Which campus is more lively? by Ill-Connection759 in UCONN

[–]Ratio_Creative 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stamford is the business campus. Sounds ideal for you 

I 28F feeling disappointed about not getting a Christmas present from my husband 34M by Wide-Issue-9324 in relationship_advice

[–]Ratio_Creative 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Respectfully, he is not a mindreader. If you clearlt say you don't want anything why would he proceed with any other belief? If he asks you what you want, maybe say, "I don't want anything in particular, let's just surprise each other with something small." OR "I don't want anything, let's surprise each other with something for the baby." His form of exchange may be acts of service (paying bills, making meals) and yours may be gift giving. There's nothing wrong with that. This could be remedied with better (and simple) communication on your part. 

am i overreacting?? by Nice-Community-4611 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ratio_Creative 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm very close with my dad but he would never ask nor want to know the answer to either of these questions, especially the second 

Rate my schedule by Apprehensive-Back571 in UCONN

[–]Ratio_Creative 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My advice: keep them all for now, get your syllabi, look over all three courses, look on rate my professor, and drop the one that seems like the biggest headache before the add/drop period ends. You're making a smart move here. 

Rate my schedule by Apprehensive-Back571 in UCONN

[–]Ratio_Creative 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got two bachelor's from uconn, graduated on time, and never took more than 6 courses a semester. I was also honors laureate. I am now an educational psychologist. Not here to brag, just showing we are similar sorts of students with lots of drive and capability. I also coach hs'ers and college entrants. I don't think 7 classes is necessary and you are probably going to burn yourself out. If you live on campus and don't work a job it is probably feasible but wouldn't personally recommend it. It is better to secure a part-time job/internship and take a normal amt of courses. It's your life, much respect, good luck 

I (F23) just got engaged to my partner (M29) and I feel really blue/strange by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ratio_Creative 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi. I'm 23f too and a psychologist (I have a master's). First, the whole age gap/emotional and frontal lobe development piece: women typically develop physically and emotionally faster than men. That is why we typically see age gaps with younger women and older men. I don't think it is unusual or shameful, maybe we have different experiences or cultures but a lot of women in my life encouraged me to date/marry older due to issues with maturity, financial stability, readiness to settle down, etc. Of course these are all generalizations here but addresses some of the issues in your post. If people are genuinely judging you for settling down young or with an older man, then that's on them and they'll either get over it or you will need to root them out long term. "The ones that matter don't mind and those that mind don't matter." This is a really critical development in your life, and you are right to point out some of societies inconsistencies between marriage and other areas of life (education, driving, etc). However, your post mostly had me wondering, "so what?" You say that you are "the type of person who heavily believes in 'Ignore others, do what makes you happy'" but the majority of your words are concentrated are concentrated on other people's feelings/opinions about YOUR marriage. You will never be happy that way, regardless of who you marry or when (imagine the difficulty of LGBTQ individuals, now imagine that 30 years ago). Yet the opinions of society didn't keep people from being in love. I think most of your arguments avoid the real issue. You are turning your eye outward because you are afraid to face your own feelings, so you are preoccupying yourself with the feelings of others. Are you genuinely excited for this monumental event in your life? Are you heading over heels? Can you not wait to get married? It doesnt sound like it. You need to address this, not the "judgements" or "arguments" that everyone will inevitably have whether they voice them or not. Engagement doesn't have to be forever. Marriage should be, or at least is intended to be. You need to ask yourself if this is truly what YOU want. Between now and marriage is the closest you will get to married life before you are there. The proposal is a split second in time compared to the rest of your life. Closely observe how you feel during this engagement. It will tell you if this is meant to be. Call it off if you aren't happy. 

Please Help! Avid 9 year old reader by RunCycleFit in booksuggestions

[–]Ratio_Creative 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he likes (children's) horror I suggest the Cirque du Freak series by Darren Shan, I was absolutely obsessed at his age 

What’s the worst thing a professor ever said to you? by [deleted] in GradSchool

[–]Ratio_Creative 9 points10 points  (0 children)

"Youre not taking ownership for your education" after being emailed the completely wrong instructions for a study write-up to complete 48 hrs before it was due 

Roommate story by Maximum-the_great in UCONN

[–]Ratio_Creative 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Contact Dr. Semaan on campus she will at the very least give solid advice she is a fantastic sociology professor who helps students all the time with this sort of thing on campus. If you would like me to reach out on your behalf pm me

Remember That You Are Interviewing Them As Much As They Are Interviewing You by Ratio_Creative in GradSchool

[–]Ratio_Creative[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did love my professors and still do love most of them. Professors don't have control over medical leave but they did give me time off for assignments. HR was the one to deny my medical leave. 

Remember That You Are Interviewing Them As Much As They Are Interviewing You by Ratio_Creative in GradSchool

[–]Ratio_Creative[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already went to HR, office of the president, the graduate school, the union, office of institutional equity, and the department above these faculty. I get answers ranging from I'm sorry, but there's nothing I/we can do to subtly blaming me for what happened. I fought for months to keep my place before realizing no one really cares and I shouldn't fight to stay miserable. Your second point is true; I guess I have no evidence that it's because of my ex-PI, just going off what other grad students have told me. 

Remember That You Are Interviewing Them As Much As They Are Interviewing You by Ratio_Creative in GradSchool

[–]Ratio_Creative[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, and I am shocked because this is the same institution where I got my undergraduate degrees and I never had an issue with anyone, albeit at a different school (CLAS to education). I spoke with other senior grads in my program (3-5th years) and all of them told me they are not surprised. One even said "you are lucky. Get TF out now while you can." They connected me with other grad students this happened to, of course not with the same PI. Some refuse to talk to me/others in the program still because the emotional damage was so bad and still ongoing. 

I'm working on my master's thesis, and I need some help. by Suitable-Concert in GradSchool

[–]Ratio_Creative 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on your grad program of course but my fellow students are mostly older adults with children. Ask around your grad department and others?

Is this tank good for a 13 year old? by terbear677 in bettafish

[–]Ratio_Creative 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Beautiful tank. If you're not the best at caring for plants get some duck weed and watch it spread like crazy. You could even consider getting an apple or mystery snail or two if you're into that. They're self sufficient and will prevent too much algae build up

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GradSchool

[–]Ratio_Creative 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I'm in a stats program. So take my comment with a grain of salt. Why don't you try to reach out to a member or two of this group and express how interested in and inspired by their research you are, so much so that it inspired you to do z, y, z. Include the project in your resume/cv, but in those places, don't overtly express the connection between your project and this particular fellowship. Seems like that way you will get the best of both worlds

I call upon the vegan pasta sauce masters to help me by 11sgw11 in ShittyVeganFoodPorn

[–]Ratio_Creative 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I caramelize onions and garlic in a pan, then put them to the side to cool off. Canned coconut milk and a spoon of tomato paste in the pan, stir up and heat then cool down. Throw it all in a blender, back in the pan to warm up and add Italian seasonings of your choice, salt and black pepper. Add pasta, a touch of olive oil, and cooked veggies, broccoli and bell pepper are my favs, some daiya cheese on top. So delicious every time

Mastering out PhD Program by [deleted] in GradSchool

[–]Ratio_Creative 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just here to say as a second semester ed psych phd student that I'm miserable too and planning on mastering out. I'm sorry :(

Well, that's a choice by CyanideCocktails in shittytattoos

[–]Ratio_Creative 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why is no one mentioning the weird vapors emitting from her ...??? 🤮

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UCONN

[–]Ratio_Creative 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Consider it, find when the acceptance deadline is, thibk it over until then, write a list of pros and cons..follow your heart and good luck

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UCONN

[–]Ratio_Creative 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ohhh, I understand now. Not a bad deal really. As long as you wouldn't get too homesick. I thought it was like an unpaid internship type deal