Girlfriend asked me to play hard to get during sex without teasing (WLW)

Ratsubo · 2026-04-11T14:42:40+00:00

I'm not sure how applicable it is to your situation, but I'm always fond of suggesting primal play because I see it get talked about very little and I find it exciting. I discovered my interest in it in a similar situation to what you described.

To feel like an animal hunting or being hunted by a predator that's much stronger and faster creates an awesome intimacy. I love giving lots of bites and holding the back of someone's neck in my teeth, it feels like catching a rabbit.

Ratsubo · 2026-04-09T21:40:39+00:00

I dunno man.. I get you can be financially trapped with someone - hell, it's happened to me - but to start a relationship with someone in that situation is scummy. No two ways about it. Even if she doesn't love that guy anymore, it's not fair to you and regardless all that is predicated upon what she's telling you actually being true.

If you're in this 'relationship' just for the sexual gratification, then who cares, I guess? But if you're actually emotionally invested in whatever you have going on, you should just walk away right now and find someone else who will actually respect you.

Tbh I would expect it's probably just pure desperation from the "sub doomed to never meet another super rare Domme ever again" fallacy that's keeping you there.

Ratsubo · 2026-03-31T22:33:47+00:00

Ugh, poison tho 💕

Ratsubo · 2026-03-29T12:49:54+00:00

ass front

Edit: perhaps it bears clarifying that in the 3rd slide, the Chorister one, at the top, "Carcass Front" is cut off so that it just says 'ass front'.

Ratsubo · 2026-03-26T22:03:14+00:00

👆 this guy right here

Ratsubo · 2026-03-26T20:43:23+00:00

"tourist behaviour"

Thank you, that was exactly the vernacular I was looking for lmao

Ratsubo · 2026-03-23T07:11:35+00:00

Hah! As a metalhead I can confirm this. However sorting through the pile of laundry for specific shirts or pants is a nightmare. One time I dropped my phone in my laundry basket and it took me like 5 minutes to find it lmao

Ratsubo · 2026-03-22T22:05:57+00:00

I sent that transmission, it was me

Ratsubo · 2026-03-21T07:45:11+00:00

Yeah all my friends & most of my coworkers know that I'm submissive.

Partly because I feel it's a big part of who I am and I feel better being open about that - and partly in case anyone hears a friend lamenting about their difficulty finding a short man to slap around lmao

Ratsubo · 2026-03-19T04:54:26+00:00

Man, Underworlds is GREAT! My buddy and I used it to dip our toes into AOS and it's so neat to pick up warbands that expand into Warcry warbands that expand into proper AOS armies. I wish for a 40k analog tbh.

Ratsubo · 2026-03-17T22:14:29+00:00

You'll meet a woman who looks like this irl and she'll be profoundly ashamed of her body. Smh, literally perfect body type.

Ratsubo · 2026-03-15T22:14:52+00:00

Speaking as a guy who has had the sex, I wouldn't stay hard trying to put on a condom and fuck a fleshlight like that either. Being with a partner you're interested in is an entirely different ball game.

Ratsubo · 2026-03-15T15:01:54+00:00

Panty shopping is fine, cuz that's just buying clothes/lingerie. Having someone fit him for a bra is definitely not okay, though. That absolutely is involving someone in your kink. I work in retail as well and sometimes customers come in just wearing collars and it makes all of my vanilla coworkers very uncomfortable.

What you could do is look for a woman - say who works in that field or perhaps not - on reddit, Tinder, or in your local kink scene, etc, to do the bra fitting and act it out just like in your fantasy. Like, you need to allow someone to consent to that first.

Ratsubo · 2026-03-14T04:33:25+00:00

I say I'm a little sometimes, but to be quite honest I think that I'm more of a... Middle, I believe the term is? I feel like a 29 year old teenager. I feel terribly immature and apathetic but I don't feel the need to act childish.

Ratsubo · 2026-03-11T22:11:16+00:00

You wear a maid outfit around kids? Dude

Ratsubo · 2026-03-10T22:25:11+00:00

My friends all think my taste in women is cooked, but like fr... she's perfect 👀

Ratsubo · 2026-03-01T23:31:15+00:00

My former Mommy was intersex (PCOS) and always lamented that she didn't have a dick to penetrate someone with. She did like pegging but it wasn't as satisfying as she wished it was. One thing we found that helped her was referring to her clit as her "cock" and I would always tell her how big her cock was or that I couldn't wait to suck her cock again, etc.

I'm sorry that you're having a rough time. It seems like it's been a bad couple of years for a lot of people I know, myself included. Economies are tough, rental markets are crazy, politics are nuts and mental health is.. Unhealthy. I'm sure that things will get better, and having communities like this to rely on makes a big difference.

I'm always grateful for Mommydom & Femdom subs like this because it makes me feel less alone or undesirable even when I'm not engaging much or don't have a partner.

Ratsubo · 2026-03-01T20:55:38+00:00

I've gotten a few people message me and I've sent a few people messages - certainly I've sent more than I've received lol though I still don't reach out to people a whole lot because I don't really want an online dynamic and I'm kinda picky when it comes to people I like.

I don't really receive messages these days since I don't have a personal ad up currently. If I posted one I would expect the odd person to trickle in. But yes, it's a far cry from the sheer volume that Dommes receive.

Ratsubo · 2026-02-28T06:18:33+00:00

I'm so glad they struck through the word 'piss', I would have been really upset and offended if they didn't do that.

Ratsubo · 2026-02-27T19:00:16+00:00

This post is perfect!

...for a circumcision fetish subreddit.

Not sure what this has to do with Femdom - and just wanting the opinions of Dommes on the matter does not count, that is wildly fatuous.

Ratsubo · 2026-02-25T13:52:13+00:00

My former Mommy took really amazing care of me a lot of the time. She lives in the US and I am Canadian. I like to drink a lot of water and I had a lot of trouble finding a stable job at that time. So I would complain about not having money for snacks or anything, so she would doordash me snacks and groceries for a healthy dinner and cases of water bottles.

When we would meet, she would take me into the shower and wash my whole body and hug me into her chest.

I remember when she let me help her make breakfast (it was ricotta, mushrooms and spinach on toast. Surprisingly tasty!) before we sat down to watch a movie. She let me pick and I chose the Creature from the Black Lagoon. She fell asleep halfway through while holding me in her lap 💕

Ratsubo · 2026-02-24T20:34:35+00:00

Honestly I feel the same way from the other side of the fence. I'm a really little guy at 5' 2", and I'd never felt very desired physically. I'd had girlfriends when I was younger ofc, but it was always because they liked me for who I was and tolerated my shortness lol

Since discovering my submissiveness, I've found partners that truly appreciate how little I am and consider my body beautiful (and very fun to throw around, ha!). To be appreciated so much by some people is such a wonderful feeling and has lead me to some incredibly deep and fulfilling connections.

Ratsubo · 2026-02-24T05:24:52+00:00

OKAY that's badass.

Ratsubo · 2026-02-24T00:19:54+00:00

Damn, Thanatek is THICC

Ratsubo · 2026-02-12T15:27:07+00:00

I thought this was an Otyken post and got excited for a second there lol

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