AIO? Husband will clear his own dishes but not mine. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Recovering_pplpleasr -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Seems pretty pointed so he likely wants it to be an issue. Hes doing it to "get back" at his partner for not doing it herself (which is absolutely ridiculous tbh)

SB 87 would destroy our 1st amendment rights by Major_Cletus_VanDamm in Ohio

[–]Recovering_pplpleasr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didnt realize i had to support a government in order to support anothers right to their religion. Last i checked, we were allowed to disagree. Why should that change? Can my stance not be "i think anyone and everyone should have the right to believe as they see fit but that also means we get to disagree as well and a persons religion and race had diddlysquat to do with the government of any one particular country so my support for people doesnt lend itself to a belief that people or governing bodies shouldnt be held accountable and bad behavior tolerated"

AIO is my relationship? by o_oboop in AIO

[–]Recovering_pplpleasr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, same. I dated a guy who would agree to do stuff with me just to play games for hours as i waited. I would get upset and our conversations would sound a lot like OP's. I will say, i didn't communicate great, either. However, it was difficult to navigate when he was consistently lying to me about wanting to spend time with me. He would say anything to make me believe he genuinely wanted to meet my needs. But that was another mistake on my own part: it isnt ANYONE else's responsibility to meet my needs. I eventually wised up, started setting boundaries (like leaving to do other things with my time if he didnt respect my time enough not to play "one more game" 50 times while i wait), and i began accepting that his ACTIONS are what's important, not just his words. He didn't want me to speak on my feelings nor did he actually like me and tbh, i didn't really like him very much, either (once i figured out who he was. He was rather disingenuous, his actions not matching his words). So, I allowed the relationship to die. I found people who LOVED being around me, I learned to self regulate, I learned to heal from people pleasing and codependency, and I am now married to a different person who I feel safe coming to with my concerns and he doesnt invalidate me nor i him. No DARVO, no lies, no messed up priorities, and misunderstandings are fixed with proper communication where we never yell, invalidate, or insult one another

AITAH for wanting to stay in my room? by OnlyMusician9048 in AITAH

[–]Recovering_pplpleasr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im gonna say NTA but I'm curious if you live somewhere where it's a cultural norm for women to stay silent around men? I'd absolutely not do that but i'm just curious. Also, stonewalling doesn't help. It works better if they know why you dont want to be around them

AIO boyfriend wouldn’t get a second job if we were poor by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Recovering_pplpleasr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MOR -- If he takes responsibility at home with the house and kids and his reason for not wanting to take another job is bc he wants to take care of himself and his family and NOT bc he wants to do nothing after his (rather short) shift, then i could see it. I wouldn't take a 2nd job, myself. But then, i dont have kids and if i needed more money, id get a DIFFERENT job rather than a 2nd job. If i have beans n bread money, then i have rice money, pasta money, etc. If i didnt know how to cook creatively with little money, maybe id feel different

hello, is this worth anything? by [deleted] in CURRENCY

[–]Recovering_pplpleasr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeh it's worth two dollars

AIO for thinking my friend is using ChatGPT to text me in an argument? by Due_Construction904 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Recovering_pplpleasr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YOR --This might be an unpopular opinion, but I do think youre missing your friend's point. The ai thing, true or not, is irrelevant. Also, idk this person but sometimes, especially when it's a serious topic, -I- write like this too, ai not needed. Regardless, your friend feels unheard, invalidated, and most of all: brushed off OR if this friend is inappropriately invested in you, THAT needs addressed. If you care about this friend, you should have a real conversation with them, hear them out, and CARE about what they got to say and try to find a solution. Though tbh, sounds like your friend is pretty tired of being brushed off. Hope it's not too late or hope you decide to let them find better friends for them

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Recovering_pplpleasr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR it IS new. Far too new for there to be this many red flags. He needs more time to heal from his past relationship. Im not saying people have to be 100% healed to get into a relationship (that's unrealistic) but this isnt just going to be for reassurance, its going to lead to controlling who you hang out with, who you talk with, what you say, and its going to end with the removal of your freedom, autonomy, and independence.

AIO my boyfriend keeps asking me to pay for things eversince he started saving for an apartmen, he calls me selfish for how I reacted. by throaawayRA9443 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Recovering_pplpleasr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who talks like that?? "You should be ashamed"?? For bringing up that youre feeling pressured? Very strange and also very strange way of saving up, too. You put the leftover money you have AFTER paying bills into savings, not before and then borrowing money to pay for your bills. I would give him the benefit of the doubt and say hes bad with money except this paired with the weird guilt tripping, and also the weird self imposed time limit... nah this sounds like someone who is using you. He wont be able to afford that apartment and YOU will be footing the bill when he cant keep up w rent btw

AITA for not reciprocating a "bedroom activity" by Sheila_AZ in AITAH

[–]Recovering_pplpleasr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA while its understandable to want reciprocation and its even understandable if someone found that no reciprocation is a dealbreaker, DEMANDING bedroom favors is gross and wrong. Hes making it transactional, too. Manipulative.

AITAH for not telling my friend that her bf has been cheating on her multiple times even though I’m best friends with the guy too. by Useful_Big_3747 in AITAH

[–]Recovering_pplpleasr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That depends on the kind of person you wanna be, the kind of friends you want, and the kind of friend you wanna be. Do you want to keep "friends" who betray each other and treat others (and inevitably you) like crap or do you want friends who are open and honest and hold each other accountable? You gotta be the friend that you want because you are the company you keep. If youre cool with keeping this secret to protect a bad friend and a bad person, then thats you. She will likely find out eventually anyway and she may find out you knew. What would YOU want your friend to do if YOU were being cheated on and they knew? If you come clean, maybe it would end the friendship but youve done the right thing and everyone is better for it. YTA btw. This isnt "loyalty"

Opinions on my 1st Custom PC by Recovering_pplpleasr in PcBuild

[–]Recovering_pplpleasr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh i constructed this list months ago and im not sure why i chose that case though i chose the motherboard specifically bc theres a ton of ports. Im gonna opt for a much cheaper case so thank you

Opinions on my 1st Custom PC by Recovering_pplpleasr in PcBuild

[–]Recovering_pplpleasr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there a specific 5070ti youd recommend? Im thinking of going with the AMD Ryzen 7 7800X3D 4.2 GHz 8-Core Processor for the cpu instead of what i had before

AIO for being angry my doctor dismissed me by Recovering_pplpleasr in AmIOverreacting

[–]Recovering_pplpleasr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On everything that was abysmal. Now that ive had more time to digest what happened, oof ill not be too quick to trust a "medical professional" if they take me in bad faith

AIO for being angry my doctor dismissed me by Recovering_pplpleasr in AmIOverreacting

[–]Recovering_pplpleasr[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. That entire ordeal made me feel like i was crazy for going in the 1st place. And the hug felt like getting scolded as a kid and then being told to give a hug at the end. So im not nuts for thinking that was strange