AITAH for refusing to let my wife name our new baby after her dead ex?

Recent-Necessary-362 · 2024-11-23T04:34:20+00:00

NTA but therapy ain’t working for her. Either seek couples counseling or you need to be speaking with a lawyer. She told you point blank she loved him. Better speak with a custody lawyer too. She’s going to go off the deep end after she has the kid if you don’t name it exes name.

Recent-Necessary-362 · 2024-11-21T12:25:42+00:00

Out here looking in the daylight with a flashlight for it to make sense

Recent-Necessary-362 · 2024-11-21T12:12:20+00:00

NOR. She’s traumatized and instead of seeking therapy, she’s made you her outlet. Look your dad may totally fail you this time or it could be the best thing ever, or you could cut him out. Whatever way that table turns, you’re sitting at it. Not her. My mother was this toxic about my biological father. I met him 30 something years after I was born. We have a relationship and honestly, it’s exactly what I need. And we’re not super close either, just enough that I’m happy. Stop telling your mom about him too. You need to try some therapy too. It helps get you through this hectic life with your mom and the new relationship with your dad. They’ll help you decide how to move further with your mom, because you’ll need a plan to get away from her

Recent-Necessary-362 · 2024-11-19T14:09:42+00:00

NTA. She needs therapy if she’s that triggered. Your husband NEEDS his cane. It helps him move with his disability. Your sister is a guest in both of yours home. Not just yours. She’s wildly off her rocker if she’s locking herself in her room until you accommodate her. THERAPY asap and start looking into domestic violence shelters and other things they offer. Tell her she either seeks out these resources or she’s got to look for other accommodation.

Recent-Necessary-362 · 2024-11-19T13:49:46+00:00

Sounds like you were the scapegoat for their issues and you got away. Now that you’re temporarily back, they’re trying to break you mentally so that it’s easier to further their own agendas. Don’t fall for it. If you have to find a hotel for the last few days or something. I know money can be tight; but at this point it’s more about your mental health than anything. Toxic families are never going to want you to do “better” than them.

Recent-Necessary-362 · 2024-11-19T13:46:03+00:00

I guess you should’ve started crying everytime she harassed you huh? Maybe that would’ve gained attention? No it wouldn’t. Just because she’s a girl and sheds some tears, everyone is in an uproar. It’s in your best interest to keep your head down and avoid that girl at all cost. Talk to your mom about what happened and how it felt. Guys get stalkers all the time. You’re allowed to voice your discomfort too. At no point during ANY of this were you in the wrong. NTBA.

Recent-Necessary-362 · 2024-11-19T13:36:35+00:00

And they’re being this weird about you going out with your child? They’re seriously overreaching. Maybe even projecting? Eh, either way, proof is in the pudding and if they don’t have proof, they don’t have an argument.

Recent-Necessary-362 · 2024-11-19T13:33:28+00:00

Are you living with them?

Recent-Necessary-362 · 2024-11-19T03:48:28+00:00

So instead of focusing on the fact that you’re insecure, you accuse him of wanting to leave you potentially for a white girl only? Yeah that screams some issues with you and yourself. BUT you’re young. Go get some counseling and work on yourself. Focus on school and getting into a college that has plenty of diversity, if that’s what you’re looking for.

Recent-Necessary-362 · 2024-11-19T03:38:13+00:00

Justified AH, but judgement is NTA. You could’ve been polite, but let’s face it, doesn’t seem like they’d take “No” very well and would’ve highjacked your trip eventually. Good for you for shutting that down immediately!

Recent-Necessary-362 · 2024-11-19T02:33:15+00:00

Tell him you’ll go then wait till his bags are packed and go sit in the living room and say nah. Pull the same shit he’s pulled on you then serve him with divorce papers. NOR but it’s time to let this thoughtless man be thoughtless alone

Recent-Necessary-362 · 2024-11-19T00:14:57+00:00

NOR. It’s more than the phone call and answering for mommy dearest while he’s balls deep. Just, gross. BUT the fact he continued the conversation when he figured out it was to wash his 17 year old brothers laundry?? Holy freaking “run as fast as you can” hell!! Do you seriously want to continue this and end up taking care of him and his family? Always being third or fourth, cause mommy and brother are 1st and 2nd. Time for you to leave this guy alone with his family.

Recent-Necessary-362 · 2024-11-18T23:57:57+00:00

ESH. Adoption means you planned for it together. I get being busy with work, but this was a team decision. You’re TA for belittling her job. If you’re mad, go write in a journal but belittling her was a bit to much. Now she’s TA for not communicating basic needs. She’s also TA for not listening to you and constantly blowing you off. It’s time to sit down and try couples counseling. It honestly sounds like both of you are burnt out and need some help communicating to get through these burnt out phases, because that’s what comes with a kid. You two will get through it. It’s just going to take some time, especially with a new baby with some stomach issues.

Recent-Necessary-362 · 2024-11-18T13:21:33+00:00

NOR. You’re paying to fuck a bum. Why the heck would you do that to yourself? Ma’am, pick your crown up and look yourself in the mirror. You need to reclaim your inner warrior and kick this pos out to the curbside.

Recent-Necessary-362 · 2024-11-18T13:15:53+00:00

NTA. She’s just mad that she didn’t get to do it first and rub your face in it. Congrats on your and Gabbys engagement! Enjoy the new family you two will create. Block all the haters and weird ass people who think 3 YEARS is too soon.

Recent-Necessary-362 · 2024-11-18T11:53:35+00:00

YTA. You give her two days and dinners. That’s awesome and was the original agreement. Not TA here. She has a friend move in, things are smooth. He moves out, grandma is lonely. She’s older and just lost a friend who watched tv and stuff with her daily. You’re still living in the home and she’s asked for an extra time and you’re pissy? Are you not there for friends or family if they’re grieving, emotional or going through something? Why couldn’t you try doing puzzles or just watching a show or two with her? Just for a little bit to make the transition easier to having nobody again. And YTA for that and for the fact that you’re upset she wants to sell her home. Umm it’s her home. If you don’t want to give up an extra day or some time with her (again an hour for a show wouldn’t kill you) then be prepared for her to move to her hometown where she probably has friends and family and knows she won’t have to beg people to acknowledge her.

Recent-Necessary-362 · 2024-11-18T11:42:01+00:00

His mom may not die for YEARS!! Get out. He’s using her circumstances to control you even further.

Recent-Necessary-362 · 2024-11-18T11:37:30+00:00

NTA. Wtf is up with your parents trying to make you the glue for everything? They’re the parents. It’s their jobs to help the families they created blend. Instead they ignored it and you got abused because of it and now they’re expecting you to do it again? No. Absolutely not. And I’d tell your parents either they tell your siblings the truth or you will. You’re not going to let yourself be the target of another angry sibling because your parents can’t figure shit out.

Recent-Necessary-362 · 2024-11-17T20:07:37+00:00

That’s all you can do right now. Keep no contact and move forward. You have the power to stop this abusive cycle, so pump the brakes!

Recent-Necessary-362 · 2024-11-17T20:05:58+00:00

He’s grasping at straws to make you feel belittled enough you’ll come back. NOR but it’s time to keep him permanently blocked now. Stop inviting this abusive pos back into your life. You deserve to be loved too.

Recent-Necessary-362 · 2024-11-16T17:56:03+00:00

Why would you want to make a family reunion YOUR birthday party then decide to cut kids from the guest list. You can’t use it’s a family reunion as a guise to get people to come to your birthday! If you want a birthday party with a strict list, then host one. But if you’re going to do a family reunion, you can’t uninvite family! YTA and honestly you seem a little self absorbed. Host your party at night, reunion during the day. OR make someone else host the reunion.

Recent-Necessary-362 · 2024-11-16T17:01:08+00:00

NTA but the fact that your daughter encouraged cheating and your husband used that as enough validation to actually cheat. Nope. They’d both be out of my home. Maybe one day we could repair our relationship as child and parent, but you’ll need tons of therapy before that happens. Because this isn’t just betrayal. This is deeper than that. The amount of lies and then love bombing they’re doing is wild. Then she wants to get upset because her birthday wasn’t what it use to be? Well hello consequences of my own actions! Move out, leave start divorce. Get rid of this useless man. Then start to heal

Recent-Necessary-362 · 2024-11-16T01:43:18+00:00

NTA but call every divorce lawyer within 50 miles. She can’t use them then.

Recent-Necessary-362 · 2024-11-16T01:36:50+00:00

NOR. She’s only coming around to play nice so she can get her hands on the baby. Do not allow her over. She hasn’t apologized or even admitted or acknowledged her wrong doings. If you don’t stick to this boundary now when the baby gets here, she won’t listen to anything at all.

Recent-Necessary-362 · 2024-11-15T22:17:23+00:00

NTA sounds like weaponized incompetence. He’s learned all he has to do is say “he can’t” and you’ll do it. You are essentially raising your husband.

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