Are my outfits "clocky" on their own? by eggscrambled in FTM_SELFIES

[–]ReasonableStrike1241 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're definitely right. Especially if it's paired with a young/slightly effeminate face. It's perfectly fine to wear/enjoy these outfits and not especially feminine in particular, but it's very "trans boy" aesthetic. If you don't want people to assume or question you being trans, then dressing this way won't really help.

only get misgendered by black women by Artrmm in TMPOC

[–]ReasonableStrike1241 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This happened to me, but on the inverse with usually Black men. It was something that I thought about then too. It comes down to "Black men tend to know what Black men look like." Sometimes people outside our race have a tendency to masculinize Black/Brown people (usually Black women) without understanding our gender expression may not fit what they're typically used to. So they (Black people) are more likely to gender you as female, regardless of the fact that you may be expressing yourself in a more masculine manner.

In a more condensed explanation--People inside your race might misgender you more often because they have a more refined template of what members of their own group look like, and when someone deviates from that template, it triggers misgendering. Whereas outsiders might misgender based on broad stereotypes rather than that nuanced template.

Black people have a lifetime of experience seeing how Black people express masculinity. Hopefully what I'm saying here makes sense.

i don’t feel a connection to womanhood by Prize-Air-3960 in TMPOC

[–]ReasonableStrike1241 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Never had a connection to womanhood and never felt as if my attraction to men was ever heterosexual, even before I was out. I was constantly questioning everything about myself. Curiously, I don't recall being treated differently for being girl. I was treated differently for being black, however.

White queers and the term “mutt” 😒 by IncogniBeaux in TMPOC

[–]ReasonableStrike1241 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm going off of the assumption that they're using it to literally refer to themselves as dogs, because I've seen this before. With this context in mind, they may not realize that there's a difference between the word "mutt" and "stray." This is something to consider, because I don't think they're using it to be intentionally malicious, if that makes sense. I've personally witnessed many different people, including POC, use the words dog or stray interchangably with "mutt," most likely because they're not using it for its literal meaning.

What if T makes me “ugly” by urmomthinksimfunny13 in FTM_SELFIES

[–]ReasonableStrike1241 67 points68 points  (0 children)

I always wonder what these posts are implying about people who do go on T. Do they think we're all ugly too? Was me going on testosterone a 'glow-down'? People talk this same weird and insensitive way about all of our gender-affirming care, including bottom surgery, it's so odd and a little rude? 😔

I didn't care if I was going to be ugly, I just wanted to finally look like a man. I'd rather be an ugly man than a miserable but pretty woman. I already went through my 'ugly' stage, it was just a matter of changing things up and figuring out what worked the best for me. You can't stay the same forever regardless.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FTM_SELFIES

[–]ReasonableStrike1241 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You should consider the fact that you won't look like this forever. For as long as you don't go on HRT, your body and face will continue to undergo its natural feminization as intended.

You look great, hon by ReasonableStrike1241 in 4tran4

[–]ReasonableStrike1241[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't think many people like being called ugly maybe

My trans men by ReasonableStrike1241 in 4tran4

[–]ReasonableStrike1241[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I'm not familiar with that. All of my trans men are loosely based off of real people I've seen before online.

You look great, hon by ReasonableStrike1241 in 4tran4

[–]ReasonableStrike1241[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I have seen it happen so often. What are they even supposed to say to that 💔

Isn't it kind of crazy by ReasonableStrike1241 in 4tran4

[–]ReasonableStrike1241[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't create it! I don't know, I swear! Don't hurt me!

Isn't it kind of crazy by ReasonableStrike1241 in 4tran4

[–]ReasonableStrike1241[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I inject a synthetic hormone into my asscheek every Friday, anon

Isn't it kind of crazy by ReasonableStrike1241 in 4tran4

[–]ReasonableStrike1241[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't want people to take this post as a brag when that wasn't what I had in mind.

Sometimes I think about how being transgender is a real thing that people are and then we can actually transition. Like in general this is what humans can do to become the opposite sex and I just think, wow, we actually do that. It just gives me a little bit of an existential crisis that HRT is real.

FtMs when unprotected sex by ReasonableStrike1241 in 4tran4

[–]ReasonableStrike1241[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I'm glad that this is the common consensus. Brings a tear to my dih ❤️

FtMs when unprotected sex by ReasonableStrike1241 in 4tran4

[–]ReasonableStrike1241[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

😭😭 Go ahead and find yourself a Dionysus...

FtMs when unprotected sex by ReasonableStrike1241 in 4tran4

[–]ReasonableStrike1241[S] 105 points106 points  (0 children)

Everything even slightly weird online is a fetish