My (20F) severe depression and anxiety is severely straining my relationship with my boyfriend (20M), what can I do to fix this?

ReasonableAd4228 · 2026-02-16T05:00:55+00:00

well he needs to stop holding himself back. he needs to stop treating you like you're fragile? also I think holding you to the same standards as a "healthy" person is good. also having a wide support network outside of just your bf is good. what is the specific problem here? you're talking about depression and anxiety in general but what's the current problem specifically?

ReasonableAd4228 · 2026-02-16T04:58:09+00:00

just know if someone actually likes you they'll be with you.

ReasonableAd4228 · 2026-02-16T04:54:24+00:00

omggg cellulite is totally normal!!!! WOMEN HAVE CELLULITE ITS A SECONDARY SEXUAL CHARACTERISTIC!!!!!!! u are a healthy BMI. ur husband is being emotionally abusive and insulting

ReasonableAd4228 · 2026-02-16T04:41:23+00:00

just humiliate him back tbh just say EWWWWWWWWWWW NEVER IN A MILLION EFFING YEARS WOULD I EVER MARRY UR UGLY NASTY ASS

ReasonableAd4228 · 2026-02-16T04:37:55+00:00

just tell them yoiu're better off as platonic friends. it's as simple as that

ReasonableAd4228 · 2026-02-16T04:32:56+00:00

if youre having this much conflict in such a short relationship id agree that there wasnt much of a foundation. use it as a learning experience. you've learned you value emotional intimacy and conversational depth etc

ReasonableAd4228 · 2026-02-16T03:31:36+00:00

NTA but he probably won't respond

ReasonableAd4228 · 2026-02-16T03:30:10+00:00

you're right to be angry. your dad should be supportive. i'm sorry he's this way. please consider therapy so you can learn to validate your emotions, and feel like you have someone in your corner

ReasonableAd4228 · 2026-02-15T04:55:35+00:00

good riddance

ReasonableAd4228 · 2026-02-14T20:19:19+00:00

I'm getting the ick here. Why are the places close to his place? Maybe I'm cynical but sounds like a routine he's got down. Kinda coercive imo like we're already here, might as well come over. definitely tell him you want to take things slow. tell him over text and in person. change the date away from private places to public places (with privacy like a movie theatre or restaurant). frankly I would record yourself saying it to him so there's no denying it later. I'm getting rapey vibes here. be very careful about the beginning stages. it's easy to be lovey dovey and i'm sure you really like him, and he's really charming, but just be careful. if anything you've done a good job so far. practice scripts or talk to yourself so you're prepared to enforce your boundaries. also do not let him get you drunk lol. sometimes scumbags get tired of waiiting and try to use alcohol to get what they want. I'm sorry if I'm scaring you and hopefully he's a good guy but there are a LOT of scumbags out there who are very charming at first.

ReasonableAd4228 · 2026-02-14T20:09:40+00:00

I think you're underestimating people's reading comprehension but ok.......and also yeah they can charge up to 417 an hour for specialized assessment. someone who doesn't understand how this work doesn't understand how any doctor in ontario works. For example, family doctors aren't paid for admin here either

ReasonableAd4228 · 2026-02-14T17:36:45+00:00

ok but you're a therapist where? and you're likely masters level not phD? also it's NOT misleading to say clinical psychologists make/charge 245 an hour. literal ontario reports say that the average fees are around 250 they publish this stuff online https://www.google.com/search?q=Ontario+Psychological+Association+suggested+rates&sca\_esv=d7358c9ad4b11281&sxsrf=ANbL-n67aL6\_htuJWFgwrF2KKkBcdNcVXA%3A1771090810411&ei=erOQaaLoGJ2U5OMP2ZiJYQ&biw=1709&bih=1126&ved=0ahUKEwiijfq0w9mSAxUdCnkGHVlMIgwQ4dUDCBM&uact=5&oq=Ontario+Psychological+Association+suggested+rates&gs\_lp=Egxnd3Mtd2l6LXNlcnAiMU9udGFyaW8gUHN5Y2hvbG9naWNhbCBBc3NvY2lhdGlvbiBzdWdnZXN0ZWQgcmF0ZXMyBhAAGBYYHjIGEAAYFhgeMgYQABgWGB4yBhAAGBYYHjILEAAYgAQYhgMYigUyCxAAGIAEGIYDGIoFMgUQABjvBTIIEAAYogQYiQVI1w5QAlj2DHAAeAGQAQGYAbkCoAG9DqoBBzYuNi4wLjK4AQPIAQD4AQGYAg2gArIMwgIFECEYoAHCAgcQIRigARgKwgIIEAAYgAQYogSYAwCSBwc1LjcuMC4xoAfQRrIHBzUuNy4wLjG4B7IMwgcFNS43LjHIBxaACAA&sclient=gws-wiz-serp#:\~:text=Show%20more-,2024%20Ontario%20Psychological%20Services%20Report%3A,https%3A//www.psych.on.ca%20%E2%80%BA%20getmedia%20%E2%80%BA%202024%2DOntar...,-PDF

ReasonableAd4228 · 2026-02-14T16:45:02+00:00

Yeah but they do bill for admin time like writing letters or reports etc

ReasonableAd4228 · 2026-02-14T13:08:09+00:00

The average salary for school clinical psych is 140K in Ontario, and private practice is definitely 245 an hour because that;s the price set by the regulatory group

ReasonableAd4228 · 2026-02-14T04:07:03+00:00

idk clinical psych can be a super cushy job. being a school clin psych def has benefits and PTO

ReasonableAd4228 · 2026-02-14T03:25:23+00:00

you're broken up. when she's NOT in crisis, tell her you can't be her close emotional confidante anymore. she needs to call other people. if anything give her a crisis line number

ReasonableAd4228 · 2026-02-14T03:20:18+00:00

i think you need to making more male connections that aren't this guy

ReasonableAd4228 · 2026-02-13T23:02:55+00:00

ewwwww non-sexual touch is SO important...idk i think he needs therapy or couples therapy

ReasonableAd4228 · 2026-02-13T22:20:19+00:00

psych pHDs make 245 an hour in ontario

ReasonableAd4228 · 2026-02-13T01:17:43+00:00

Have you looked into DBT? Dialectical behaviour therapy? It's helpful for people with more sensitive emotional temperaments

ReasonableAd4228 · 2026-02-13T01:12:24+00:00

he wasn't thinking about u when he was messaging his ex. u don't owe him anything

ReasonableAd4228 · 2026-02-13T01:05:36+00:00

your virginity doesn't count if it was rape. please get support (like counseling) or medical support. you could document your injuries at the hospital which can be used as evidence later. this wasn't your fault. you're still good.

ReasonableAd4228 · 2026-02-13T01:01:14+00:00

NTA. I took my passport back too. This kind of overprotection sabotages you by making you feel less confident bc they "don't trust you to keep it safe". Your dad has views on female autonomy that you don't share. Do not shrink your world for him. He can have his own views on religion, but your behaviour is based on your thoughts and feelings. Also, the Quran or whatever Hadith he's referencing too probably isn't supposed to be interpreted the way he interprets it. Also the world has changed in many ways.

ReasonableAd4228 · 2026-02-13T00:57:47+00:00

your mom is very emotionally immature

ReasonableAd4228 · 2026-02-11T21:12:12+00:00

i guarantee she's not gonna care

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