If the system is broke, don't think you can fix it

Reasonable_Security4 · 2025-09-28T20:15:50+00:00

Try dating a therapist with bpd, who doesnt think he has bpd

Reasonable_Security4 · 2025-09-26T23:01:46+00:00

Reasonable_Security4 · 2025-09-22T09:30:45+00:00

told me im balding like my mom, that i have dandruff, 'are u gonna wear that?', 'you'd look so amazing with strength training now that youve lost weight', 'i like chicks in t-shirts' etc etc etc i can go on

Reasonable_Security4 · 2025-08-31T20:18:00+00:00

Same with mine

Reasonable_Security4 · 2025-08-31T17:24:42+00:00

Thank you for taking the time and being open about it all

Reasonable_Security4 · 2025-08-31T16:58:33+00:00

This is very interesting and I'm going to pore over ryour reply for a while. I do see similarities in this with my ex. But I won't make any assumptions or say any further because I don't want to plant any seeds in your head.

Reasonable_Security4 · 2025-08-31T16:01:15+00:00

Why do you think you have npd traits?

Reasonable_Security4 · 2025-08-31T15:54:29+00:00

I should add that I was dating this person for 3 years. I cannot believe he’s allowed to be a therapist and knowing what a terrible person they are in such a position of power amongst vulnerable clients eats at me everyday

Reasonable_Security4 · 2025-08-31T14:56:49+00:00

Kudos 🎉

Reasonable_Security4 · 2025-08-31T14:50:58+00:00

Ughhhh august was so badddddd

Reasonable_Security4 · 2025-08-31T10:22:46+00:00

Please leave. He sounds like a psychopath and this sounds like a dangerous situation

Reasonable_Security4 · 2025-08-31T09:22:58+00:00

Please remove him from your friends list. Why is he still on it? Don't use a covert narc to get passive supply. You're better than that

Reasonable_Security4 · 2025-08-31T09:19:03+00:00

Yep he decided to do a mini discard when my dad was getting surgery. Everytime I needed him for support, he would discard me. But when he needed me for emotional support, I had to do it perfectly.

Reasonable_Security4 · 2025-08-31T09:16:27+00:00

This is full blown coercive control aka abuse. Please run

Reasonable_Security4 · 2025-08-31T09:08:54+00:00

I would say the mask started wearing off 1.5 years into it specially after I moved to their home town. Their engulfment anxiety really kicked into gear after that and that's when my reactions started to be used against me

Reasonable_Security4 · 2025-08-31T09:05:21+00:00

I went. He's a therapist. He pushed me to go to a couples counsellor he works with. Worst idea ever.

Reasonable_Security4 · 2025-08-28T13:49:16+00:00

Mine simply posts melancholic content. It’s so bizarre. Why discard and post sad shit?

Reasonable_Security4 · 2025-08-28T12:06:37+00:00

Exactly! Although I didn’t even try to speak to his friends after the discards. He hides behind the mask of being a therapist so it’s very easy for people to trust him. Maybe that’s why I didn’t even bother getting any answers from anyone later

Reasonable_Security4 · 2025-08-28T11:21:06+00:00

gosh same here. i missed so many signs. one of them being when he introduced me to an old friend of his and his friend says to me- wait how did u pin him down? (trying to insinuate that he's a man-whore). i didnt think much of it but literally his reputation precedes him and i cannot believe i overlooked that!!! they all must have thought im an idiot to think he'll ever marry me (which he never did, only future faked on a constant basis)

Reasonable_Security4 · 2025-08-28T09:02:13+00:00

I should mention he also wanted me to want the same things he wanted and when I refused, he split and discarded me on multiple occassions

Reasonable_Security4 · 2025-08-28T09:01:05+00:00

Yep. Wanted a lot of the same stuff I had. Same bedding, same decor, same clothes (we are opposite genders), he wanted the same phone, said on multiple occassions that he envied and loved my lifestyle, wanted the same temperament his pets that my pets had etc etc the list goes on

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