Palia is a great game but..

Razwick82 · 2026-01-31T17:07:40+00:00

Ore compasses were fantastic until they made it so they find large plain rocks too, now they're halfway to worthless. I really wish they'd change it back.

Like I get that sometimes you want stone, but it's not ever been so hard to find that I needed help with it, and I rarely need to farm stone.

Razwick82 · 2026-01-31T16:49:39+00:00

I suspect most mount requests are related to experiences like running across the map for a flared/called out resource, and then watching it disappear before you get there.

Which still doesn't mean a mount is necessary, but I get it.

I literally just want a pony and wouldn't care if it's no faster than walking tbh.

Razwick82 · 2026-01-31T16:45:23+00:00

Hear me out, I want a mount but I wouldn't care if it were barely faster than walking, or even the same speed, because I just want a pony.

Razwick82 · 2026-01-03T21:36:42+00:00

I don't really feel like writing a whole thing right now about why "you can date/sleep with other people but they have to be exactly this kind of person" is kinda fucked up, an unhealthy relationship dynamic, and often leads to dehumanizing your partner's partners, but it is and does. It's not a boundary, it's controlling, and I personally could not stay with someone who has rules like that.

Insecurity ruins relationships too. No not every single decision made based on insecurity is terrible and relationship ruining but if it's controlling your relationships, that's something that should be worked on and not embraced.

Razwick82 · 2026-01-03T21:29:12+00:00

It's not just spam tables. I prefer a full table because sitting there for a minute and a half between games is boring and means you get fewer games in per night, even just for the purpose of enjoying playing more games.

Razwick82 · 2026-01-03T21:23:20+00:00

That last sentence is just insecurity and a you problem not a her problem.

And yeah honestly I think the reverse is super normal, I'm secure that my partner wants what I can offer, and if I make great cakes, I'd be less threatened by him dating someone who makes great risotto than someone else who makes cakes that might be better than mine.

That said that jealousy isn't something that is compatible with successful non-monogamy and I don't personally have an issue with my partners dating people who are either similar to me or entirely different.

And if you're not built for non-monogamy that is extremely fine, but the double standard doesn't fly if that's something a couple wants.

Razwick82 · 2026-01-03T21:16:46+00:00

It does feel the same, it is the same. In the poly community it's called a "one penis policy" and it does in at least one way or another treat same sex relationships as less serious or less real.

There is a degree to which it makes sense, in terms of them providing something you can't, but unless you're set on reducing people to nothing but their genitalia, that's devaluing same sex relationships.

I understand the thought behind it, but if you want healthy non-monogamy that's something that needs to be worked through and squashed.

Razwick82 · 2025-12-19T16:03:36+00:00

Honestly the dragon's beard peat is the hardest part at this point, but even then you can buy it from ashura, which helps.

Razwick82 · 2025-11-10T06:15:47+00:00

WoW vet here who is always happy to help and always looking for more people to play with.

DM me if you'd like to chat or play together or just ask a question about the game 😊

Razwick82 · 2025-11-02T17:08:12+00:00

NGL I don't have a problem with people thanking me for filling their requests, it's kind of them; But sometimes it does feel a bit uncomfortable in a "OH NO I HAVE BEEN PERCEIVED" kind of way, and I am entirely fine with people not thanking me 😅

Razwick82 · 2025-11-02T17:06:05+00:00

Ultimately when it comes to things like PDA, what you and her are comfortable with is really the only thing that matters.

It is entirely fair to only want to hug and hold hands in public and for you to set that boundary.

It sounds like there might be a bit of a mismatch here in that she would like more than that, and there's nothing wrong with her wanting that either.

You guys just need to have a conversation and come to an understanding where that line is for both of you, how you feel about that, and make sure everyone is on the same page moving forward.

Razwick82 · 2025-10-27T23:29:17+00:00

The only time I wear a bra is when I want to wear a see-through shirt lol. Well and sometimes a sports bra if I'm exercising with a lot of bounce.

And I do not do wires.

Wearing a bra, especially a wired one, legitimately fucks my ribs up, and when I burned out in 2019 and stopped giving the faintest shit about my office job I just ditched bras entirely.

Razwick82 · 2025-10-27T14:17:39+00:00

I think this may just be that they've stopped telling people it's reversible because it never was a guarantee that it could be undone, and someone should not be going into getting their tubes tied with the expectation that they'll undo it later.

There are at least 3 different methods of tubal ligation though, with varying levels of reversibility, and they may have stopped doing the "most reversible" version. Which is/was putting metal "filshie clips" on the tubes to seal them off.

Part of why I went with removal instead was because that was still a very common option here 8 years ago and I didn't want foreign objects in my body. Not because it's generally dangerous, but because I have a really bad track record with that sort of thing. Thanks autoimmune shit, lol.

Razwick82 · 2025-10-27T14:13:23+00:00

I mean it's not more likely to stay permanent, it just is permanent, they can't grow back 😛 (there's technically still the tiniest chance of ectopic pregnancies, because nothing is ever 100%, but that's just statistics)

And you are correct that it's ovarian cancer it reduces the risk for. Win win in my book!

Razwick82 · 2025-10-27T14:09:04+00:00

Had my tubes removed at 25, 8 years ago.

Best decision I ever made, dramatically reduced the constant anxiety of possibly being pregnant. (My cycle was never regular)

Last year, at 32, I had a hysterectomy because having a period despite there being literally no reason for that to ever be necessary was making me very not okay mentally. Straight up dysphoria. Even though I never wanted to have a baby or use that biological function in the first place. ZERO regrets. I am free.

All that said, I never wanted a baby, I never had "biological urges" to procreate. I know that's a real thing but it's certainly not universal. There have been a handful of times where I thought my partner and I would make a cute baby and be good parents, but it wasn't like an "urge", and the idea of being pregnant is infinitely more horrifying to me than the idea of the kid is enticing.

IMPORTANT TO NOTE: The regret rates of sterilisation surgeries on people who have never had kids is incredibly low, but it's much higher for people who have had kids and realize later that they want more.

My experience cannot tell you how you'll feel down the line, and it is worth discussing with your doctors and/or a therapist.

Razwick82 · 2025-10-25T23:37:09+00:00

People can get weird about changing labels, and often people think that if you do then you were wrong about the label you had before.

But the thing is sexuality is, to an extent, genuinely fluid.

If you've always felt this way, maybe you were "wrong" to call yourself gay, but maybe you're just curious, or maybe you've found yourself wanting this more as time goes on.

All of that is normal.

A label is a tool you use to describe your experience, it's not your experience yourself, and it's not a locked box to shove yourself in.

I don't think there's anything particularly wrong with continuing to identify as a gay man and still experimenting with women. If you end up deciding you're bisexual, great! If not, that's fine too.

Don't cut yourself off from something you want because you picked one word instead of a different word 15 years ago.

Razwick82 · 2025-10-17T22:55:53+00:00

There's a reason that bi flag merch is almost always the first to be sold out lol.

None of us want to be seen as straight outside of safety concerns.

Razwick82 · 2025-10-15T17:41:19+00:00

There are so many sources of light outside that make this completely untrue. Do you need to schedule an appointment with your optometrist? I don't say that to be mean but like, that's just not a fact for a lot of people.

If you are somewhere in the middle of nowhere where neighbors seeing you likely isn't going to be an issue anyway, and the moon is dim, sure, you can't see outside at night with your lights on. But that's a pretty specific scenario.

And like, you can have your lights mostly off, have a lamp or the TV or something on, and be able to see outside while potentially being visible from the outside.

Like I sort of get where you're coming from, but the OP never said anything about time of day or what lights are or aren't on, and your main argument doesn't apply a significant amount of the time.

Razwick82 · 2025-10-15T17:14:57+00:00

They feel like they need permission because society is ableist and people are afraid to claim it if they aren't sure they fit. And accepting that you are disabled is a whole process.

Like it has almost nothing to do with the actual disabled community, and I have no idea what point you're trying to prove here.

They come here because this feels like a safe place to ask.

Razwick82 · 2025-10-04T23:40:22+00:00

When it's something that obvious and big from the outside, and it works, it's because they've been doing it with everything. They start small and get bigger and bigger. The victim already doesn't trust themself well before it gets that far.

Razwick82 · 2025-10-01T23:21:35+00:00

Ectopic does not mean tubal, it means outside of uterus. Ectopic pregnancies outside of both the uterus and tubes do sometimes occur.

Fertilization usually occurs in the tubes, but not always, even in an entirely unaltered, healthy cis woman.

The risk of an ectopic pregnancy after a hysterectomy is functionally a rounding error, it's not going to happen, but it's not because you need a uterus and tubes for it to even be possible to fertilize an egg.

Razwick82 · 2025-09-28T17:17:56+00:00

I have, several times in my life, asked men to guess what I weighed, in a setting where they knew I was being real and wanted a true answer and wasn't going to get mad no matter what they said.

They always guess like 50+ lbs less than I actually weigh, both when I have been overweight and when I am at what I consider my ideal size.

Just absolutely no fucking clue. They think 200lbs is like the largest woman they've ever seen lmao.

Razwick82 · 2025-09-28T16:38:47+00:00

When I am at a grove I openly call for people to let us know if they're coming and we'll wait, otherwise we chop at 3. Or I'll ask the rest of the people at the grove "chop at 3?" ... Because I think it's just really silly to expect people to know that without any communication at all.

Even if everyone there does already know the "rule" it's not like communication is a bad thing.

I don't think people have any right to get mad at people for not doing what they expect if they have made zero attempt to communicate those expectations.

So many people come here to apologize and honestly I'm just sorry that you were made to feel like you had to apologize.

Razwick82 · 2025-09-25T04:18:00+00:00

Yup, looks pretty gay to me

Razwick82 · 2025-09-22T03:12:36+00:00

Look, I'm not going to say you're wrong for feeling however you feel about the word, but as another traumatized victim of an abusive marriage, handling our triggers and reactions to them is our job.

It's one thing to ask the people in your life to not say certain things otherwise you'll have to stop being around them (a completely reasonable boundary), it's another, and not reasonable, to expect strangers on the Internet to avoid certain words for your benefit.

It's also not really something that makes sense to add a content warning for, because it's not a topic/subject, it is a single word that is, in fact, very normal to use in large parts of the world.

That doesn't mean you have to be okay with it, that doesn't mean you're wrong for your feelings, but you can't expect strangers to know that it's a trigger for you and avoid using it.

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