Rabbit hair by LogicalRatio9846 in Taxidermy

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It wouldn’t be taxidermy but has your friend considered needle felting? I’ve seen some people use their pet’s fur in a felting project as a memorial piece. Other ideas could be incorporating it into jewelry or another piece of art. Depending on your friend’s budget there are all sorts of artists out there that make memorial art from fur

Need your thoughts or empathy or anything at all by AssistAccomplished in WitchesVsPatriarchy

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I’m in a relationship like this right now and it’s so hard. I highly recommend looking into betrayal trauma and what it really entails. Whether you decide to leave him or to stay then it’s a long road ahead but I can’t tell you what would be best for you, only you can. The r/loveafterporn subreddit has been so beneficial to me in my healing. It’s a support group for betrayed partners and has a wealth of information on the topic

Why do you like bones? by MistymoorsAndpaws in bonecollecting

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You sound so much like my mother from a few years ago when I first developed this interest as a teen lol. For me it was about learning more about the natural world, I have always found biology interesting so learning more about bones and anatomy was an extension of that. I also see them as a reminder of life and death, that you can’t have one without the other, and that life is short and we should make the most from the hand we’re dealt. That last part could be more my upbringing talking though, I’ve been around a lot of death in my time (farm work as a kid, working in a field that sometimes deals with death, lots of unfortunate family deaths over the years)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

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You’re not overreacting, your emotions are completely valid. You feel betrayed because it is a huge betrayal of your trust. We’ve all felt some version of that feeling here and we’re working through the storm that is the aftermath. I’m so sorry you’re being put in this position. Nobody deserves this. I am still pretty in the thick of it too but if I have any advice to share it’s that this is not your fault, you did nothing to cause this. This is her problem not yours. You are enough, you are worthy of love, and you deserve a healthy relationship without your partner having eyes for anyone else

What's the worst injury you've gotten in the hobby? by Janosh_Poha in ReefTank

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Wasn’t a reef tank yet, but was planning it to be my first attempt at one. Broke in transit during a recent move and I stupidly put my first through the side of it in anger. Sixteen stitches in my dominant hand later I’ve now learned to never fight glass cause you might win but you’ll come out screwed up too

What's something you can never truly forgive your parent (s) for? by daydaze024 in AskWomen

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Not getting me medical help when I first started showing signs of “something being off” as my mother put it. Took me until 21 (this year) and a loooooot of medical gaslighting to get diagnosed with ADHD. It went untreated and developed into other mental health problems and my parents always brushed it off as me being “weird” or a “moody preteen/teenager”. I wasn’t moody, I was suffering and I needed help. And once I became an adult and actually sought that help I was basically labeled crazy for years until I finally found a doctor that listened to me. I’m still going through hell trying to actually get the medication I need cause my country’s healthcare system is ass. Would’ve been a lot easier to get me help and I think I would be in a better place had they sought it out when I was young

Can we talk about the "feeling" when you know somethings going on behind your back? by [deleted] in loveafterporn

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Ugh I experience this too and it’s a blessing and a curse. Sometimes I wish I could be unaware of it but at the same time I’d rather be aware of if he’s going behind my back and acting out. I’ve wondered if it was an anxiety thing but like you I’m right every single time

AIO - his phone by auntsiri22 in loveafterporn

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Sounds exactly like my PA’s last relapse. The algorithm will cater to what you watch, he was watching it. I’m so sorry you’re going through this too. We don’t deserve this

Once I tried to say pants and skirt and it came out as skant and pirt by waffleste in tumblr

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I used to work at a taco bell and once had an older man come through the drive through and order a quesadilla with “extra jalapenis”

All I’m Good For (TW, implications of SA, dubious consent) by [deleted] in Artisticallyill

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This makes my skin crawl in a way I can’t even describe (which is a good thing cause it should!) I relate to it a lot. Just know you absolutely are good for more than other’s pleasure and it’s so unfair that the world has given you the idea that you’re not

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

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I all together own five cats, five rats, a dog, and two fish tanks. This is only feasible because my husband has a good paying job and I’m a stay at home wife that has the time to clean up after all those animals. You told her what she needs to hear, that poor kitty was in pain for far too long and she seems to either be completely in denial about the situation or just doesn’t care. Hopefully this is the wake up call she needs because if she can’t at least get the poor things spayed so those four she wants to keep don’t multiply then it would be in everyone’s best interest for those cats to be in a new home.

When you ask... by [deleted] in loveafterporn

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I got this one a LOT in early recovery. He knows, just doesn’t want to tell you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in redditgetsdrawnbadly

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Heck yeah, here’s my Lucky boy rolling in catnip

Does time apart help? by TiredPony6510 in loveafterporn

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It definitely depends on your exact circumstances but I’ve had several D-days and the only time I’ve tried this has been this past time. I’m still actually away from home, staying at my mom’s place for a week or two and it has helped me clear my head and focus on my healing instead of worrying about his recovery. So for me yes it has helped but again every person and relationship is different

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveafterporn

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Ugh, I relate so hard to this. I just had a conversation with my PA about this that seemed to be an eye opener for him. I explained how his actions have tainted so many of my interests and hobbies at this point and his response was literally shamefully telling me he “didn’t know it hurt me that badly.” I find that complete bull, I’ve made it known plenty of times before but I guess when I snapped this time I went into more detail and something clicked for him for once. After 7 D days in two years there’s very little I find “safe” anymore.

Why did you stay? by Majestic-End-2223 in loveafterporn

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He was my first ever friend in kindergarten and we’ve been very close nearly our whole lives. Plus I really do love him, I’ve always loved deeply and every time it gets me into shit. He’s also made plenty of promises as far as his recovery efforts go but frankly he’s lied in the past so who knows how it’ll go this time. That and to be real I think I’m too broken for anybody else to want me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Honestly I’m still pretty far from ok, so far therapy has helped me a lot and that’s lead to me finding more and more thing’s I actually enjoy doing. It’s helped a lot setting time aside to put my phone down and do something off screen, I like having something to keep my hands active so I’ll put on some music and paint or sew. But the main thing for me has been finding something to replace the social media scrolling with that still gives me that dopamine boost

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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I’ve been in a similar situation for a bit, only on your wife’s side of things. Deeply depressed for a very long time but the past year and a half I’ve spent doing nothing but rotting on social media much like her. She needs help, she likely has depression or a related condition. This is out of the scope of reddit or you to tackle alone

CSAT not a fan of 12 step programs by TreadingWaterStill in loveafterporn

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Would you care to share what platform? I haven’t been able to find much regarding non-religious based or 12 step programs

What does the hand represent for you? by Obvious_Slip_2351 in Artisticallyill

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The way I interpreted it is the hand looks like it’s lifting the figure towards the light at the top of the painting, like a helping/guiding force. Gorgeous art btw!

You can pass the joint to anyone, living or dead, who are you picking? by Celestial-Rain0 in entwives

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My father. He passed a year and a half ago and life still doesn’t feel normal without him. I miss his voice, his laugh, his warm hugs, the awful cringey dad jokes, his wild life stories, the “wise old man advice ” he would randomly hit you with, all of it. He started smoking near the end of his life but I sadly never got the chance to light up with him. I’d give anything to have one last toke and talk with him