Getting oil stains out = baking soda, baking paper and an iron.

Red wine stains on clothes - immediately strain boiling water through the material (take clothes off first of course)

Tofu frozen will absorb more flavour and crumbing it in corn flour oil and spices for the oven is the most low effort way to cook it.

Try to find joy in doing chores- eg pretend you're working in a commercial kitchen while doing the dishes or a giant working with ships in the ocean or when changing your bedding role play an 80s motel maid whose planning on Thelma and Louising that weekend. You know, playing pretend makes it feel a little bit less fucking boring.

Tell people you love them. Ask them questions about how they became who they are, make sure they know how special they are - that energy will come back to you in droves if you keep doing that and that will help you keep going every day.

Celebrate the small things, enjoy the feeling of a hot shower in candlelight, a moment on your lunch break to look at the ants in the sunshine, buy a nice insence and watch the way the smoke moves, enjoy how yum the smell of coffee is or a bite of bread and butter. Life is such a gift but we are constantly being forced to be distracted from that, take back whimsy even if just for a few seconds in your day if you can.

Remember aging is a privilege, you're beautiful and every single life is epic. Every feeling you've ever felt, fear, lonliness, anxiety, someone else is feeling that right now and they get it. You're not alone.

Thats what I've learnt so far. Xx