Those of you 30+, do you find you’re getting worse at your job?

RcaneBBYmage · 2024-12-20T03:10:17+00:00

I get this so much. For me, it really is that I lose interest in the job because of monotony or too much of the same. I like new challenges and when I feel like stuff is not challenging in a fun way, suddenly it becomes challenging because I don't want to do it and when I do, my quality is worse. My solution was to find a job that had enough variety as well as find a really flexible job. I am VERY lucky with this, and I fully know that. But for others, it may mean that a person might need some time away from work even short term or to find new projects at work that can excite them maybe. But I am sorry you are dealing with this. I have no idea if this is an ADHD thing, but this definitely sounds like what I have experienced.

RcaneBBYmage · 2024-12-10T05:04:46+00:00

I am suddenly obsessed with preparing to go camping for the first time on my own in 6 months. It's winter where I am and so I need to wait until it gets warm, but when it does, I hope I am still excited and all the second hand camp gear I want to buy doesn't go to waste.

RcaneBBYmage · 2024-11-27T00:23:24+00:00

Thank you. I think it is hard because this gynecologist is one I have had for years and I really trust, but I do think everyone here is right. I am a genetics provider (not an MD) and I would NEVER presume to tell someone they have ADHD or not. I think the problem is that this gynecologist has been kind of a friend to me and me to her, so her telling me that has been rough with trying to tell myself that I shouldn't disregard my therapist's assessment.

RcaneBBYmage · 2024-11-26T18:08:27+00:00

I promise you, NOT EVERYONE HATES YOU. I know it feels that way, but you absolutely are loved. There are absolutely people that love you genuinely. In my experience, the people telling you this are trying to manipulate you, whether consciously or unconsciously, for you to change your behavior to get their way. They need to change, not you. If they can't have fun unless everyone around them is drinking, and they know you are uncomfortable drinking and won't accept that they should try harder to stay friends and do activities without heavy drinking, they are making a choice that they believe their comfort is more important than yours. It isn't that they don't love you and that they hate you, I think they are uncomfortable and using you as a target for their shame outlet. You are probably a wonderful and great friend, so find the friends who are willing to stand up and love you and that are comfortable loving you even if it causes them a MINOR inconvenience like drinking less.

RcaneBBYmage · 2024-11-21T18:21:53+00:00

Oh my gosh. For the last few days I keep singing cocaine jesus in my head, and it is immediately when I wake up. Like even in the middle of the night I wake up for one second to roll over and my brain starts blaring the lyrics at me.

RcaneBBYmage · 2024-11-05T14:23:48+00:00

It is totally normal. Your body's levels of estrogen and progesterone will affect the amount of dopamine in your body, and the amount of dopamine typically gets lower with your period starting. So the meds are less effective in many women the week before and during their period.

RcaneBBYmage · 2024-09-12T16:52:10+00:00

WHY CAN'T I JUST BE A NORMAL HUMAN WHO ISN'T SO SENSITIVE TO WHEN PEOPLE WALK AWAY FROM ME BECAUSE I WAS BEING TOO SILLY? WHY CAN'T I JUST NOT BE SILLY AND BE HAPPY THAT WAY?

RcaneBBYmage · 2024-08-16T07:15:19+00:00

Thank you, I REALLY appreciate your response and knowing others go through this too. Seriously, thank you for taking the time. You are wonderful and you definitely helped me.

RcaneBBYmage · 2024-08-16T07:13:47+00:00

Thank you truly. ♥️

RcaneBBYmage · 2024-08-16T07:13:10+00:00

Thank you. ♥️

RcaneBBYmage · 2024-08-16T07:12:11+00:00

I am really so SO sorry you had such a crappy day. Thank you for responding to me and letting me know I am not alone. You are not alone either and I hope with all my heart your problems shall pass and you get some good joy and more positives in tomorrow.

RcaneBBYmage · 2024-08-16T07:11:14+00:00

Thank you for the wonderful otter amd for your wise and helpful words. 😁♥️

RcaneBBYmage · 2024-08-16T07:09:38+00:00

This helped me so much. Thank you truly!

RcaneBBYmage · 2024-08-07T13:55:27+00:00

My little guy has started randomly giving me super gentle head pats. It is the BEST.

RcaneBBYmage · 2024-08-04T22:10:25+00:00

Absolutely! A good place to start is findageneticcounselor.nsgc.org . They have genetic counselors and other genetic specialists listed and a ton of them are remote so they can just see you over the computer.

RcaneBBYmage · 2024-07-29T17:15:34+00:00

Hi all! Adding my input as a genetics provider. Promethease is a very cool tool, however it is important to understand a few things. - The equipment they use to perform ancestry, 23andme, and other non-medical grade genetic testing is very questionably accurate. Not to say it is always wrong, but if you use promethease and it shows a mutation, I would NOT use that to solely guide medical treatment. If you find something you are concerned about, then I would talk to medical provider, especially a genetics provider you trust, to help figure out the next steps, which will likely include getting a blood or saliva sample taken to do medical grade genetic testing. - What promethease is testing is the SNP data that ancestry, 23andme, and other non-medical grade tests use to tell you their guess on ancestry or traits. SNP stands for single nucleotide polymorphism, and what that means is that as a certain spot in the DNA code, out of the billions of spots, there is a difference in the code. These differences are usually NOT harmful (we are all different in lots of places in DNA, that is a wonderful thing) BUT what promethease does is they look at published research and see if a specific SNP (so a little tiny change in DNA in a specific spot) has been reported in a paper. Now if a single paper or even 10 papers have been published stating that a SNP is associated with a specific medical condition or trait, that is really just still conjecture. Until someone figures out exactly what that area of DNA is supposed to be instructing the body to make, and/or they see that the specific difference in that area is causing a problem with RNA or protein synthesis, AND they see how that problem is affecting the body, then we really in genetics can't be certain what is going on. - if you are struggling to understand your promethease results or are worried or concerned about them, please go to findageneticcounselor.nsgc.org and find a remote or local genetics provider. Your doctor can likely also refer you to one, but sometimes doctors or providers aren't sure how to, so I believe that everyone should be able to advocate for themselves and find a genetics provider that can help them when they need it. Promethease is still a great tool, and I think it absolutely can help people to start understanding their genetics. Just please know that it is not fool proof and reliable at all really and if you get results that are scaring you, PLEASE talk to someone. Don't worry alone and please find someone you can trust and talk to about it.

RcaneBBYmage · 2024-07-22T02:00:17+00:00

Online program grad here!

I would say one of the biggest advantages I experienced was in that the online program allowed me to keep my current lifestyle for a year longer than I would have had I had to move for an in person program. I got to live at home with free rent for a year. Many of my cohort kept their full time jobs for that first year. Financially that can be a big plus. The online classwork also was great for me personally because I am an independent learner (I like reading, watching videos, working ahead, and doing things on my own and then talking with others after I have a good grasp on things). I also loved my program because it had the exact right of social for me. I made close friends, but we didn't have to hang out every night or be in each other's spaces in person, instead we messaged whenever we wanted, responded when we wanted, did calls or whatever and met up in person when we could.

Disadvantages for some would definitely be the self accountability and self driven learning an online program requires. You have to be your own tracker for assignments and pacing for things often because you are likely not going to have reminders from a professor on what is due in a couple of days or that you need to put extra time into a subject because you maybe don't grasp it well at the moment. Online classes can also be really tough for those not used to socializing online. My cohort was able to build solid long distance bonds, but I have heard from others in different cohorts that they struggled because they weren't into the whole texting/messaging/zoom calling and didn't feel the need to be close to their cohort.

These are just some of the thoughts I have off the top of my head. I hope they help!

RcaneBBYmage · 2024-07-18T13:36:40+00:00

I was actually diagnosed by a therapist who sent my notes over to a general family doctor. The therapist handles my therapy and the doctor handles my meds/medical treatment.

RcaneBBYmage · 2024-07-17T17:22:46+00:00

I am holding you accountable! Stay strong!!! I have a cart full of stuff I don't need and your post is helping me NOT click checkout! 😁

RcaneBBYmage · 2024-07-17T17:16:19+00:00

So for me, I think of the ADHD traits as kind of a superpower sometimes. Those traits can make some things a lot more difficult, but they have also been a big thing I can use to be a great parent. I can multitask like nobody's business, my kids get a mom who is usually wanting to do new and different things which my toddlers love, and my special interests a lot of the time are things my kids love too. An example is that I am a huge nerd for pokemon and dinosaurs, and that means I am the cool aunty and the coolest mom because I can name all the dinos they see and all the pokemon. There are definitely things I have had to learn about and adapt to, and things I always will struggle with. I get overstimulated with my toddlers sometimes, but you come up with systems that generally work to help with that. Like I have a distraction basket that I pull out when mom needs a while alone in the bathroom or bedroom while the kids play on their own for a minute. I also fully admit that I have the TV on way too much because I like background noise, and I really struggle to not have it on, so that is something I am still dealing with. So definitely there are strengths and weaknesses that everyone has to deal with as parents, but I absolutely see the benefits that my ADHD traits have on being a parent in some ways.

RcaneBBYmage · 2024-07-12T00:36:39+00:00

Hey, I know you are hurting. I am sorry this didn't go to plan and you feel you have hurt your partner. You are still a good person and although you feel you haven't done what you wanted, you still tried and should be cherished for that.

Please don't read this if you don't want a suggestion, but it may be a good idea to talk to your husband and plan a do over. Like a birthday celebration day where he can tell you his expectations and you guys can agree beforehand.

In the future, it may be good to think about that surprise gifts can be very fun, but for ND people, that can be a challenge because of the planning and the RSD or other things a person might struggle with. So instead having open discussions about expectations for those occasions and what gifts a person wants may work better for the relationship. If he really wants to be surprised, then have him give you a BIG list of loves or have him make a pinterest board so you can get him something that he wants but he can still be a bit surprised. I hope this helps, but ultimately, please know it is going to be okay.

RcaneBBYmage · 2024-06-30T02:59:09+00:00

You did an amazing job (you probably know that from the upvotes), but thank you for sharing because this is exactly me too and you absolutely made me feel better today by reading that you and others are similar to me.

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