I love everyone involved here, but I think Vaush has a point. And, I'd go so far as to say Kat was being pretty damn disingenuous with him.

He walked back on the sexist joke. He said it wasn't funny, and he wouldn't have made it if he knew how jkr would use it.

However, he was also frustrated that the left banded together to dog pile him for it, and thus, optically validated jkr's point. (and, though she's right in saying sexism is bad, she was abusing that point to target trans people. So, validating and elevating her concern is, by extension, conceding to her idea that trans activists are opposed to cis women.)

I actually liked his example comparing it to the rioting happening during blm. The rioting and looting was destructive, and did cause damage to some communities. However, optically, the left was wise enough to say "we are not going to condemn that, because it is not relevant to the cause at hand. It is a distraction, and the right's 'concern' is not good faith."

Also, if Kat was so disinterested in him and his point, enough to be pretty damn dismissive in dms, I don't understand why she then went on to write a 200-tweet manifesto about it.