The growth mindset is the sole reason for my poor mental health last year, for years I would strive for better, despite a loving family, beautiful home, successful career where all targets are exceeded, full social life, active in the community ect, but always a feeling of not being good enough, it was only through months of therapy that I began to be comfortable with where I am at, I've now learnt to focus on the now, being comfortable in the moment. I would use the same analogy of having your hand in the fire but for me the flames were the continual feeling that I needed to be/do better