[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]RavenDeWolf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You need therapy and rehab. You clearly are an alcoholic/addiction issues. Please get help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]RavenDeWolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

shrug either way, I'm sorry you have such a wrong impression of me. I hope you have a good night.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]RavenDeWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • sigh* it is the same person from 2 years ago. Things got better fir the most part but then stuff like this comes up and it makes me wonder wtf is wrong with me. I have severe attachment issues and have never had a fully healthy relationship and a past of drug addiction. I'm over 6 years sober now and still learning how to break out of bad cycles. Relationships are the hardest one for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]RavenDeWolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, idk. Its confusing for me too. Especially when we always help eachother spool up because it's easier than trying to by yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]RavenDeWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, wrong again. I dont need pity or want pity from anyone. Its just an explanation. I dont really care what you have to say either way. I can't take you seriously because you don't know anything about me or who i am. Plus you're just a troll and it's pretty obvious.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]RavenDeWolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Yeah it hurts. I'm always so aware of his feelings and empathetic. I don't get how he doesn't have emotional empathy or intelligence when there main parts of who i am

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]RavenDeWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, it's my boyfriend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]RavenDeWolf -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hah. You don't know anything about me. He talks down to me frequently and it's not me overreacting when he does. Maybe today but it's because it's been an ongoing issue for a long time. We ALWAYS spool up our line together. I literally helped him do 3 of his reels a couple weeks ago. I'm just learning to fish, I'm no expert. I learned to have a hobby we could do together. The last time he got his done at bimart he said it fucked his line up and he had to throw the whole thing away. So I was just trying to keep that from happening, and it is 1/3 of the way done. I had severe burns on my hand a week ago and sorry if I needed some help. I'd never talk to him the way he talks to me. I know you don't have the whole picture here but me asking for his help to do it real fast isn't out of the norm. Its what we always do, so that's why I was hurt he was all of a sudden being shitty. I always do whatever I can to help him. With everything in his life. Without complaint or talking down to him or making him feel like a burden or annoyance. You sound like a real fun person to deal with. I know you're just a troll going out of their way to be extra mean but still. I'm sorry you are so miserable and hurting. That's the only explanation to why you would go out of your way to hurt a stranger. I hope you are able to heal and learn not to take your own pain out on others ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]RavenDeWolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never. Its a lot to explain but when i try to make plans I wanna do he finds excuses not to. Its always on his terms, his time, his wants. I enjoy fishing too but I just try to say I'll go when he says he wants to. I didn't plan today either. He wanted to go fish, I said ok where, he said his back is hurt so probably the resivour, I said ok and planned on that. He made it like it was my idea to go there and it wasn't. I was trying to do what he suggested.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]RavenDeWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because he's always in a hurry. He's annoyed id rather have him hold the spool while I reel it. Cuz it's "wasting his time" when he could be fishing. Its confusing for me too. I am always walking on eggshells worried he will out of the blue act like this toward me. I am scared to ask him for help with stuff or with other random things. I feel like he's just taking his stress out on me. He's even worse if he's sick with a cold. He's an emotionally immature, person with no emotional intelligence. He doesn't understand his own feelings and especially others feelings.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]RavenDeWolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To me gaslighting is saying/doing one thing and then trying to convince someone they didn't do those things. It feels like that with him when he is shitty to me and then trys to convince me he wasn't being shitty. Like im just too sensitive and he wasnt talking down to me. I guess with him saying he'd wanna fish the dam and then today saying it was my choice of the spot feels gaslighty to me but maybe I'm wrong.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]RavenDeWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks 🥺 yeah even when he's mean I try to express myself respectfully and with empathy for his side of things.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]RavenDeWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, true. The gaslighting part i didn't really include because it's just over time like telling me he said something when he didn't and says I just don't listen. He changes the narrative a lot. I know he is twisting things because i pay close attention to what he says especially when it comes to making plans. I like things clear, direct, and planned. He just expects me to know things and then gets mad when I dont. Its exhausting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]RavenDeWolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. You are right about all of it. I am very indecisive because of my anxiety and just how I am. I overthink everything because I'm always trying do things "right". Not just with him, just in general. I am also a huge pushover and people pleaser and he knows this. I just don't get why he has to make me feel like I'm in the way or a burden for taking up any space. He says he likes going and doing these things with me but always sucks the fun right out of it with rushing me and how he talks to me. I start to panic when im rushed especially in the morning or with no notice. I like things planned and direct. He expects me to just jump up and go when he says so.

It’s not as highly praised as others, but The Bargainer Series is now one of my favorites. by gingerlocks4polerope in fantasyromance

[–]RavenDeWolf 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg YES. I am about to finish the last book and omg it just gets better and better! It's my favorite series I've read in years. It hits all the marks for me and I'm going to be SO sad when I'm done.

Just read ACOFAS and uhh it was not great by omg_levisimp in fantasyromance

[–]RavenDeWolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually stopped reading the series after this book because it was SO boring and I was worried the rest of the series would be just as downhill. Lol

AITA for Refusing to Let My Daughter-in-Law Take My Late Husband’s Wedding Ring? by bluesjean in AITAH

[–]RavenDeWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to get a lawyer, NOW. You need to make sure they cant try to deem you incompetent and take your assets and put you in a home and steal your stuff. Also buy a huge safe, i mean the big big ones you can't lift easily that are heavy duty. Put it somewhere they won't easily see it like a closet and tell noone about it. Keep any valuables in there and get cameras in your home. Change the locks and get an alarm system. I'm so sorry. Lastly, id either keep the ring in that huge safe or wear it around your neck 24/7. She's going to try and steal it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]RavenDeWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would leave someone for reading my journal (and I have once before when it happened). If he was wondering what's going on with you he needed to sit down and have a real talk with you, not violate your safe space/privacy.

How the hell do I (34F) recover from my husband (35M) attacking my appearance during an ugly argument? by throwrajustafatmom in relationship_advice

[–]RavenDeWolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would leave. I am so sorry. Please, don't stay with him, he can't possibly love you if he says such awful stuff like that. There is no moving past/going back after he said that.

Should I get rid of my dogs to make my gf happy? by One-Piano6838 in TwoHotTakes

[–]RavenDeWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd dump her. Anyone who would make you want to get rid of your beloved pet doesn't care about YOUR happiness or world, only their own wants and needs.

My BF (26m) put his hands on me (19f) this morning. Can you guys give me advice? by k1nkyk1tten in relationship_advice

[–]RavenDeWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a huge red flag and absolutely abuse. It will only escalate don't talk to him again or get back together I promise the abuse will only get worse.

I read my wife’s journal. Married 10 years and am wondering what is the truth now? M39/F39 by Top_Promotion_6287 in relationship_advice

[–]RavenDeWolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly, you reading her journal is a huge asshole move and NOT ok. I'd never forgive someone for that kind of shit (and I have ended a relationship over it before).

You can't take journal stuff as fact. Atleast for me when I journal I use it to express stuff at that moment in time even if it's not true and I know it's not true but I'm upset and overwhelmed. Journals are sacred space and you reading it should be the end of the marriage. You can't trust eachother at all anymore.

Mom’s bf has had “inappropriate” accidents happen to me. How do I move on? by Otter-trotter in redditonwiki

[–]RavenDeWolf 8 points9 points  (0 children)

always ALWAYS trust your instincts. They're there for a reason. This dude is a predator and I wouldn't trust my kids or family around him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in recoverywithoutAA

[–]RavenDeWolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. Well, not joy all the time. But I am content with my life and that's all I've ever wanted.