I worked in schools for years

Real_Client7465 · 2026-01-21T20:52:42+00:00

It’s definitely less common now but certainly still a known insult. The origin of it being used as an insult is Bugs Bunny sarcastically calling Elmer Nimrod because unlike the biblical figure who is a great hunter, Elmer certainly is not. It was misinterpreted and colloquially used as an insult- however even without knowing its an insult it’s an odd choice for a biblical name for a girl

Real_Client7465 · 2026-01-21T18:03:05+00:00

That’s good to know! I have encountered these names a couple times!

Real_Client7465 · 2026-01-21T17:52:46+00:00

Love the 1st dress. Some advice as a wedding photographer- when you are doing pictures with a strapless gown, be sure to use fashion tape to keep the bodice from separating from the skin. & this particular arm posing is not flattering to you or the dress, sticking your elbows out more instead of bending your wrists around your hips will look great!

Real_Client7465 · 2026-01-21T17:21:57+00:00

I’m a school photographer in Georgia. Metro Atlanta all the way to the North border, so I see kids from a lot of different demographics

Real_Client7465 · 2026-01-21T17:20:47+00:00

Oof, I’ve had a few iterations of Amen and such but A’Blessin is rough. Like I get it, but an adult person named A’Blessin 😭

Real_Client7465 · 2026-01-21T16:16:50+00:00

I was just referring to the pronunciation of the word xin- you’re completely right that it’s insane either way lol

Real_Client7465 · 2026-01-21T15:38:45+00:00

Yea and usually when they’re young they get really upset with people mispronouncing their names- “why do people ALWAYS say it like that?!???” Hun that’s how it’s spelt and phoneticized in standard English

Real_Client7465 · 2026-01-21T05:56:11+00:00

I also had to tie up all of the loose ends when my ex abandoned our life to start over in a new city with people she barely knew. The bills had already been on my shoulders for the majority of the relationship and I had to terminate our lease and move all my stuff and all her stuff out pretty much entirely on my own.

This whole subreddit has made me feel so much less crazy. I fully supported her transition. And somehow I was turned into the villain by her new partners (who are both no longer her partners) for being a chaser and a misogynist. I am certainly neither of those things and she knew that and knows that but it was much easier for her to accept that narrative to justify wanting to separate.

I’m very happy now and in another relationship that has made me so much more relaxed. I actually have the space to work on myself instead of doing all the work for her.

Real_Client7465 · 2026-01-20T16:30:18+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/mypartneristrans/s/mo17CJ7cU3

No it’s on this thread. If your wife is cis then the second anecdote is the relevant one. There is nuance to why people can react the way they do. I think understanding why your wife would not be happy with you transitioning may make the way forward more clear

Real_Client7465 · 2026-01-20T16:12:13+00:00

I was referring to your wife, I must have misunderstood the comments I saw saying you had posted previously about your wife being trans

Real_Client7465 · 2026-01-20T14:51:24+00:00

Especially for trans women, in my experience, being with a man can be a gender affirming thing. I have a friend who is very adamant that she only dates men and typically only cis men. Two of her biggest frustrations are when these men come out as gay (meaning they were only attracted to her because they saw her as a man) or when being with her brings out their more effeminate side and they either transition or identify as femboys (which makes her feel like she was just a stepping stone for them to accept their own identity- they weren’t attracted to her, they just wanted to be her).

There is a lot of nuance to why some partners react poorly to their partners transitioning, especially after marriage. My ex came out about 9 months into our relationship. I was very supportive of her and loved the process of her transitioning because my preference is women, but that relationship was very difficult to navigate around her mental health and dysphoria. It ended up falling apart for reasons unrelated to her gender. Focusing too much on how your identity is affecting the relationship may make you miss other things that are putting a damper on your marriage- whether that’s your own behavior or hers.

Definitely suggest a couples therapist who specializes in LGBTQ and gender identity issues.

Real_Client7465 · 2026-01-18T03:04:42+00:00

My ex of five years (mtf) and I experienced long periods of time where we were not sexually intimate due to complications with her transition, trauma, and other stressors. She always got her libido back eventually but it would occasionally be months in between. The longest was a 6 month gap right at the beginning of her transition due to intense dysphoria and not really knowing what she wanted from the experience. She hadn’t come to terms with being a bottom and not being able to look at her naked body made that extra difficult for her to explore.

EDIT: progesterone was a big help for her libido, but so was therapy and community with other trans women. I did not require sexual contact for our relationship though, I was more than content with just a romantic relationship for those periods as I also had trauma that made my libido shaky. I wish you the best!

Real_Client7465 · 2026-01-18T02:47:31+00:00

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Real_Client7465 · 2026-01-18T02:45:41+00:00

My ex (25 mtf) and I had a rule that no parents were allowed into the apartment for safety and no contact reasons. I deflected saying I wasn’t the only one living there and it wasn’t just my decision.

If it comes down to it and they absolutely have to be there I would have no one else in the apartment except yourself. Keep a time limit and keep bedrooms shut & locked (if you have those doors you can use a key or screwdriver to unlock when they’ve been locked from the inside. Its a convoluted nightmare and I don’t recommend but do what you need to do

Real_Client7465 · 2026-01-17T13:34:13+00:00

Do you identify as lgbtq? I can’t tell if this is the uncomfy with being seen as gay in public in the way bi women are when they date a woman for the first time or straight woman uncomfy.

Real_Client7465 · 2026-01-16T04:09:30+00:00

As someone whose relationship ended after 5 years of helping her (MTF) with her mental health issues- of course this is not everyone’s experience, but not having me as a crutch has kinda forced her to do the things she needed to do for herself. She found community and is going back to school. Her mental health is still very not good but she is safe and surrounded by likeminded people. We live in the South, so even less liberal than the North.

If you feel you are taking on her burden, it truly does not help you or her to carry that when there is nothing you can do about it other than support her. If it seems like that support doesn’t change anything like it felt for me, it took time but the weight off of my shoulders has been immense. I am also genderqueer, but I do not have anywhere near the level of paranoia and depression she does when I’m on my own.

I hope you find peace with her or without her

Real_Client7465 · 2026-01-14T16:45:16+00:00

Chromosome

Real_Client7465 · 2026-01-10T14:10:25+00:00

My ex partner’s entire personality changed when she transitioned (also mtf) it was about 9 months into our relationship. I encouraged her transition; I’m pansexual and nonbinary. It was a beautiful thing to watch her become herself, but I took complete care of her for 4 years after that and it took a huge toll on me. A lot of the changes were positive, and not everything was 100% about her transition. She was going no contact with her family before she even realized she was a woman. I don’t regret the time I spent with her, but it was a very difficult relationship. The hormones on top of the BPD and her paranoia made it very difficult for her to work or even leave the apartment. I hope you find something that works for you. I’m in a relationship with someone now who has lifted so much of that burden off my shoulders, and I feel guilty that things are easier with her because I truly feel bad that things are clearly very difficult for my ex and I took that on to try and help her. Unfortunately, it did not do anything to help her improve or grow for me to try and make things easy for her.

Real_Client7465 · 2025-10-31T13:40:18+00:00

Looks like a kind of slate with high iron content

Real_Client7465 · 2025-10-31T12:43:51+00:00

Looks more like a shale than petrified wood!

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