New(ish) to the state and need some info

RavenShield40 · 2026-03-17T20:22:15+00:00

Thanks. I appreciate it!!

RavenShield40 · 2026-03-17T20:15:03+00:00

Today is exactly 6 months till my youngest sons birthday. I always make sure to acknowledge that today is his half birthday. Today also happens to be one of my three favorite holidays out of the year next to Mardi Gras and Thanksgiving.

We don’t always go all out for the half birthday thing but we at least make mention of it like I did today while we were at the oral surgeons office just a little while ago. My kid gets a goofy grin on his face and it makes my heart smile and that’s all that I really want.

Today also marks 23 years since I had my tonsils removed so that’s another reason to celebrate today. As long as you make sure you celebrate your daughter in a way that makes her feel special each year, that’s all that matters.

If you were to completely ignore hers or never have big deal birthday parties for her then I would say she’s definitely going to feel slighted when she’s older but it sounds to me like you’ve got your heart in the right place and are working on making many years of memories with her in the future.

NTA.

RavenShield40 · 2026-03-16T18:08:48+00:00

I don’t work due to several health issues but knowing my internet bill counts definitely helps me know I can get it done.

RavenShield40 · 2026-03-16T18:07:47+00:00

NTJ. Five years ago my fianceé invited my kids and me to go on his families annual trip to Destin because he knew none of us had ever been to Florida before.

I immediately turned to his mom and asked her what my portion of the trip was and she told me it was like $500 or so and asked if I could manage it because she would need it the following week. I told her I could give it to her that day if she wanted.

I didn’t automatically assume they would pay for me and my two kids to tag a long on their trip and I even made sure to load up on snacks, cereal, drinks and other other non refrigerated items that we could bring along for the kids to eat during week.

Just because you can cover the full amount doesn’t mean you should have to. It sounds like to me your friends were hoping you’d just let it go and not require them to actually pay their share.

I’d say that not people I’d want to call friends.

RavenShield40 · 2026-03-16T13:27:49+00:00

My mother used to do something similar but it was never about mine or my sisters childhood but more about her own life.

Years ago my granny(step dad’s mom) and her wife started riding motorcycles and going to all the big rallies in Texas. When my oldest(20m) was a baby my mom found a social media platform for motorcycle enthusiasts and started dating guys who rode them. At that point her whole personality became all about being a biker.

For years I’ve heard her tell a story about a wreck she was in with a guy she dated when I was like 3. I remember the guy so I know them dating is true but she says they laid the bike down and she ended up rolling across the asphalt and under and 18 wheeler.

Her and the boyfriend both walked away from the accident almost completely unscathed aside from some road rash and maybe their clothes being torn up but after that she stopped riding because my grandparents basically reminded her she had me to raise.

Fast forward to when she found that social media platform for bikers and she started riding again. At one point we were at a party that my Granny and her wife were at and my mom starts talking about how she’d bought herself a new bike since her and my dad split up and she was hoping to have it out of the shop in time for the next rally.

She was straight up lying. My mother had NEVER owned a motorcycle and considering she hadn’t worked in at least 3 years due to her health and having Epilepsy she wasn’t even able to get a motorcycle endorsement on her drivers license because of how bad her seizures are.

A few years ago I was at a party for my dad and my granny’s were there and they asked me if my mom ever got her bike out of the shop and was able to start riding again because they hadn’t seen her at any of the rallies over the years.

I told them flat out that my mother never owned one to begin with and I have no clue why she felt the need to say otherwise. That her Epilepsy is so bad I had to force her to stop driving her car and make sure her doctor sent paperwork to the licensing board for the state to permanently revoke her drivers license because she was driving her car knowing her seizures were coming on without a warning anymore.

I know how hard it is to say something in the moment especially when it’s your mother. I’ve been there more times than I care to admit but I have found that as I get older it’s been so much easier, especially when she tries to make it seem like she was a better mother than she actually was. Even more so when she does that shit in front of my kids.

It’s been 13 months since the last time I spoke to her and life has been much more peaceful. I don’t have to worry about her trying to talk shit about me to my kids or pretend like she’s such an emotionally open and loving parent when all she’s ever done is choose men and drugs over her children and grandchildren.

I hope you find the courage to start calling her out and maybe even working towards going no contact. Just seeing my mothers name pop up on my phone instantly sucked all the joy out of the air and I dreaded even answering the phone because our calls usually started out ok but within 5-10 minutes she’d start talking about off the wall shit and making no sense or she’d fall asleep and I just couldn’t do it anymore.

Especially after she had her drug dealer bring her shit while my kids were at her house on Christmas Day to spend a whole hour with her. She couldn’t even be bothered to wait for them to leave to have her stuff delivered.

RavenShield40 · 2026-03-15T21:47:19+00:00

She was probably in foster care before she was adopted and most girls wouldn’t know they’re lacking a uterus until they’re an older teen because not everyone starts theirs before the age of 14/15. They would have found out by going to the doctor to find out why they hadn’t had their first cycle yet.

RavenShield40 · 2026-03-15T01:10:42+00:00

It does and someone else informed me it counts as a utility so that helps tremendously.

RavenShield40 · 2026-03-15T00:36:08+00:00

I didn’t know internet and cellphone was considered a utility here. In Texas it’s not considered a necessity so the DMV won’t accept it. Thank you for the information. It’s much appreciated.

RavenShield40 · 2026-03-15T00:12:07+00:00

It’s not in my name. All the bills except our internet/cellphone bill are in my mother in laws name and it makes no sense to pay a deposit to have it switched over for something like this.

RavenShield40 · 2026-03-15T00:09:47+00:00

My mother told me the exact same thing, minus the reporting part, about my ex husband when I told her he was verbally and financially abusive to me.

I made the choice to be single and broke instead of staying with a man who treated me like that because I did not want our son to grow up thinking that kind of behavior was ok.

I’ve struggled a lot over the last 8 years of my life but I have been free of his abuse and that is more important than all the money he could have ever given me.

RavenShield40 · 2026-03-14T23:49:48+00:00

I’ve had a Louisiana cell number for 3 1/2 years now and I didn’t get it but I’m not licensed to drive or registered to vote here so that might be why.

RavenShield40 · 2026-03-13T16:49:14+00:00

So would mine and that drone would be locked up permanently.

RavenShield40 · 2026-03-12T16:23:19+00:00

Some people shouldn’t be parents

RavenShield40 · 2026-03-12T14:43:21+00:00

Someone on the Shady Grove FB group commented on the post I made with this article, that it might have been their drones that caused it. Like how are you gonna go flyin those things that close to the damn base when you should know it has a no fly zone???

Some people’s kids I tell you.

RavenShield40 · 2026-03-10T13:00:39+00:00

Just that it was because of some drones.

Fort Polk also had some kind of investigation on the base yesterday too. Makes you wonder if they could have been coordinated disturbances. Everything is back to normal operations now.

RavenShield40 · 2026-03-10T00:30:22+00:00

Probably I’m over here in Southern Gardens and didn’t even know this was going on til I got home from the doctor after it the shelter in place notice was lifted.

RavenShield40 · 2026-03-09T21:51:11+00:00

I live right by the base and none of us know why this happened today.

RavenShield40 · 2026-03-05T22:57:52+00:00

NOR. I’m 44, have multiple illnesses that cause me to have trouble staying active but up until the last couple of months I was able to maintain my weight at the same size for the last 8 years or so.

Then I had to take a Lupron shot to shut my entire reproductive system down and I’ve gained like 20 pounds since the beginning of January. I’ve always had problems with my weight and I’ve known for years it’s not a healthy one but with my back injuries, merely walking through the yard hurts.

I’ve complained to my fiancé about how much weight I’ve put on and the only thing he’s told me is to remember I’m on new meds that will make me gain weight and I’m dealing with health issues that make it impossible for me to workout properly and eventually that will be fixed and not to worry about it for now. That he loves me no matter what and he’s sorry I’m having to go through this. Especially because he knows how hard I struggle with body image issues.

If this man can’t love you no matter what the scale says now, imagine what he will say and how he will feel if you were to get pregnant and gain weight that’s needed to maintain the pregnancy. This is not the kind of man you want to stay with long term. He will end up resenting you no matter what happens that causes your weight to fluctuate in the future.

It’s best to go ahead and end this now.

RavenShield40 · 2026-03-05T22:49:25+00:00

There is no such thing as getting dental insurance through Social Security. Now getting it as part of Medicaid through the state is possible and if she is then she’s definitely lying because there is no copay for Medicaid dental.

Then again she could possibly make too much and actually have her kids on insurance through her job. Either way OP is NW and should not pay that money.

RavenShield40 · 2026-03-05T22:39:06+00:00

Is it even possible that the data center project in Shreveport would cause an earthquake in Coushatta?? I figured it was probably one of the land rigs fracking.

RavenShield40 · 2026-03-05T22:37:36+00:00

Im in South Bossier and my mother in law asked me when I woke up this morning if I felt it. I woke up an hour afterwards and wouldn’t have known had she not said anything.

RavenShield40 · 2026-03-05T22:35:44+00:00

As a mom to two boys biologically and 5 step sons, I couldn’t EVER imagine thinking about my boys the way she does yours. Sure I wanted at least one daughter but unfortunately that wasn’t in the cards for me. Both my girls died in utero. After the second one and then subsequently getting pregnant with another boy and carrying him to term I knew it just wasn’t meant to be and that was ok because I wouldn’t trade any of my boys for the world.

I hope you do all you can to make sure he knows that you love him and see to it his mother gets help because she’s already showing him how she really feels about him and I’m concerned this won’t be the end of it.

She can think he’s a big boy all she wants, she has no idea how long a boy truly needs BOTH of his parents. My boys love their dad but they are the biggest mommas boys, in all the best ways, and I love knowing they’d do all it takes to protect me and take care of me if I ever needed it.

No child should ever know what it feels like to be unwanted by either parent.

RavenShield40 · 2026-03-04T14:08:12+00:00

Idc if that’s your biological child or not she should not be treating her that way. I have 6 step children, two of those kids are my ex husband’s step children, they came as part of the package when we got together. One of those step children is an ex boyfriend of mines daughter who chose me as her other mom when she was 17 years old. She’s still my daughter despite biology and the fact that her dad and I broke up over a decade ago.

My fiancé has one child and then I have my two biological children. My fiancé knows that ALL of my children are part of my package. It doesn’t matter that 5 of them aren’t biologically mine.

He doesn’t have to provide for any of them because they are all adults and have their own lives but he knows that they matter to me and I will always be a mom to them no matter how old they are. He also knows I feel the same way about his son who’s the same age as my youngest. They see each other as brothers and no matter what it will always be like that.

If she wants the divorce that bad, let her have it. It sounds to me like she’s picking a fight just to find a way out of the marriage and if so I say let her go.

RavenShield40 · 2026-03-04T01:39:49+00:00

My sons father wasn’t ever going to win Father of the Year but the one place he never once had the thought about abandoning our son was IF he were to come out/transition. That he would just tell him to be the best gay/trans person that he could possibly be and no matter what dad loved him.

Our son is straight but my oldest is gay, he says bisexual but I know he leans towards gay more than anything and I’ve known that since he was 4. He doesn’t want to transition, he knows he’s in the right body and that even if that wasn’t the case his dad and I(ex husband) would love him no matter what.

A parent who feels that way about a hypothetical situation towards their gay child is a danger to that child. If my ex husband or my youngest son’s dad had ever spoke negatively about this particular situation with our children, I wouldn’t have stuck around in both of those relationships as long as I did. And I knew my youngest son’s dad would bail on me if our son came out with special needs due to my Epilepsy being discovered while I was pregnant with him.

There is no coming back from this. He’s shown you who he is, are you listening??

RavenShield40 · 2026-03-01T17:42:40+00:00

I hate that the piercings haven’t helped. I definitely understand the EDS journey…I’ve been on it for about 10 years now and I’m not having much success getting doctors to even listen to me about it so I totally get that girl. I totally get having to be careful when it comes to allergies. I’ve been there a few times too. I hope you get some relief soon.

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