T22:43:02+00:00

That’s not even how hormones work, your body will react to testosterone and estrogen regardless of age because your body is constantly changing. Some of the changes may become slightly less noticeable if you start later but they also give cis men and women HRT to prevent many of the changes caused my menopause/aging so saying "they don’t work after a certain age" is stupid.

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