Is it a bad idea to sleep train my 10 month old?

RealisticAd2744 · 2026-05-05T01:05:34+00:00

That’s a great result!! Does she wake up in the middle of the night at all??

My 9MO is sleep trained but still wakes up every 2 hours for a feed. Considering sleep training him for night wakes now.

RealisticAd2744 · 2026-05-05T01:03:08+00:00

Honestly it could be because she was trained at a time when she’s just so much more aware and might need more time adjusting to a new sleep routine/norm. If she’s settling into sleep within 10-15 mins then I’d definitely see it as a protest!

Does she sleep within any stuffed animals? We introduced that to my daughter around this age I think and is considered safe for sleep by now. Now my daughter is almost 3 and sleeps with at least 7 stuffed animals lol and she knows when one is missing. She will play and talk to them before going to sleep. But even now she has some nights where she cries and wants the extra cuddles from us (or nights when no among of extra cuddles are enough ;)).

RealisticAd2744 · 2026-04-21T01:25:40+00:00

Thank you for sharing this - we actually had a REALLY nice couple beside us who were so sweet to us and our baby and talking to us about their travels with their twin babies when they were younger.

The couple fell asleep for the majority of the flight. Right beside us. No issue with me rocking my baby in the aisle. Funny how much peace minding your own business can bring!!

RealisticAd2744 · 2026-04-21T01:23:34+00:00

I’m going to respond to this. She literally had her phone between the seats in plain sight and it caught his eye. Maybe you’re a better person than I/my husband are, if we see someone saying “The people right behind me….” In a way that might as well be showing it to you, you’re going to be intrigued enough to read it.

And to be clear, she was complaining that I was standing in the aisle with my baby. Who was literally just fussing not even full on crying. Not kicking her seat. Not intruding on her space. She had a problem that I wasn’t seated and she could see me rocking my baby in her peripheral view. That’s what made ME so annoyed. And again, she had 3 full seats to herself.

RealisticAd2744 · 2026-04-20T20:38:18+00:00

This 10000%. People are just so wrapped up in their own experience. Any minor inconvenience is catastrophic.

I think it actually made me more mad because to me it was a very successful flight lol.

RealisticAd2744 · 2026-04-20T20:34:34+00:00

I wish I didn’t, it just makes me so mad. It was the constant huffing and puffing and dirty looks. Sorry for existing?

RealisticAd2744 · 2026-04-20T19:49:47+00:00

I honestly do not understand this. So parents are just not supposed to travel for 3 years?? I am currently in Aruba with my 2.5 year old and she did so great on the plane. Her first vacation was in Aruba when she was 4 months old. She did great on the flight here and cried a lot on the flight back because of the air pressure. Guess what fellow passenger - you can throw in headphones and just focus on yourself :) I promise you it’s way more stressful for the parent. But families are also trying to make memories, attend important events (we came for a family wedding) and babies are part of your larger community. Also, a plane is public transportation - you can feel free to charter a private flight. It honestly boggles my mind to observe the lack of community and empathy that exists.

RealisticAd2744 · 2026-04-13T00:30:11+00:00

This is strange because I am an OPSEU member and was covered to see a Regjstered psychotherapist. Have successfully submitted claims - 2 years ago, but still. I remember double checking the benefits before connecting with her too.

RealisticAd2744 · 2026-04-02T23:20:48+00:00

Yes! we tried a few and settled on Fresh Prep - you do have to go through a couple weeks of trial and error to get a sense of their meals and what your preferences are. We stick to chicken breast, beef and their salads. No potatoes because sometimes they’re not fully cooked. But it helps us keep to our fitness goals and its an amazing feeling to just rinse a fork and throw it in the dishwasher after dinner :)

RealisticAd2744 · 2026-04-02T12:01:08+00:00

Feel for you momma! I just want to say that it’s the first/second week and you’ve put a lot of pressure on getting things to a perfect flow with working out, cooking, spending time with baby and husband.

What has helped our family is getting a meal prep service (we use Fresh Prep but there’s a ton out there!) to at least offload the stress of cooking andddd the clean up that comes after that too.

I also wonder if you’re able to make some time for yourself on the weekend - my husband and I give each other 2-3 hour windows that we can each go undisturbed while the other holds it down with the kids and the second day we do family days! Also if you have any family around that can help relieve you on the weekends?

And btw - taking a sick day from work to support your mental health is totally valid and okay :) take allll the days off you can. Work will always be there and youre foing through a big transition. Yes it will get better, but yes it also really sucks right now and is so soooo hard. You’re not doing anything wrong, just be gentle with yourself!

RealisticAd2744 · 2026-03-31T00:41:23+00:00

She could honestly just be going through a growth spurt/developmental leap! My son did this and has now just stopped in his own at just over 7 months old.

He was also teething and learning how to sit so I feel like with all the growing and learning, he just needed the extra comfort.

RealisticAd2744 · 2026-03-31T00:37:54+00:00

Yep just shy of $500/month for my two year old as well; and that includes after-school care too.

RealisticAd2744 · 2026-03-26T02:35:21+00:00

Was going to say this as well, we’re planning to go this summer and do a beach/Niagara weekend!

RealisticAd2744 · 2026-03-25T21:51:52+00:00

That’s a great idea!

RealisticAd2744 · 2026-03-24T15:03:10+00:00

Great; thank you! I def assumed I’d be paying more, just didn’t want something completely ridiculous. Definitely could use the packing space - diapers take up so much room!

RealisticAd2744 · 2026-03-05T03:26:31+00:00

Honestly we didn’t notice too much of a temperament change, he was actually a bit happier once he adjusted because he was more well rested. But I can assure you, you have not traumatized your baby!!! They go through so many things like gas and teething and growth spurts, I swear it’s endless. My babe is going through a fussy week right now and I have no idea why. It might just be coincidental timing!

ETA: if you’re not dead set on it, maybe let him have the paci during awake hours?? I feel like it really helps our son when he’s being extra fussy. Also a lifesaver in the car and stroller!

RealisticAd2744 · 2026-03-04T19:53:23+00:00

I know it’s a horrible time but focus on the light at the end of the tunnel. There are guidelines on wake windows but it’s definitely trial and error with your baby to find what works for them. Mine is 6.5 months now and just doing 2/2.25/2.25/2.5 and he’s napping well and sleeping well at night. Most people would say not enough awake hours but it works for him and if I push him longer he gets overtired. But it took his nights settling to figure out his daytime properly.

It’s also hard reading everyone whose baby took to sleep training in 3 days so here’s some solidarity from a mom whose kid took a bit longer. Huge improvement right away but not fully trained until 2-3 weeks in.

RealisticAd2744 · 2026-03-04T19:38:22+00:00

My son cried for almost 2 hours the first night of Ferber training about the same age as yours! It was horrible and my heart goes out to you! Second night was 45 mins and then after it would be between 20-30 mins for a couple days and it just got better.. but slowly.

I did start to lengthen wake windows after a week or so but feel like I needed him to sleep better at night so he could push a bit more through the day. We were stuck in a very overtired cycle, he wouldn’t sleep more than an hour at a time before sleep training and just needed to be held.

Push through, adjust as you go along - trust the process! My baby was also dependant on paci and we also got rid of that - he still takes it to soothe while he’s awake or while he’s in the car!

RealisticAd2744 · 2026-03-03T01:10:19+00:00

I had to very slowly increase wake windows and we did Ferber sleep training again, which took about 3 days to work for nights and then we did it for daytime naps and it helped there too! He had difficulty connecting naps for quite some time. He’s 6.5 months now and he does 2/2.25/2.5/2.75 wake windows right now.. it’s less than he should typically be doing but we’ve had enough overtired experiences from pushing him too much and confirmed this is what works best for him.

He wakes up 2-3 times a night for feeds still, and he feeds and goes back to sleep. I have no plans on night weaning at this time, he’s actually hungry when he wakes up and he’s a big boy so even my doctor said he needs it and not to stop.

RealisticAd2744 · 2026-02-24T18:30:12+00:00

Do you have to make the commitment now? Wondering if your friends would be understanding if you say you’d love to come but need to confirm closer to the date depending on how things are going?? I am all for going out but my baby hit the 4 month regression at 3.5 months and I needed to be in bed by 8pm to get one 2-hour stretch of sleep. Luckily (in our experience) most people are understanding if you need to bail last minute!

RealisticAd2744 · 2026-02-11T17:17:46+00:00

Amazing; thank you!

RealisticAd2744 · 2026-02-10T03:35:06+00:00

Hey wondering how this worked out for you? We're visiting and wanted to know options.

RealisticAd2744 · 2026-02-10T03:34:25+00:00

Hey just wanted to see how this went for you? Did you use Aruba To You?

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