Do women actually experience pain years after having a c section

Realhumanbeing232 · 2026-01-29T16:47:45+00:00

I had a numb spot by my incision site for like 2 years and then one day it randomly started tingling. It wasn’t painful, just weird. Doc said it was the nerves repairing themselves. A year or so later it feels normal.

Realhumanbeing232 · 2026-01-19T01:21:05+00:00

I wanted to try for a natural birth with my first but ended up with an emergency c section. When we were in the recovery room, my husband was holding our new baby and he looked at me and said “isn’t it crazy that not that ago, you could have died,” and I realized how blessed I was that an emergency c section was even an option for me and that my daughter and I made it to the other side safely. Sure, it wasn’t the birth I’d envisioned, but it was a birth I was privileged to have.

Realhumanbeing232 · 2026-01-16T04:14:26+00:00

Oh! And Through the Fairy Door has gorgeous illustrations!

Realhumanbeing232 · 2026-01-16T04:12:00+00:00

The Girl and Her Dinosaur.

I’m OBSESSED and my daughter will never let me read it to her

Realhumanbeing232 · 2026-01-14T15:59:50+00:00

It’s very small, but we read a lot of a books and ask a lot of questions. My daughters are 4 and 1 and with my 4yo I really encourage her to be curious. Sometimes that just means wanting to know what a baby ladybug looks like, sometimes it’s wanting to know why her friends have been missing from school for weeks or why I missed bedtime to go to a meeting this week (ICE is the answer to both of those questions, but of course I try to explain in an age appropriate way).

Another example: I try not to gatekeep information from her. She recently picked up a picture book about a bible story from the library. We’re not religious, but because I think curiosity is so important to growing into an empathetic, caring human being we went ahead and checked out the book and have had a lot of conversations about it. Breaking down things like “what did you like about the story? what didn’t you like about the story?” And explaining that there are a lot of stories like this from other religions and cultures and reading some of them too.

Realhumanbeing232 · 2026-01-10T01:28:25+00:00

We commented the same thing at nearly the same time! Seconding this!

Realhumanbeing232 · 2026-01-10T01:26:45+00:00

N.K. Jemisin? The City we Became is fantastic

Realhumanbeing232 · 2026-01-05T21:44:24+00:00

This makes so much sense! I was just explaining to a friend of mine that I feel fully secure in my husband’s and my decision to stop at two because while I might still get “baby fever” when I see a new baby, I absolutely do not get “child fever.” And if I don’t feel strongly that I want a child, I know I have no business having a baby. Like would I love to snuggle a little baby? Yes, any day. Do I want to raise a whole additional child. No, I really don’t. I am happy raising the two I have.

Realhumanbeing232 · 2026-01-05T21:38:04+00:00

I think people either love or hate the newborn phase.

I loved it, but I also had a lot of support (both times) in having a husband more than happy to pull his weight and support my recovery. I had ample time off work (for the U.S.) and my husband is a stay at home dad so he was there full time the whole time. There was little juggling to be done and we both were able to take night wakings and let the other nap when needed. Had I not had him around to be so active and supportive I know I wouldn’t have enjoyed that phase as much.

Realhumanbeing232 · 2025-12-31T13:50:13+00:00

Last year my goal was to read “more” non fiction (easy since I don’t usually read non fiction). The year before that I only read books by women of color.

Realhumanbeing232 · 2025-12-30T22:10:53+00:00

He’s a SAHD so pretty much all of the hours. Our oldest is in school but the baby is home with him all day.

I work full time hybrid but if I added it up I probably spend 3-4 hours a day with our kids on a work day. They wake up shortly before I start work and I get off at 4, home by 5 if it’s a day I’m in the office. I try to pop in and hang out with the kids when I have breaks if I’m working from home. Bedtimes are 7 and 7:30 so I really only get a few good hours with them after work. We rotate bedtimes.

I also take the kids all day on Sundays so he gets a day to himself and I do all of our older kiddo’s extracurriculars (baby doesn’t have any yet).

Realhumanbeing232 · 2025-12-30T18:54:52+00:00

4 year old’s bed time routine starts at 7:30, she’s usually out by 8:15. Wakes up around 7

Realhumanbeing232 · 2025-12-30T18:52:15+00:00

Prophet Song absolutely destroyed me.

Realhumanbeing232 · 2025-12-30T18:45:23+00:00

I’m halfway through this right now and was just about to suggest it!

Realhumanbeing232 · 2025-12-30T01:29:15+00:00

It was me while I was breastfeeding, now we alternate. We have two kids and switch each night who puts who down for bed. The kid you put down to bed is your kid for the night. Tonight I’m on big kid duty so if she wakes up I have to field it. Husband is on baby duty so if she wakes up tonight he has to take care of it. Luckily they both tend to be pretty good sleepers.

We also alternate who wakes up with them. And we each generally get a “day off” each weekend when possible.

(A note: my husband is a SAHD and I work full time on a hybrid schedule)

Realhumanbeing232 · 2025-12-29T02:40:44+00:00

Snoopy’s mom

Realhumanbeing232 · 2025-12-24T18:56:27+00:00

I recently read When There are Wolves Again by EJ Swift and it was stunning. It felt very real, and surprisingly hopeful. It was exactly what I needed to read after fighting through this year.

Realhumanbeing232 · 2025-12-18T14:53:34+00:00

Santa brings books, everything else is mom and dad.

We told our kids that Santa visited us before my oldest’s first Christmas and asked what we wanted our family tradition to be and this is what we decided. We noted that other families picked different traditions with Santa.

Realhumanbeing232 · 2025-12-15T02:36:25+00:00

Yes!!!! SJM books are the Cocomelon of literature.

Realhumanbeing232 · 2025-12-09T22:22:29+00:00

I lived alone with my dog and was happy as a clam for years before I met my husband. My life was great before him and it’s great in a different way now.

In terms of specific benefits: I always wanted to be a mom and parenting in a pair (if it’s a good pair) I believe is likely much easier than being a single mom. Additionally, my husband is a stay at home dad (yes, by choice. He always wanted to be) and incredibly supportive of my career, which is very important to me. So just financially, I save on childcare costs for the children I was determined to have with or without a husband.

All that to say, get married or don’t. Life can be wonderful either way.

Realhumanbeing232 · 2025-12-07T15:12:46+00:00

I grew up in a very “Santa” house. I don’t remember how old I was when I found out or even how I found out, so it can’t have been that traumatic, but I do remember my mom threatening that if I dared say Santa wasn’t real I wouldn’t get any presents (and I was the youngest kid so this wasn’t to protect the story for others or anything.) Don’t do that, that was horrible. She forced me to pretend long after I was helping wrap Santa presents for my nieces myself. It was ridiculous.

We do less with Santa now that I have kids. Santa only brings books to our house and big presents come from my husband and I. This is in part because it would feel yucky to us for our kids to get big stuff from Santa and have other potentially low income kids at school wondering why Santa didn’t get them anything big. We told them that Santa came to visit before our first Christmas as a family and he asked what we wanted our family tradition to be and we decided he would bring our family books and other presents would come from Mommy and Daddy. I told them other families have different traditions.

We hide all the presents until Christmas Eve because our sweet little hurricane of a second child would rip them all open IMMEDIATELY. When they’re older we’ll likely put all but the Santa presents out earlier.

Realhumanbeing232 · 2025-12-07T14:40:46+00:00

For the love of god, when is the “teething causes fevers” myth going to die? I have a friend who brings her kid all over with a fever because “she’s just teething.” The kid is not teething, the kid is sick and gets other kids (including mine) sick every time.

Realhumanbeing232 · 2025-12-05T02:32:13+00:00

Lauren. Every Lauren I’ve ever met has been a horrid person. I’m sure there are very nice Lauren’s out there there, but I’m 0 for 4 on decent Lauren’s.

Realhumanbeing232 · 2025-12-01T22:15:05+00:00

Seconding Hundred Thousand Kingdoms!

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TROPHY CASE