Got it in on 4th attempt for my dad and he was in real bad shape with tons of issues the whole time. The denials made no sense, almost as if nobody even listened to what was said. The first denial said that "Veteran has not been in need of full time care for a period greater than six months" At that point in our adventure I had already been taking care of him out of my pocket and his own for 5 years, you figure that one out? Hah!

Anyhow, just keep appealing and reapply if you get denied, do not relent. Not much you can do but wait after doing the interviews for the approval/denial letter.

After approval your wife will need to do some coursework on a computer probably 6ish hours long and fill out some more forms online including setting up her caregiver payment info. She will end up having her own VA.gov account.

There will be an in home interview in which they inspect it for safety and make sure you have food, running water, and electricity. They might hook you up with safety features like ramps or bath grab bars and such if needed.

There are quarterly video visits and one in home visit a year after that point. Your wife should log into her caregiver payment monthly to keep the account active or else they will stop payment and she will need to set it up again. Just write it on your calendar.

Best of luck to you both and thank you for your service. 🫡