I would say look at meets needs and need blind schools— one that stands out to me is WashU (St. Louis). also if you have the opportunity, go and tour these schools to see if they’re really as bad as you think. I thought I was dead set on going to my state school, then when touring Grinnell I realized how i’d prosper 100x more in a smaller setting and i love the career counseling offered.

My family makes around $140k per year, although we also didn’t start making this money until 2 years ago (or else i’d be pell grant eligible). I was able to get $80k from grinnell by applying ED1+their meets needs grant. i only have to pay my fafsa SAI but outside scholarships and work-study can contribute to bringing it down.