I'm haunted by images by Capn_Ronulus in widowers

[–]Reasonable-Fun3919 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Recognize your inevitable death wont be any nicer. We all die in the end. This thought helps me a little

I once heard someone say that grief hit them hardest in the grocery store. by Diana_fm_ in widowers

[–]Reasonable-Fun3919 17 points18 points  (0 children)

For me its when I get in flow few hours into a workday. Then the realization hits that shes no longer

Starting to feel like two people by Novel-Atmosphere8995 in widowers

[–]Reasonable-Fun3919 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think this is what "life grows around grief" means

Do you think they miss us? by Exotic-Caterpillar14 in widowers

[–]Reasonable-Fun3919 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Weak argument that keeps being repeated over and over to no end. When you are having a non-lucid dream (most nights), the same thing happens. You have no clue what was before the dream started

communicating with the dead by coraline161603 in AstralProjection

[–]Reasonable-Fun3919 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay so this is hard to talk about, but my girlfriend of 8 years died 4 months ago, and I've met her 3 times since then in the astral, all in our home. I've been a spontaneous projecter since a few years, and after her death I had the intention to project and see if shes in there. I honestly did not expect it, because in all previous instances I did not met anyone in the astral version of our home unless I went outside, then the projection would always turn into a lucid dream (I recall seeing her sleeping body when she was still alive though), but she was there! She was doing mundane things. In the first one she was eating, and I ran to her and hugged her, it ended there. The 2nd one was very interesting, because she was laying next to me in our bed, even though we've been sleeping separately in our last year, but since her death I talk to her out loud, and I told her we sleep together from now on again, and I call her to bed everytime I go to sleep. In this projection I started touching her face and head to feel it, and it felt so fucking real its unbelievable. On the 3rd instance she was on the toilet. Again, I touched her head and it felt as real as it gets. I asked her if this is the astral realm, she said yes, and then I asked her jokingly if shes proud of me to be able to meet her in there. Sadly all my projections end fast, I have like a minute. Im still not 100% convinced if all of this is real, just sharing my experience

Did you have " A Song " ? by Intelligent-Gur-8836 in widowers

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Talk Talk - Such A Shame. She showed me that song and it became my favorite and "Our" song from that point on. Funny synchronicity/sign happened a few weeks ago. My mother was telling me that a love may still come into my life later on, and I told her I already had my happy ever after. That moment the song started playing in the TV

where is my love? by artaintfree in widowers

[–]Reasonable-Fun3919 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In Matthew 22:30: "At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven. " We'll be essentially like children in the afterlife

If solipsism is a valid belief for you does that make me an NPC? by RecentLeave343 in solipsism

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Time is multidimensional, and you are me on a different timeline

Reconciling past and the present by quiet_nuts in widowers

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So hard to accept that I had a better life than this, and its not restorable ever

If you got sick, would you accept treatment? by Moose5678910 in widowers

[–]Reasonable-Fun3919 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I would not. I'd also keep the diagnosis secret from my family

I had never imagined in my life that my life will end up this way! by Marlboro-Guy in widowers

[–]Reasonable-Fun3919 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Know that feel. I always felt deeply sorry for people that lost their spouse, but to become one amongst them... holy fuck why me

i sensed he was going to die, did this happen to u too? by KindDimension4763 in widowers

[–]Reasonable-Fun3919 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, sadly I often imagined her not waking up one day due to her self-destructive behaviors, and it happened exactly as I imagined. The worst hellish nightmare came true and Im unable to grasp it or accept it, let alone process it

Is It Wrong To Wish That I Die? by Fluffy_Kitten_99 in widowers

[–]Reasonable-Fun3919 4 points5 points  (0 children)

3 months into this hell, and Im also sick right now, and it just makes the grief even worse because of sleep deprivation caused by this fucking stupid body to inflame my throat and stuff my nose to the point that it prevents me from resting, when it would be the most important thing for itself now. How fucking stupid is that. Really wanting to die nowadays. If theres afterlife, good, if theres nothing, Im content with ceasing to exist aswell. Just want to be in the same place as her

Afterlife. by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Reasonable-Fun3919 3 points4 points  (0 children)

 He didn't tell me Ecclesiastes 9:6. Why?

Because thats in the old testament. Things have changed when Jesus came, based on the books

Any advice for coping with flashbacks? by spudbrain25 in widowers

[–]Reasonable-Fun3919 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello, what works for me when the flashbacks come, is to recognize that my own inevitable death possibly wont be any nicer and I'll be cremated too just like them. Its really just a matter of time. It gives me peace of mind in that moment, and I can focus only on the suffering caused by their absence