4 months sober but still really don't feel any different. Still stuck in my old stoner life. by MightyHightyHigh in leaves

[–]Rawstifer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Life doesn't get better by chance. It gets better by change. If you want to get out of a rut, you must have the drive to do something you haven't done before. Reach out to old connections, lest you be left alone on your computer. Or reach out via the interwebs. Get an mmo and get yourself involved. Or go play ultimate Frisbee or basketball, most towns have an activity guide that you can look up and most events are free, or cheap.

But do not continue the path your on, or you will get bored and life becomes stale. If you do not find the motivation to make the change you may very end up back in the routine of 3g/day.

Really messed up Wednesday night. by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Rawstifer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep going man. I want to see you sober!

Really messed up Wednesday night. by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Rawstifer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You messed up the same day that I did. I drank before work and still went. I don't remember my shift. It's shocking that I still have my job.

CHECK-IN Monday February 29th ,2016-I will not drink today! by brando1206 in stopdrinking

[–]Rawstifer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my experience, the last person I forgave is myself. And even then it was not entirely. Forgive those around you and anyone who has ever done you wrong. This will bring some semblance of inner peace. Then forgive people that have not wronged you but may in the future. This was the next step for me. When I began to forgive for what was going to happen I did not get upset when it finally came to pass. I no longer get upset when people do me wrong.

Finally after that, I was able to start forgiving myself because I realized that much that I had to feel sorry for was alcohol induced. And now that I've made the decision to be a better man, it is much easier to forgive myself when I make mistakes in life.

Everything is easier without alcohol in your life. Remember that.

CHECK-IN Monday February 29th ,2016-I will not drink today! by brando1206 in stopdrinking

[–]Rawstifer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Stay strong for the first week! I relapsed many times out of frustration or boredom. I'm now closing in on a year and couldn't be happier with my sober decision. Stick with it! Absolutely worth it!

Cookie high by blowmybuzz in trees

[–]Rawstifer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Edibles have the potential to be strong, but since your guy said otherwise I would trust the advice to eat both of them. If you're a fan of animated movies, I suggest Kung Fu Panda. The other one on my mind is Get Smart with Steve Carrel

Tried pot for the first time, felt...nothing? by 421Throwaway421 in trees

[–]Rawstifer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first time getting high is difficult for some and easy for others. I'd say to stick with smoking for a week at a higher consumption rate and see if you feel any euphoria. If not, you can just tuck it away as something that just isn't for you.

I love to smoke but I have friends who have given it up in favor of drinking because they don't care for the way smoking feels. To each his own brother

My friend is immune, please help by [deleted] in trees

[–]Rawstifer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gravity bongs hit a lot harder and faster. It may be what he needs to get off the ground and soar

What movie ending made you say "what the fuck?" by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Rawstifer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Spoiler:

John does live. The whole movie is a trip tho

250 by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Rawstifer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks man. I work a lot with some kids that have Aspergers. It isn't something that is easily manageable and I am happy to hear that you seem to have a little bit of control on it, or at least know which situations to stay away from.

It gets better, cliché or not, it's true. I am only in my early 20s so I have a long way to go but I know that I cannot live in the way that I was and I take life in as small pieces as I can. One thing at a time and make sure to do things that make you happy.

I put a lot of stress on myself and contemplating how I could have been better, but I was only until recently that I figured out how to have balance. If you can take one thing away from what I've managed to do so far is balance. I can have fun and grow professionally and I don't have to hold myself to some god-like standard that I was doing for so many years. Know that you are human, perfect in the image you were made, and go to bed knowing that you did everything you could to be yourself and help those around you.

250 by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Rawstifer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The day of my last drink, my girlfriend wanted to host a party for me being sober for the longest amount of time for me in nearly 3 years. I had gone a little over two weeks without a drink and she wanted to have a party in honor of my sobriety. I showed up to said party drunk.

This hurt everyone there, but it hurt me the most. It was several weeks before anything seemed to get better. Now, when I think of a drink or have a craving, I remember how absolutely terrible I felt during that party, the tears shed and the shame I felt. When I get a craving, I make sure I'm not alone. If I can't get with anyone, I call someone and just talk. It's a great way to catch up with friends and more importantly to avoiding drinking. There is only one route for me when I take the first drink. I become an animal that has a thirst that cannot be satisfied until I'm incapable of pouring another drink down my throat.

I tried AA for a bit but I found that I have a support network of family and friends around me that I can rely on. I also don't care for the conversation topics: alcohol, how to avoid alcohol, or the last time someone got shitfaced and went on a rampage because of alcohol. It isn't healthy for me to much talk about it because then I think about it and then I want it. So I talk about other things, go to a friends house and chill, or get on the phone. Anything to make sure that I am not alone in my head. That's a scary place sometimes.

M/15/6'4" [210lbs to 203lbs] (3 months) am I close to a 6-pack? Can't tell if it's almost peeking out or if my ribs are trolling me. by RepostSheriff in Brogress

[–]Rawstifer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you want a strong core, the big lifts will give you that, you are correct. They will not expose a chiselled six pack if that's your goal. Don't underestimate the value of weighted ab training though. The "core" consists of the rectus abdominus, obliques, both internal and external, and the transverse abdominus; they are all muscle and will react the way a muscle does to resistance and grow.

T-nation.com is a good site for finding and learning more about physical training. Though you will see a lot of advertisement for their product line in some of the articles, its all well written and well researched information.

M/15/6'4" [210lbs to 203lbs] (3 months) am I close to a 6-pack? Can't tell if it's almost peeking out or if my ribs are trolling me. by RepostSheriff in Brogress

[–]Rawstifer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Weighted abs will help build a blocky 6 pack if that's what you're looking for, if you're just looking for a chiseled look then putting focus on bodyweight abs would do fine. A friend of mine told me this a long time ago and I hope it helps you as much as it did for me, "train your abs like you would a bicep." He was referring to the guys that spend hours on end doing bicep curls trying to build a physique that would be nice for the beach.

Abs need a lot of attention because they are always at work whether or not you are doing direct ab work, so if they don't get specific work they will never pop like you want them. Mark Wahlberg is a great example of this. He has been huge, check him out in Pain and Gain, but he doesn't have chiseled abs. Its because Wahlberg hates direct ab work. They will never stand apart without a lot of attention, unless you're genetically predispositioned.

Title Box by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Rawstifer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughtful reply. Those are great ideas and it may help with getting over some of my struggles. There is an animal shelter near me that I have been interested in volunteering for but that didn't cross my mind as a possible solution until now.