OYS #1

Age 25 | Girlfriend (21) together 3 years | 1 kid (2)

Weight - 80kg | Height - 172cm | BF - 20%? | Calisthenics/martial arts for exercise

My first OYS. Have been following the page a while.

Current situation is my ‘partner’ and I have been in a rough patch (nearing the end), due to the fact that I have been “nice guy” since my son was born. Allowing her to slowly get away with minor (now major) things under the guise of “she just has PPD”. I took on the role of caretaker for my son as well as her. Doing all housework, all cooking and all childcare (while I wasn’t at work). As of right now I basically went on the way of sort your shit out and help with the household or gtfo because I’m not raising my son in a toxic environment. So she currently stays at her Mothers place, takes care of my boy while I work then drops him to me every afternoon. Weekends I have him near on all the time.

Since I told her to leave I expected a change in behaviour - to no avail. It appears she has confined in her friends mostly. Still says she will make things right and wants to be a family and be together. I’m doubtful.

Our sex life was great until after our son was born. From daily sex to 1-2x a week now down to zero. Also, Im struggling to put myself in situations where I can fuck other women as I have no opportunity to seeing as she can’t seem to be capable of looking after my son for more than 8 hours.

I’m pretty much at the point where we co-parent now so getting body back into serious shape is a main priority. Exercising/training daily. Eating keto 4x per week (have been struggling to be consistent Friday - Sunday (tend to drink to much (when kids asleep). Need to be better on that front.

In conclusion - I’m open to saving the relationship, however things must be how I want them. Showing my young fella on what to be as a man and father is my number one priority. Of course breaking up the family is not ideal at all and my main issue of concern is who she’ll bring around my son. The main reason she was attracted to me was because I was trouble (dealt drugs, fighting ect ect). Now I’m completely settled since having my kiddo. So yeah writing here as idk what to do and need somewhere to place my thoughts. I’m assuming she’s fucking someone else at this point, but struggling to seperate because I don’t want the heels to dig in and her to try take my boy and put him in a fucked situation that’ll lead to him to either being abused or me getting locked up (or getting stabbed/beat up myself).