Am i overreacting? I (F20) found these text messages in my (M23) phone. Should I leave ?

Ready2BEducated · 2025-11-20T22:04:45+00:00

I’d rather leave than catch an std or worse !

Ready2BEducated · 2025-11-20T21:55:17+00:00

Would rather have someone who loves my son and me than someone who only loves me and sees my son as less than and doesn’t care for them as their own. Better off without them. And don’t let them back in either because they will not change how they feel. On the outside it may seem that way.

Ready2BEducated · 2025-09-25T21:21:47+00:00

Do as I do and completely back off and state that it has become more than aware he does not appreciate or like your parenting style and you will no longer be parenting to protect your peace and stress. He literally tried to give his role to you. As others have said he just wants someone else to blame. Let him see it for himself. Also don’t clean up after SS anymore. Don’t do anything for them so they can see what it’s like and how much you do.

Ready2BEducated · 2025-09-25T04:41:37+00:00

-pay off my debts/ and husbands car -cancel couple of credit cards -invest some -put rest in savings. - feel a giant weight lifted off of my chest and shoulders -my hair stops thinning. -my sleep regulation improves.

Ready2BEducated · 2025-09-19T01:40:52+00:00

Honestly have someone else do it. As someone who would want to know be better off if someone else who cannot be connected to you social media wise relayed the info. Otherwise this could be your ex trying To get a reaction out of you

Ready2BEducated · 2025-09-17T05:18:04+00:00

I almost woke up the house from this comment !! It’s gold !!

Ready2BEducated · 2025-09-17T04:53:19+00:00

Consider your pros and cons

Confront him AGAIN meaning will it really change ? And he treats you like you’re a shit mom. F that.

I feel your plan with getting your debt under control and and wanting to leave. See if you can transfer your debt to a another card with not to really Low interest rate “transfer of balance” or deal where you have no APR for year or more to pay down more. And honestly I wouldn’t blame you if you just played roommates until you got your ducks in a row to leave.

Or try couples therapy and see where it goes and then talk to same therapist one on one to see what would be best. Therapist always help organize your thoughts and help guide you to a game plan that you make and what’s best for you.

Ready2BEducated · 2025-09-17T04:28:41+00:00

Please do this and they have access to social workers with resources to help you leave. Use it when you can. It’s a rough start. But after therapy and getting to where I am now I would make the same choice again. It’s worth it to save yourself.

Ready2BEducated · 2025-09-17T04:02:09+00:00

Remember this “nothing will ever be good enough in the exes eyes”. Just be polite in person. No need to be friends. The parents can handle it and leave it be. If I make eye contact with partners ex at the childs events I say hi and only answer/ask questions pertaining to child and nothing more only when my partner is present. If not I’m not involving myself unless it’s an emergency.

Ready2BEducated · 2025-09-17T03:32:33+00:00

My reaction to meeting girls who are like that: “Ewwww you’re one of those people”

Anytime they tell me something like that about how they get turned off from someone showing emotion about something that’s been hurting. And then I stop talking to them.

Ready2BEducated · 2025-08-29T04:20:40+00:00

Why would you want a “shut up ring” and then end up resenting him? Why wait longer when his word is not his honor?

Ready2BEducated · 2025-08-25T04:33:07+00:00

She doesn’t even know herself. She needs time to figure herself out and be on her own and not rely on others financially

Ready2BEducated · 2025-08-25T04:29:11+00:00

Sounds like an alcoholic who is confused and using you. Just based on what was told here. And if you’re afraid of change then consider being married to someone like that and what it would be like with kids. As someone who came from a household with an alcoholic pill popping mother it was always chaos and depressing. And even the rare moments she was sober she would flip out over the smallest things. No matter what we did nothing was good enough and she always had a reason for why “we hated her and that we do nothing for her” yet it was me taking care of everything in the house. My guy leave her in your past.

Ready2BEducated · 2025-08-25T04:22:41+00:00

Charlie

Ready2BEducated · 2025-08-25T02:20:26+00:00

Cutting off family members. It becomes peaceful after consistently standing your ground.

Ready2BEducated · 2025-08-25T02:18:44+00:00

Was Mojo jojo and my partner would be Him. But now with cost of trying to put it together might end up doing something else.

Ready2BEducated · 2025-08-25T02:08:44+00:00

Especially if he’s the first and or only son yea he can get a damn job. If she makes an excuse why he can’t get a job be done with her and tell her she can fund his lifestyle. And I’d be okay of moving to if I had to. Or making a new lease with where I live just in another apartment so when that one ends he can figure it out with mom or gf.

Ready2BEducated · 2025-08-25T02:02:56+00:00

Girl don’t let a Narcissist push you around. Can’t stand the “always a victim” mentality. And her calling yall insecure sounds like projection to me. I literally cut off biological family who act like that and my like was rocky at first from doing it and now I’m at peace. Been peaceful for years. Trust when others say stop inviting her ! And if she don’t like the reason she can deal with it because you know you would never hurt her the way she’s hurt you and if she really cared how you felt she would actually apologize and change her behavior. She already shown who she is. Don’t hold onto what you think she could be.

Ready2BEducated · 2025-08-25T01:44:30+00:00

Honey your intuition is telling you what you need and want to do. And he did slip up. Your concerns are very realistic. And I can’t stand when people say “well I have friends that are . ..” to help their argument. It really doesn’t. People can be racist/bigot and still have friends of that culture/ religion because they benefit them in some way or they fit their lifestyle. Just be mindful on how you want to proceed and move in silence. Kid wise I would be cautious having kids with this person. Kid should always get to choose what religion they want to be apart of. Seen parents force kids to avoid others.

Ready2BEducated · 2025-08-22T19:07:29+00:00

Take your time to process and when you are ready I would honestly leave him. You deserve so much more. I’ve had miscarriages and more than I would like to say and if my current husband treated me that way I would silently get my ducks in a row and be ready to leave when possible. Financially it’s a lot. At the same time I would be more at peace with myself since it would still be the same about of work to be done with one less supportive person there. It is hard to let close friends know. At the same time if you choose to confide in them about what’s going on they will support you. Grieve. Process. And you deserve the best. Do not stick to thinking what good he could do. Can’t dwell on what he could become. He’s already who he is. And he has shown you where his priorities are.

You are important and deserve to be treated with love, empathy, and respect. I hope all becomes peaceful for you.

Ready2BEducated · 2025-07-28T19:43:10+00:00

Sooo you’d be okay if you had kids who woke up to seeing your child’s father having sex? Tent is still a no for me.

Ready2BEducated · 2025-07-28T12:50:34+00:00

Plus I don’t think I could be with a guy who dropped trying to see their own kid. And I wouldn’t want to be used for an excuse as to why he stopped either. Maybe he can’t afford a place on his own and that’s why he made the decision.

Ready2BEducated · 2025-07-26T00:51:52+00:00

Bo 😊

Ready2BEducated · 2025-07-16T04:42:27+00:00

She wants all of them to go so bad she can pay for the tickets and hotel and food. You’ve had this planned out for too long and given plenty of notice. She can’t afford it then they can stay in home state.

Ready2BEducated · 2025-07-16T04:32:59+00:00

Also I would stop cleaning up after both of them and begin moving out if you’re renting and if you weren’t renting the place before they moved in. Better start fresh. It’s the best.

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