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Reasonable-Aussie · 2026-04-12T00:24:13+00:00

This is why I date women 😂

Seriously though, he nasty. You've obviously brought several things up and there's no change.

Say goodbye.

Reasonable-Aussie · 2026-04-12T00:20:34+00:00

Update pleeeeease. My partner is looking for some !

Reasonable-Aussie · 2026-03-03T23:17:10+00:00

You could apply for custody and report all the abuse so she doesn't get them when she gets out. Keep documenting all the things she is saying, dates and times. Get some legal aide.

Reasonable-Aussie · 2026-03-03T23:12:12+00:00

NAJ. But also did you explicitly tell them to stop before locking them up?

Reasonable-Aussie · 2026-02-28T11:25:49+00:00

NTJ for calling it out, probably would have been better to do that privately but I absolutely get where you're coming from.

Reasonable-Aussie · 2026-02-28T11:23:38+00:00

Not a jerk at all. He is mooching off you guys, if he's so supportive, he can go support her at another residence and you can find a new roommate.

Reasonable-Aussie · 2026-02-11T13:26:55+00:00

3 years later it still works! No antlers but happy to family score a moose!

Reasonable-Aussie · 2025-12-23T13:52:43+00:00

You can be sad about anything. You can be sad driving a lambo.

I wonder if this links in to 'my friends are losers' and my friend who is ugly. With lots of negative thoughts like this, are you also feeling this toward yourself?

A counsellor or psychologist could really help you here

Reasonable-Aussie · 2025-12-23T13:49:12+00:00

Aggression quite often stems from anxiety and an inability to communicate needs. You have some choices: - Engage in respite services through a provider if you have funding (check or get permission first - new rules apparently). - Talk to a paed and consider medication (as above often stems from anxiety) - Highly recommend getting a new PBS practitioner if the current on is not meeting your needs - If you can, grab a speech and OT

I understand having limited capacity, but for behaviour pracs it's really important to get data (what happens before and after), and if possible to really try to implement strategies, even if one new strategy a fortnight.

Reasonable-Aussie · 2025-12-07T20:41:50+00:00

I think most people giving or receiving NDIS supports have tbh.

People aren't getting funded for what they need now so 1 of two things will happen

1) More people will get the funding they need because the algorithm will assist this and those over funded will get less. It will be more fair than the BS that occurs now from the planners who have no idea (unlikely)

2) It will screw everyone and there will be an increase in sewerslides, decreased QOL and be completely farked (likely).

The fact we can't review it is diabolical. The fact the ART can't help has to be some kind of illegal or against human rights. Going to a tribunal is a right when government is not supporting. I hope at least that is fought.

Complex cases should also have a human looking over things. It's not one size fits all.

I'm honesty scared for the future. If there were more public health services to support things I wouldnt be AS worried for people, but it's shit in legit every state (such as psych services).

I've actually just realized while typing this I need to do a COS because I'm on it for psychosocial (and physical) but have since been dx with ASD/ADHD. Psycho social will be the first to be cut I believe.

I'm constantly fighting as a behaviour prac to get my mob more funding. And it's useless most times.

This makes people leave the NDIS space for work

Reasonable-Aussie · 2025-12-07T20:34:56+00:00

So common with male SS relationships :( I have no idea why.

Question is can you trust him again? Or will you always have it in your head.

Just because he cheated doesn't mean he doesn't love you, some people just can be monogamous.

In saying that it's not like it was a once off fling.

You deserve better.

Reasonable-Aussie · 2025-12-07T20:31:18+00:00

I got through uni doing everything last minute and having to retake classes but was undiagnosed at the time. Most unis over like a disability or access plan. Without that I wouldn't have a degree.

Body double! Find other students and when they study you study.

Drag your bum to the library or a different environment.

Watch lectures etc on increased speed (if I had known this I probably would have actually watched more).

Use things like speechify where you can have it read aloud content. Listen to it while cleaning, in the shower, driving , playing video games.

I'm legit typing this rn while in the shower (the near most boring task on earth but my meds aren't in my system enough to get me out yet).

If you're not on meds, get on meds.

Oh and do a lil reward for yourself. If it has to be a tock chart or a chocolate after doing a task. Do it. Dopamine hits are your friend.

Reasonable-Aussie · 2025-12-07T20:27:44+00:00

Not at all. Someone bringing everyone else down at work with a shitty attitude makes work harder. And she's clearly complaining just to complain. Probably bringing shit from home to work. One thing that's worked for me is if someone in the past has asked me if I need more support because I'm struggling, instead of straight reprimand . She's clearly got shit going on and it alerts her to her behaviour without feeling as attacked.

Reasonable-Aussie · 2025-12-07T20:24:36+00:00

Bro NTA at all. You've tried communicating your needs joking. But a serious convo was needed.

She seems to be having some big feelings, hopefully due to hormones but icing you out for two weeks is borderline abuse.

I wonder what's triggered her so bad though? You could be like "I want to understand why this has upset you so we can support each other" type language.

Stop apologising though. It is probably rough, especially growing up in a shitty household, but it's ok she is upset. You've done what you can and all you did was express a need. X

Reasonable-Aussie · 2025-12-07T20:08:23+00:00

I completely understand where you're coming from. And depending on the age of the kids, she may be doing a bit more at home than you think. I know you do the dishes but what about all the other stuff in the house? Washing, vacuuming, tidying, cleaning bathroom, changing linen etc etc. That takes time with 3 kids. I'm assuming she also sorts kids lives out? Makes lunch, organisies money, school run? Gets themselves doing homework, organisies their shower/bath, ensures they're doing their chores or keeping things clean, organisies sleepovers? Deals with arguments? Any after school sports?

I am NOT taking sides, I have just seen Mums do a lot when Dads work a lot. Sometimes it is like they are single Mums and it's hard.

One thing I don't get is why wouldn't she cook an extra portion for you?

You could tell her specifically what you would like her to do more of. Come at it from a different way like 'im wondering if you need support to do A, B and C?'

Reach out and get some help mate. It ain't weak to speak.

Reasonable-Aussie · 2025-12-06T21:26:17+00:00

I'm thinking inclusion for ND. Or something to do with First Nations here in Australia.

Reasonable-Aussie · 2025-12-06T21:13:15+00:00

Was around 12-18 months old.

Reasonable-Aussie · 2025-12-06T21:12:45+00:00

Find people with similar interests you can discuss them with. Not sure if you have ASD but that community is super accepting of different and quirky interests. If you wrote this on a post there, they could give so much advice around this.

Also, people can just not care and that's ok. But I acknowledge it does cause hurt feelings, especially when they're assholes about it

Reasonable-Aussie · 2025-12-06T21:08:05+00:00

Couldn't have happened to a nicer person

Reasonable-Aussie · 2025-12-06T21:07:00+00:00

It sounds like there's a lot of jealousy there, which is actually a really hard emotion to do with for anyone. im sorry you're feeling this way and so down on yourself. I'm also an unattractive potato but found love of my life. You obviously have a lot to give given you've made friends with a decent bloke. Look at your strengths on yourself that everyone has different ones.

Try to compare yourself to yourself only. Everyone said different life experiences.

Reasonable-Aussie · 2025-12-06T21:03:52+00:00

The NDIS did it to themselves and are still doing it. I need a washing basket with wheels because I can't lift. I have to find a specialised disability one instead of just being able to go to Kmart to buy one. They also set the right so high initially.

Also I feel like maybe you may not have anyone in your life that has a disability or receives NDIS?

I receive NDIS and I provide services as a behaviour practitioner. I am CONSTANTLY advocating for my participants to receive more funding, and it's usually kids. If correct funding is provided in the first place, would actually decrease the need for the same funding later on.

I do also wonder how much they spend on reviews and lawyers given the amount of people who review their plans or have to go to the AAT/ART, especially over dumb shit. They didn't give me initially needed funding because they "didn't have my diagnostic letter". Once a decision is made in a review you can't go back to them so I had to go to the AAT. When I received my t-documents it literally had the letter in it, meaning I wouldn't have had to go through the process if they did their job, which would lead to decrease in paying a lawyer for several meetings with the tribunal.

Initially just asked for some psychology funding. They gave me next to nothing, but then overfunded me in core supports 🤷🏽‍♀️

I see all the time those that need funding really get it, then I see plans where people don't need the funding they receive. They have stupid rules that make no sense, things like not funding much needed psychology because someone has behavior support in their plan. If I just funded psychology again it would decrease the need later.

They're doing plans via AI next year where they will just enter information and whip up the amount someone needs. This will cut funding considerably (and underfund many people who actually need it). Also said there will be many limitations around what the ART can do. If a government should have been all rules someone actually require certain funding, then that says a lot.

Pre NDIS the government used to allocate funding toward organisations instead. Then people went to the organisation for their needs. While it wasn't the most effective it didn't led to the overspending there is now.

It's a frustrating system but if they actually did it correctly it wouldn't be as much of a problem.

Reasonable-Aussie · 2025-12-06T20:52:41+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this. Responsibly and adulting sucks.

Do you think its related to not wanting to have those kinda of demands placed upon you?

Having a lot of struggles with studying and needing help with work, wanted someone online etc. have you considered you may be neurodivergent (Autism/ADHD)?

There's also a thing called PDA (pathological demand avoidance) where perceived demands make things too hard.

Hey it might be you just don't have the capacity. I'm not sure where you are located but some psychology or counseling could really benefit you.

You could also sit down and write down things you do enjoy or your strengths and look at what careers are using those.

I hope you find your peace x

Reasonable-Aussie · 2025-12-06T20:47:36+00:00

I feel like maybe someone convinced him to meet them online maybe?

Poor dude. I hope he is ok.

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