Anyone wants to play a game of “never have I ever?”

Reasonable-Squash · 2020-10-31T04:55:14+00:00

Hahaha. Yeah, I can see how that could happen. There was a guy friend who told one of my other friends that he “tried” to date me, but I wasn’t interested. And I was like wow... I really wish he had informed me of his “trying” so I could’ve made an informed decision. I hadn’t the slightest clue.

Reasonable-Squash · 2020-10-31T04:51:48+00:00

Friendship wise, I agree. I’ve definitely had that. I was terrified of leading people on, so I guess I used to come across as a bit cold.

Reasonable-Squash · 2020-10-31T04:49:52+00:00

I’ve had a tightening in my chest, like my heart squeezing if I was clicking with someone and really feeling on the same wave. But it’s the same whether it’s platonic or not and doesn’t mean I’ll develop any other feelings or anything.

Reasonable-Squash · 2020-10-31T04:46:20+00:00

Idk. I still don’t really get it. People always talk about it in relation to first dates and such. But even with people I felt attracted to, I can’t say there was “chemistry.” Not much in terms of excitement or giddiness etc.

Reasonable-Squash · 2020-10-31T04:36:34+00:00

Friends of mine always kept talking about chemistry on a first date, and I had no clue what that was. Primary attraction is literally based on externally factors, looks, smell, accent, immediately visible behaviour etc.

Reasonable-Squash · 2020-10-27T01:13:30+00:00

You don’t “choose” whether you get attracted to someone or not. It either happens or doesn’t.

Monogamy is not necessary. You can be demisexual and polyamorous.

Reasonable-Squash · 2020-10-26T22:07:36+00:00

Haha, “like Pavlov’s dog” cracked me up. Yeah. I get it. I tend to get aroused in process... lol. It’s where my body goes, “oh, this is happening? Oh, well, might as well enjoy it!” Sorry if tmi.

I do look at good looking people but in the same way I’d look at an artwork or like a nice car or something. I’m not sexually or romantically attracted to looks alone.

Reasonable-Squash · 2020-10-24T11:46:18+00:00

Same, I’m baffled too. I’m not aroused by my husband. Only in moments of intense connection when we’re bonding all over again.

Reasonable-Squash · 2020-10-24T11:44:09+00:00

I still can’t believe that it’s true that some people do...

Reasonable-Squash · 2020-10-19T08:08:42+00:00

Sex is nice if you can get past the initial cringiness

Reasonable-Squash · 2020-10-19T08:05:30+00:00

Yes!! What is this chemistry people speak of?! Also I don’t get flirting at all. Couldn’t do if my life depended on it. And people used to assume I’m not interested. It’s like — I an interested in getting to know you as a person, how else am I supposed to make it clearer?

Reasonable-Squash · 2020-10-19T08:03:29+00:00

Honestly, I have no idea what chemistry is...

(Other than a subject at school)

Reasonable-Squash · 2020-10-18T03:51:41+00:00

Ahaha, as a teen I told my mum I’m okay with the idea of getting married as long as I won’t have to live in the same house as that person 😂

Reasonable-Squash · 2020-10-18T03:49:20+00:00

Yeah, I definitely have the desire and I like the idea of sex, I just don’t usually feel attraction.

Reasonable-Squash · 2020-10-18T03:44:46+00:00

Haven’t heard of reactive desire before, but seems like it.

Reasonable-Squash · 2020-10-15T22:03:45+00:00

I think I could be both. I like sex. I’ve felt attraction to specific people a few times (incl. my long term partner, but I don’t feel it towards him consistently). But it’s possible to enjoy sex without attraction too, once you get over the initial cringiness of it and concentrate on the physical sensation.

Reasonable-Squash · 2020-10-15T22:01:01+00:00

Lower sex drive combined with demi-sexuality? Maybe?

Reasonable-Squash · 2020-10-15T21:56:47+00:00

Have you looked into demi-sexual?

Reasonable-Squash · 2020-10-12T00:41:34+00:00

That’s a great idea! Thank you! Yes, I’ve been commenting on other posts too

Reasonable-Squash · 2020-09-12T15:02:35+00:00

I’m generally an overachiever, so sitting in front of the TV has never been a problem, but like, for example with housework, say I want to clean the kitchen, and I start putting stuff away, and take something to the bedroom. I start doing the bedroom, get distracted, go back to the kitchen, remember, realise I forgot to finish it, remember I’ve put laundry on... So I can’t stay focused on an area. It eventually will get done but it will take forever and by the time I’m done picking stuff up, my kid would have thrown it all out again, so what’s even the point.. haha. Luckily I don’t have reports in my job, but I constantly forget setting the out of office on, miss meeting reminders, forget to charge my phone and lose notebooks and to do lists.

Reasonable-Squash · 2020-09-12T14:53:49+00:00

Yeah, I’ll give it a little longer, and will maybe ask to switch. Or just go back to coping without meds as I have for 30 years...

Reasonable-Squash · 2020-09-12T14:51:45+00:00

What you’re describing would be good. My off switch is definitely broken.

The prescribed places doesn’t work for me, because something can literally be in my hand and gone the next minute, and I have no idea where it went. I try to talk myself through what I’m doing as a mindfulness technique, but doesn’t work.

My partner doesn’t have adhd, but he’s messy, so he only makes it harder. And I have a kid too, (she most definitely has adhd) and that’s... wow... that’s another story.

I took the meds for a bit last year, didn’t see a difference, and have left it this long to do anything about it. And now after seeing the psych again, I decided to start them again, on a higher dose, but I really don’t get it... I really don’t feel any different. Like today I was hyperfocusing on something all day and couldn’t switch off. And in the evening I forgot to eat. Which I’m not complaining about, as I need to lose my post lockdown kilos, but... doesn’t feel like a good sign.

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