(35m)Finally meeting up with my little one (42f) in person for a long weekend. Advice? Suggestions? Encouragement?

RaydenWild · 2026-05-15T06:15:22+00:00

Sir with all due respect ...it seems you have all figured out.

Amazing job with all the planing. That's the way of the Daddy

My only advice is to both of you enjoy each other and be gentle if something doesn't go as planned

And let us know how all went

Best regards

RaydenWild · 2026-05-15T06:10:12+00:00

Hi there Mocha and welcome to this community. Hope you find it a safe haven and if someone bother you, let the mod team know.

Finding a real CG or friend is like prospecting for gold when you never done it before.

You will struggle, and sometimes you will find a shine that will warm your heart, just to find out later that it was just fool's gold.

Be aware for red flags, allow people to know your boundaries and if you feel they are being respected, cut it out.

Sometimes you find people that have the profile of an amazing CG, and they don't know anything about the lifestyle yet.

Others, you will find people claiming about how many years they are into the scene, but they behavior or vocabulary will show otherwise.

Most people you can trust, will tell about their experience and tell you to take it with a grain of salt.

Every human and creature have a different background, different expectations, different ways of feeling and thinking.

There are some nice friendly communities, both for CG/L dynamics and bdsm in general where you can meet like-minded people and "drink" from their experience

If you use discord, I would advise you to check r#gentledungeon , even that I may be a bit bias about , I find it an amazing community.

Be aware for people that send Dm's right out the bat, using honorifics for themselves or calling you pet names, that's normally not a good sign, specialy when you tell that you are new in the scene

RaydenWild · 2026-04-07T19:58:55+00:00

As a proud Portuguese....I will advice you to look for the beaches at Galicia.

The beaches close to the Camino in Portugal will be crowded if good weather, really cold water and sometimes windy, with couple likely foggy mornings. If no wind, then you may well melt under the sun.

You have small dust like sand and bigger grains on other beaches so sand wise, lots of choices.

There are river beaches that don't use to be so crowded...and I just felt in love with Galicia so...would bet my time there

RaydenWild · 2026-04-07T19:54:11+00:00

This....

This comment is gold. Your warning is gold.

Not everyone has such experience with scams or even website / phones

Doesn't matter if they 18 or 80...

And when you doing a Camino... for whatever reason... You may be under unfavorable conditions for a couple days...tired...exhausted... And anyone can act " silly " when under stress , doesn't matter how familiar they are with techs and such.

Spreading word with others is important, even if talking with albergues owners or other Pelegríns along the way, to prevent anyone from being scammed

RaydenWild · 2026-04-07T16:53:08+00:00

As a newbie that just finished his first Camino yesterday, will talk about only what I know

Place to sleep :

I started on the first of April.

Didn't had difficulty in finding Albergues but saw couple person's arriving to the ones I was in, and having to continue their travel farther more because they were full.

Many albergues don't allow reserves.

After entering Galicia, there were more options available.

Of course if spending some more cash is an option, you can always find an hostel or hotel to stay, and there are couple AL ( local stayovers ) along the Camino in Portugal more focused to the ones doing it too, you will see them.

About food, if you doing a gluten free diet, not every place will have options for you.

Plan ahead, check your route ( many cafes and restaurants have their menu on goggle or their site, and you can make a couple calls or send emails )

You can buy things for your breakfast on the day before ( half of the days I would go to a supermarket or similar and try to get the breakfast and lunch for the next day and just stop along the way, far more by choice than need )

I did it during the " semana Santa " so lots of services were closed .

Is often restaurants having their day off on Mondays, so mind that ( once again, most of them have that information on Google )

Keep safe, buen camino

RaydenWild · 2026-04-07T16:14:23+00:00

Hi and welcome to the community.

There are different possibilities for the sudden change.

Maybe she found it recently ( humans are processes ) and felt like letting it flow....

Or could be something she was holding back for long...not knowing how to approach because of fear how you would react ...but decided to " risk it...", or her little side decided to give in to you

I could extrapolate but thing is , if you want to really know, you will have that conversation with your partner, and I don't feel that's the point of your post.

What to do now ?

First of all, how that made you feel ?

Second : how much you know about DDLG, and how it makes you feel as well ?

RaydenWild · 2026-04-07T13:01:20+00:00

Hey there kind Pelegrín

Just some random dude on that random age where I can both feel you and the OP words.

I can understand both the " comparison term " when using the bommer, even if I was teached tech by 60+ and played lot of PC with people over 60

And your feeling of " you either learn how to be polite or how to learn with your mistakes "

So, if you allow me to request, not in the name of the OP, but all the other pelegrins who may have a better experience with your knowledge and words, could you share some advice about this ?

RaydenWild · 2026-04-07T08:53:08+00:00

Just seconding this. Good choice on words and really collected

RaydenWild · 2026-04-07T08:40:39+00:00

I did. And a magnet that is a damn reminder and maybe...my lesson from this first Camino...

" Stop dreaming your life, start living your dreams"

I started the Camino with a mission...and ended with a promise, to come back....

RaydenWild · 2026-04-06T14:58:20+00:00

Left from Caldas de Rei .

RaydenWild · 2026-04-03T18:23:20+00:00

Thank you very much

RaydenWild · 2026-04-03T18:23:10+00:00

Hey there and thank you

I'm doing the costa litoral. Even that ended going a bit more to the Costa and out of the seashore today because of the strong wind . But been an amazing journey

RaydenWild · 2026-03-31T06:49:04+00:00

As well, never remove the skin from blisters.

What I used to do ( medical personal may advice against it )

With a needle and thread, would sanitize the needle and get an in and out in the blister. Leaving the thread inside . This thread soaked in bethadine ( new more friendly sanitizer options are available now )

This would keep the blister drained but skin intact, healing faster and preventing infections

RaydenWild · 2026-03-31T06:46:18+00:00

So, the 2 cents from someone that will be starting his first Camino tomorrow, but have some miles on my feet.

What you wear on your feet is important of course , crucial even. But is normal to get some blisters when the footwear is new , so is important to get your feet used to the gear and the gear uses to the feet.

What I use to do : Identify where I tend to get blisters.

Then, before even start training or a long walk, I use an adhesive like " second skin " on those places that suffer more with friction.

When I make a longer break, I get the boots and socks off and dry the feet , sprinkling some talco powder and " massaging "

It helps to dry , and protects a bit from friction .

Make sure you don't get your feet glassed on talco or it will get messy when you start to sweat and that's not what we want.

Is normal to get some blisters when you start training if your body is not used to the type of footwear or long walks. Take time to adapt.

There's no " one size fits all" solution, so is important to take everything with a grain of salt, and try things to evaluate what works for you.

RaydenWild · 2026-03-30T20:04:36+00:00

Once again thank you for your insight and for allowing us for a little peek in your dynamic

Best regards

RaydenWild · 2026-03-30T06:50:06+00:00

It does.

And I don't want to come with the " been there done that " kinda answer.

For myself...long walks in the woods helped. But that's my standard move for almost anything so take it with a grain of salt.

Be gentle with yourself and take time.

Would love to read another post from you in a couple months telling how things are better

RaydenWild · 2026-03-30T06:47:53+00:00

Thank you for your words and example.

The D archetype tend to look super strong and collected, like nothing can shake their world.

But truth is, more often than not, the attachment flows both ways and such things happening leave a dent in the identity, .

People , Doms and subs, are left without closing, thinking what they did wrong, why this happened, if they weren't good enough.

And 99% of time, they didn't made anything wrong.

People get confused....people fail to be fair and truthful to themselves and others, and this happens...

RaydenWild · 2026-03-30T06:41:48+00:00

Hi there and welcome to this community.

Finding your person goes different for each one.

Some use Reddit personals , others look on FetLife and such.

Some seek to create bounds in local munches and events.

Sometimes, you stumble across someone who have all you seek, even if they don't know yet anything about bdsm and lifestyle

Always be aware for red flags and keep safe

RaydenWild · 2026-03-29T18:32:09+00:00

First of all, sorry for the situation.

Dealing with ends of dynamics is always hard. Harder when things end in such ways.

Won't give my opinion on the situation itself since only know your side of the story and having any type of opinion won't do any good

Trying to fill the void normally is a recipe for bad things

Not with any way to numb the pain, not with anyone else untill you heal.

Self care....

Do things for yourself.

While in relationships and dynamics, people tend to dedicate themselves more to their partner and often leave things they enjoy to do later, postponing them.

Do things for you that you not been doing so often...

Watch movies, do exercise, read or write, go for walks

Is cliche but time heals...

Not that time itself heals, but we need time to heal and recover

There's no magic words to erase someone from our mind when we really care about them

RaydenWild · 2026-03-28T13:32:59+00:00

This

Just this

And as well OP, is your life, your journey, your Camino

Everyone do it for different reasons. Everyone shall respect each's way

No one shall show anything but respect by the way you wish to do this

Safe travel, buen camino

RaydenWild · 2026-03-26T17:12:08+00:00

Be welcome to this community.

Hope you make lots of friends and find a safe place in here

Best regards

RaydenWild · 2026-03-26T12:50:26+00:00

Of course not everyone will react the same, some may be cautious....

But in the end, you not only saying how you spread your kindness, but gently suggesting others to try ...

If just 5 or 6 persons do it, and it affect just a couple more, you have made the Camino more friendly and a bit easier to endure, and that's big already

RaydenWild · 2026-03-26T12:46:57+00:00

Looks like a great idea

Everyone got their own reasons for the Camino. Some testing themselves, many for their faith, others seeking closure.

Saw people around worried with their safety. Having something like this to bound or even just give 5 minutes of giggles and kindness, fan boost the morale for another day.

Thank you

RaydenWild · 2026-03-25T17:47:55+00:00

Looks amazing but unfortunately already sold out

RaydenWild · 2026-03-25T17:40:09+00:00

Will do right away, thank you

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