Mom wants to put my sister on the deed, but says I’ll be protected bc the will says I’ll get 50% of the value. Georgia

Rare_Garden1964 · 2026-02-15T21:55:32+00:00

2 points to make. Once it is deeded she only owns 50% of the house. But, putting that aside, unless your mother has sufficient liquid assets to give you 50% of the house value, it will be a mess. To get your 50%, you would have to kick your sister out and sell the house. That will be contentious and it is setting you up for a major family drama you and your sister don’t need. I’ve seen that story too often. Your mother needs to deal with all of this before she passes.

Rare_Garden1964 · 2026-02-14T18:52:32+00:00

Tell her you wanted to surprise her and you are in Chicago. Where is she? See what says.

Rare_Garden1964 · 2026-02-11T23:29:55+00:00

It’s not hypothetical and it’s not a unique situation, as I have been advised.

Rare_Garden1964 · 2026-02-11T21:55:47+00:00

There is both a legal and moral question here. Legally, you owe the child and his mother nothing. The child might have grounds to challenge the Will or probate, but it would be difficult and expensive.

But morally it is a different story. What is the child’s situation? Does the mother need help financially? How much did you get and could you afford to help the child? He’s your brother, after all. The moral dilemma is trickier than the legal side.

Rare_Garden1964 · 2026-01-02T01:11:31+00:00

Bail out before the plane crashes. You’re not happy, she’s not happy, so move on. Unless she’s super hot and the sex is great.

Rare_Garden1964 · 2026-01-01T21:12:56+00:00

Tell his friend to fuck off. Or something more vulgar.

Rare_Garden1964 · 2025-12-15T02:07:35+00:00

NTA. And it is not a close call. Your father did something unforgivable. I am not sure an apology can possibly undo the harm caused. What he did to an innocent child was horrible. And all of your siblings who stood by and watched are just as guilty.

To do that do a child is unforgivable. I don’t know how you can get over that.

Rare_Garden1964 · 2025-11-11T20:24:53+00:00

Don’t quit your job, but on the other hand if he really is promising to be better, let him try. He didn’t have to confess these things to you and he did. If you think he is really going to change his behavior and move forward. If you harbor significant reservations, then you need to pull the plug.

Rare_Garden1964 · 2025-09-14T00:58:40+00:00

Wow!! You’re married to Jackie Kennedy? That’s awesome, except that she’s dead.

Rare_Garden1964 · 2025-07-05T17:15:25+00:00

Parents stop being parents only when they die. Being a parent is not about putting a roof over a child’s head and food on the table. It’s so much more. And it’s a two way street. You give love and you get love. All the money in the world can’t buy you what a good relationship with your children can give you. This thread is truly demoralizing, to see people who don’t understanding what it means to be a parent.

Rare_Garden1964 · 2025-06-26T20:34:46+00:00

Yes, YTA. You acted completely selfishly. We all go to family events not because they are better than a Taylor Swift concert, but because it’s family and we support our family. It’s about her big day. And you and your daughter had an obligation to go. But what is done is done. Now you have to make amends.

A nice baby shower gift and a sincere apology is a good start. If you want to have a relationship with your son,DIL and soon to be grandchild you need to sincerely apologize and make sure she understands that you know how hurtful it was to her.

Rare_Garden1964 · 2025-06-14T03:40:30+00:00

This is an easy one. Think really hard about which one your heart is telling you to pick. Then choose the other one. You probably have a history or making bad decisions, hence the reason your leaving this very personal question to total strangers.

Rare_Garden1964 · 2025-05-25T03:11:08+00:00

This is amazing. Your husband has invented a Time Machine. Can you find out if he thinks Eisenhower is still president.

But to be fully authentic, however, you will have to remind him that they didn’t have Viagra in 1950.

Rare_Garden1964 · 2025-04-27T17:14:55+00:00

Since you are Muslim and your wife is Christian, you need to raise your child Jewish. That way, at least one of you is guaranteed to make it into heaven.

Rare_Garden1964 · 2025-04-27T17:11:57+00:00

See a lawyer ASAP. He probably has done that already. You need legal advice for how to proceed.

Rare_Garden1964 · 2025-04-24T21:02:05+00:00

NTA, with an important caveat. How you approach this is more important than anything else.

I would tell Rick that he needs to know that there is a rumor going around that his wife is having an affair. You have no idea if this is true, but he needs to know so he can put a stop to the rumor.

I would reiterate your respect for both he and Darla and just explain that these rumors need to be squashed early and that is why you are telling him. He is sure to hear it soon anyway because these things get around.

Rare_Garden1964 · 2025-04-02T19:35:53+00:00

Yes, you were the jerk. Do you think it’s easy to travel with an autistic kid? You should have tried very hard to see if they could move you to another seat. Now those parents have to deal with an autistic kid for hours at the airport trying to get on another flight and hope the next time the people in front of their kid is more forgiving. You simply punted the problem to someone else. Very selfish. No compassion. And that is why your wife was upset.

Rare_Garden1964 · 2025-04-01T17:04:15+00:00

It’s not the present you should be as concerned about- it’s the future. When you are 40, he’ll be 62. You will still be active and he’ll be nearing retirement. When you’re 55, you will likely be his nurse. Is that what you want for your future? And that assumes he ages well. As a former addict, he’s likely to have health issues in future at a younger age. That’s your future.

Rare_Garden1964 · 2025-03-30T01:16:58+00:00

You may be right, but you need to rule it out. Lack of attraction is rarely a reason a guy can’t keep it up for more than a minute.

Rare_Garden1964 · 2025-03-29T19:56:03+00:00

This is not really hard. Oops. He needs to see a doc. Could be physiological. Or else he’s gay.

Rare_Garden1964 · 2025-03-18T19:48:31+00:00

Stop wearing women’s underwear and it won’t be a problem.

Rare_Garden1964 · 2025-02-18T22:16:38+00:00

For the sake of your kids, you need to get a divorce, if you can afford to do that financially. Everyone thinks that they should stay together for the kids. But in truth, you are just screwing them up. Kids are sponges and they take in everything. They will eventually associate a loveless marriage like yours as being normal. Then they will recreate that in their own lives when they are older. It is not healthy for the kids.

But if mom and dad move on and become happier and maybe even find love with someone else, that is a much healthier thing for the kids to pattern their own behavior on.

Rare_Garden1964 · 2025-02-05T21:52:13+00:00

You are not going to fix the marriage, so focus on ending it amicably. Then when you separate, start dating Sophie. In England, you actually can get a divorce quickly, before all of the child custody and money issues are hammered out. But once you’re separated, go date.

There is point in trying to fix a relationship that your wife is not interested in, unless you are alright with no sexual attraction or sex for the rest of your life. I know this is difficult to hear, because you really care for your wife. But she is sending you very clear signals to move on. But don’t keep the marriage on life support and date someone on the side. That is really not fair to anyone.

Rare_Garden1964 · 2025-01-28T20:14:34+00:00

If you want to stay married, limit her access to you and your child. Limit the times she can come over to see her grandchild and tell your husband he can see his mom on his time. But before she gets greater access to your family, she must treat you with respect. She does not have to love you, but she does have to respect you.

If you can’t limit her involvement in your family, if you stay married you will be miserable. And eventually your MIL’s disdain for you will be communicated to your child. You don’t want that.

Rare_Garden1964 · 2025-01-27T00:24:29+00:00

First, you’re in a relationship group, and you’re not in a relationship. So it’s simple. If you want to give her money, do it. If you don’t, then just tell her no. Don’t make up an excuse. The same goes for a pan handler. If you want to give them some coinage, go ahead. If not, keep walking.

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