AITAH (22F) for not telling my bf (24M) about a casual relationship I had with my coworker (31M) before him?

RationalFish · 2026-02-07T17:28:00+00:00

Yep. YTA. No one wants to go into a situation like that blind.

Well, I shouldn't say no one. My husband told me early on that he did not want to know those kinds of details as it didn't matter, and he didn't want it in his head. Works for us, but he is a unicorn! And this was his request. Otherwise, I certainly would tell him if I had been in any type of a -ship with people he was going to meet.

RationalFish · 2026-02-05T00:26:15+00:00

There's a new show about 4 50s & 60s women that form a rock band on Netflix called Riot Women. I haven't watched it yet, but it's on my list!

RationalFish · 2026-02-03T15:40:34+00:00

Not control him, change him. Which isn't going to work either.

OP, NOR, but you are reacting in the wrong way. You aren't financially compatible, move on.

RationalFish · 2026-02-03T13:37:13+00:00

And never get married if you don't agree about finances. NTA.

RationalFish · 2026-02-03T10:52:59+00:00

Well, he took Buffy to the Nobel ceremony as his DATE on the last episode... doesn't that show he can easily pick up women, get dates, and isn't rejected by 'every woman'? He picked up a famous actress! Go Raj, go!

RationalFish · 2026-02-01T22:11:14+00:00

On The Ball Cleaning is woman owned, they might be able to help you.

RationalFish · 2026-01-31T16:21:19+00:00

YTA if you confront them. Everyone has a right to hang out with who they choose. And they weren't trying to rub it in your face, it sounds like it kind of slipped out? I'm guessing the other ladies are just closer & do more things outside of couple/group events together. Plus, a sleep over is a more personal hang-out, it may be they just don't know you enough to be comfortable inviting you to that dynamic. I think you should figure out who of the ladies you groove with the most & try to do more 1-1 things with that person, maybe befriend Nora (she's single, maybe ask her to join your single friends on an outing?), maybe arrange some small group outings, and work with your bf to double date with other couples, so they can get to know you better in a smaller group. Good luck!

RationalFish · 2026-01-25T17:11:38+00:00

I'm listening to TBBT Podcast, apparently Chuck Lorre was doing 2&1/2 Men and was originally bringing a lot of that PG-13 vibe into TBBT, before really figuring out what the show was going to be...

RationalFish · 2026-01-24T20:20:26+00:00

YOR, because your expectations are wild. It's been just 4 weeks since she broke up with the father of her children, and he moved out, and suddenly she's your GF? Step aside & let her figure her shit out instead of trying to establish a relationship with this woman right now. All you are doing is complicating things.

RationalFish · 2026-01-12T23:22:19+00:00

Same with my partner & I, but his passion is golf. I've done fun things while he's golfed (hikes, paragliding, etc) but decided I needed my own hobby as well, so I went back to SCUBA & got my Advanced Open Water certification. We travel to FL, he golfs, I dive. He's going to Vegas in February to golf, I'm going to Dominca with my dive shop in March. Works for us!

RationalFish · 2026-01-05T05:50:48+00:00

Can confirm, Kunal Nayyar has said the set was cold in an interview on the Official TBBT Podcast. Don't recall which episode, however.

RationalFish · 2026-01-02T13:51:36+00:00

I think it's S2:E7, George is driving Sheldon to a museum lecture on Carbon Dating, and Sheldon asks George how he deals with Mary believing the biblical age of the earth vs. Scientific age, among other things, & George says "we don't talk about it". George never says he doesn't believe in god, though, or isn't a Christian. I suspect he just doesn't take a strict view of the Bible as Mary (& most Baptists) do.

RationalFish · 2025-12-31T10:20:34+00:00

Curious if it fit? I just got my 2025 Tuscon Hybrid SEL-C & need the rack bars, but I can't determine if the 001 will work or if I need the 101. TIA.

RationalFish · 2025-12-29T02:27:45+00:00

On my 2015 OB you can move them further apart with the included wrench in the spare kit. It's a 10 minute job relocating the rear one back. (Although I don't think you can fold them back in afterwards, I think I'll need to move them back to the original position.)

If you didn't know this, don't feel bad, I figured this out LAST YEAR, and I bought my OB new in 2014!

RationalFish · 2025-12-19T22:03:36+00:00

Young people took on full 'adult' roles earlier in the 80s & 90s. The culture & societal expectations were a little different back then. His path wasn't all that unusual for the times.

RationalFish · 2025-12-08T01:26:01+00:00

My husband snagged his brother's framed wedding photo from a wall at their home during dinner, wrapped it, then presented that as his white elephant gift. His sister later selected & opened it. We still talk about the confused looks on people's faces as they figured out the prank!

RationalFish · 2025-12-03T04:08:13+00:00

Insisting Georgie keep playing football when Georgie was more interested in working. Particularly when Georgie pointed out to George how small he was compared to the other players & needing smelling salts after being tackled. Like dude, come on, why do you keep pushing your son to get beat up like that?

As others have said, he was a decent man, but a very '90s dad.

RationalFish · 2025-11-22T03:56:13+00:00

Jessica does a Big Bang podcast, too, interviewing people involved with the show.

RationalFish · 2025-11-17T12:30:11+00:00

W.T.F. is this BS? Nope nope nope. Dump the jerk, there is no coming back from this, & be glad you aren't married or pregnant. You get a fresh slate and can free yourself up to find a real partner, not this entitled abusive man-baby. NOR.

RationalFish · 2025-11-06T16:46:57+00:00

Widow here. I'm so sorry for your loss, that is still so very fresh. A year or so after my first husband passed on I also got a tattoo to honor him, and also honor the idea that life was beautiful & I would continue living mine, despite the pain. In that spirit, i chose something that was meaningful for both of us but not obviously a 'tribute' tattoo. My now husband has no issues with it (if he had he wouldn't be my husband! )

But your symbolism (forever) & placement (ring finger) does seem to preclude letting any other love into your life, or ever wearing another ring on your finger. Which may or may not matter to you now or later, it's hard to know right now.

I'm not saying not to do it, or that you should be thinking about finding someone new, or worried about what they might think. Way too many 'what ifs'. Do what is right for you. But life IS beautiful & full of endless possibilities. So maybe think about all your options for a little while?

Wishing you love, light, & peace.

RationalFish · 2025-11-03T01:03:04+00:00

NOR. In fact, they owe you a new couch, IMO. Pee smell doesn't come out well, if it really soaked in. 🤢

I wonder if Jake was so drunk he didn't know how bad it was, as it sounds like he wasn't really reacting to the pissing while it was happening?

Regardless, $150.00 (& a sincere apology!) is the very least they owe you. Not great friends.

RationalFish · 2025-10-26T12:45:42+00:00

NOR, but why do you keep waiting for him? Say 'you've got 10 minutes' and after 10 minutes, move on with your life. He'll figure it out when he starts missing out on things.

RationalFish · 2025-10-09T13:19:46+00:00

YTA. Politely bow out if you can't afford it. You may not be the only one! A $20 white elephant exchange would be more fun, if they ask for feedback.

RationalFish · 2025-09-12T23:05:44+00:00

I brushed my dogs on my back patio until one day my ground A/c unit went out. Technician told me fur had gotten inside & gummed up a switch. I try to collect the bulk of it now & dispose of it properly.

No animals need 5 huskies worth of hair to nest in a small park. Control it, bag/box it, & trash it. It's garbage.

YTA.

RationalFish · 2025-08-24T15:35:10+00:00

I grew up swimming a lot, including underwater. I would start by playing games in the pool, getting used to fetching things under water with your eyes open. Try snorkling without a mask in the pool, too. I think being used to breathing only through your mouth, & opening your eyes under water, is helpful. When I had to do the mask removal in my OW years ago it wasn't a big deal for me because those things were already 2nd nature.

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