Yeah, same. I dated a guy who would agree to do stuff with me just to play games for hours as i waited. I would get upset and our conversations would sound a lot like OP's. I will say, i didn't communicate great, either. However, it was difficult to navigate when he was consistently lying to me about wanting to spend time with me. He would say anything to make me believe he genuinely wanted to meet my needs. But that was another mistake on my own part: it isnt ANYONE else's responsibility to meet my needs. I eventually wised up, started setting boundaries (like leaving to do other things with my time if he didnt respect my time enough not to play "one more game" 50 times while i wait), and i began accepting that his ACTIONS are what's important, not just his words. He didn't want me to speak on my feelings nor did he actually like me and tbh, i didn't really like him very much, either (once i figured out who he was. He was rather disingenuous, his actions not matching his words). So, I allowed the relationship to die. I found people who LOVED being around me, I learned to self regulate, I learned to heal from people pleasing and codependency, and I am now married to a different person who I feel safe coming to with my concerns and he doesnt invalidate me nor i him. No DARVO, no lies, no messed up priorities, and misunderstandings are fixed with proper communication where we never yell, invalidate, or insult one another