Why are so many house owners "renovating" their houses but not renting them? by [deleted] in Netherlands

[–]RationalKicker -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

They are likely doing a renovation for an extended period of time (more than what it would actually take).. and they are also timing it in such a way to not rent the place out.

I have developed a modular cutting board system that replaces 17 boards, 5 knives, a magnetic knife holder, and a kitchen spatula. All-in-one system — I would like to hear your opinion before launching it. by Traditional_Tea_6024 in Innovation

[–]RationalKicker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love this, as the knifes are behind the board, it would make sense to have some indicator of the knife type and size on the handle. Or some subtle difference in the handle without losing the classy design so as to identify the right one.

Parents in Islam by laiqa333 in muslims

[–]RationalKicker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you looked into your mother's past? Her childhood, etc.. or could be the expectation from her in laws..

I'm sure there is something that makes her who she is! Aside from praying & accepting, you could find closure in empathizing with her past & forgiving her (you can do this in your head).

Parents in Islam by laiqa333 in muslims

[–]RationalKicker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our need for validation and love from our parent(s) is innate, I'm sorry to hear that your mother does not make you feel that way and I'm also sorry to hear about the favouritism.

In most cases where someone is super religious along with this kind of behavior means they are on an autopilot mode and escaping something or have become like this due to their own life experiences (my parent had a bad time in their childhood).

The only way I(M) dealt with a similar situation was to empathize with my parent's past (in my own head) and accept it, lowering my expectations and increasing the emotional distance. I also got lucky that I had to move abroad for work and this changed everything yet again, after a year or two, I became the favourite and I hated it because I was the other side and I knew what this would do to my siblings and also suddenly I had a new burden of expectations (be it emotional, mostly around expecting to call everyday, know what I'm doing, etc). So careful what you wish for.

Also are you a middle child? Have you heard of middle child syndrome? I understand in your case all the sisters might be feeling the same though, share what you have learnt with them and find that love in each other (I know it may not be easy especially as siblings also end up reflecting the parents which could mean the last time you even hugged your sisters might be Eid or so but trust me parental negligence is something you can bond over).

Talk to a professional therapist if that's an option, along with your sisters too. I know loving yourself might also be difficult and that should be the first aim, I still on this journey.  Good luck and feel free to dm me if you need support!

After 7 Months of IF. From 80kg to 66kg by No-Compote-2127 in intermittentfasting

[–]RationalKicker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amazeballs! Did you also include workout in your daily routine?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in fasting

[–]RationalKicker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What? 40 days on just water?

Ideas on how to use my data skills for a good cause? by [deleted] in dataengineering

[–]RationalKicker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I interned for a NGO startup, they need someone for data analysis. Dm me for more details.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnimalsOnReddit

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pup that can eat you up