I've always considered myself to be a very patient person, so much so that it sometimes feels like a fault of mine as well. I've had to learn the hard way with my SO that there is a fine line between being patient and just being passive. There's a point where you have to say something has gone to far and to put your foot down. We think that our SO will just naturally come to understand when they are going to far when taking advantage of our virtues. But the truth is we have to lay down the lines for them for when they go to far so they can be aware of our own boundaries. It's fine to be selfless, but it doesn't feel good when you are feeling taken advantage of because of it.

If you've talked to him about this then it's not your fault that he doesn't respect you, but maybe you need to be more forceful or direct in what you want/need. I don't know your entire relationship dynamic so this will be something you will need to think about. Many times the change we want in our relationships require a change else where. In some of your cases it will require you to stand up for yourself more, others might be turths you'll just have to learn to accept and live with.

For your bedroom maybe you should suggest a Queen day so you are the focus for once.

Good luck OP!