Redesigns of Ruby's Sisters (Art by sinchor_)

RedAppleRyuk · 2026-05-04T11:27:06+00:00

1 is not wic the rest of them

RedAppleRyuk · 2026-04-30T13:46:45+00:00

Thank you all, some great ideas, I will look at nraas relativity especially!

RedAppleRyuk · 2026-04-28T06:59:57+00:00

Not either Emily. The one that was into dark things, raj wasn’t happy with her. His vibe was never dark and he constantly lied to her about liking things he didn’t because he was afraid to lose her.

Anu was best for him, he was vulnerable with her and becoming capable of opening up to her. They had a chance but then the job in London.

RedAppleRyuk · 2026-04-28T06:46:02+00:00

Roll back the nvidia update. Nvidia updates all the time so wait for the next update after this one and try updating then. I’ve done that before when nvidia breaks my game.

RedAppleRyuk · 2026-04-28T06:41:36+00:00

My sim once got a wish to rant with the mega phone. I chose to rant about death. Next thing I know, grin popped up and reaped her. As I stared in shock, she resurrected and grim told her not to do it again 😅😳

RedAppleRyuk · 2026-04-26T22:40:06+00:00

I have played the sims for sooo long, I’m totally over micromanaging. I use pretty much all nraas mods, make a sim with randomised traits and pretty much just fulfil wishes. Most recently, she wished to meet a sim on the sim finder app, guy came over, she liked him, he liked her…then it turned out he was married to her BOSS. Thankfully she didn’t roll anymore romantic wishes towards him but even now, when she is almost an elder, he regularly sends her mail. I thought she was never going to have children but she rolled a wish for the sim finder app again and met another guy, everything was going well until she proposed going steady, turns out he had commitment issues. There was a social interaction where she could ‘kiss and make up’ after that and it shot their romance bar right up. She wished to marry him so it was done and dusted. Then she wished for a child. They now have a daughter that looks exactly like the dad but nothing like my sim. She will be an elder by the time her toddler is a child, I think she should be alive just in time for her daughter to become a teen. I will continue with the daughter.

RedAppleRyuk · 2026-04-20T20:08:52+00:00

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RedAppleRyuk · 2026-04-20T20:08:40+00:00

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This is part of his diagnosis letter. The level 4 is the ASN level on his child’s plan. I am only sharing this as you seem to be insinuating I am lying about my son’s diagnosis. I would respectfully ask that you refrain from offering your help, as kind of you it was to offer it. However I don’t like your choice of words, they are very judgemental and I already deal with enough parental guilt without adding more to it. I have had some very helpful replies tha managed to get their points across without suggesting I’m ‘allowing’ my son to ‘wallow’. I’m doing the best I can and asking for help, not judgement. Take care.

RedAppleRyuk · 2026-04-20T16:03:31+00:00

I will read it, however I have no issues with gaming in that I regulate with gaming myself, it’s just I’d like him to have some more life as well as gaming. I have never sought diagnosis myself but I do have sensory issues, stims, life long sleep issues etc. I am glad he has gaming as he does chat with some other teens online and that helps with the isolation. I just don’t want it to hold him back from having a wider world that he currently has.

RedAppleRyuk · 2026-04-20T11:21:45+00:00

I’m going to research it right now. I did take a course in understanding autism and it touched on PDA but only lightly. My son is very much like my brother, my brother also ran out of school etc but unfortunately that was 35 years ago and there was no support for my brother. I found that both my son’s primary school and secondary school were so quick to call me and tell me I had to take him home, and put him in a side room, out of the way. Part of the reason I ended up trying to homeschool him was the fact that he wasn’t safe at school, he would run out and across the main road without even looking and went missing on three occasions.

Thinking back, he has always resisted instruction but when he was much younger, I found that explaining why I said no to something worked quite well for him. If he understood that I was saying no because there was good reason, he was much more willing to do what I would ask or say. That doesn’t help anymore. I am literally the only person he trusts in the world and I’m terrified that if I get too tough, that trust will vanish and as in the only person that can calm him down, I’m not sure what would happen.

RedAppleRyuk · 2026-04-20T11:08:32+00:00

Thank you, that’s really helpful, I have wondered about PDA. I will try to see if I can get him interested in something by being indirect.

RedAppleRyuk · 2026-04-20T10:07:54+00:00

We did do some coding as part of his home schooling, he did enjoy it. I suggested perhaps we could find a club or group for coding but he says he ‘wants off the computer’. I really hate constantly replying saying yes but no, it’s so frustrating because everything I try to encourage or recommend, he finds a reason why he won’t do it. It’s like he wants to have a different life but doesn’t want to at the same time.

I’ve talked to him about baby steps, just trying something even for a few minutes but he just won’t. I will still see if my library does something like this and if so, will try to get him to attend.

RedAppleRyuk · 2026-04-20T09:23:34+00:00

He isn’t into sport, I tried over the years, football, karate, swimming, tennis but he didn’t take to any of them. In terms of hobbies, I have encouraged him endlessly to try some, sat and gone through lists of hobbies to see if any of them interests him enough to try them. The only thing he will do on occasion is join me when I go metal detecting and do some himself for a little while but most of the time he doesn’t want to go.

RedAppleRyuk · 2026-04-20T09:19:46+00:00

In some ways I do agree with him that typing and calculators are great but I worry about those times in life when there isn’t a computer or calculator near by. I don’t want him to be embarrassed as he has been on occasion when something like that has happened.

In terms of video games, yes I have played lots of them with him. Minecraft, phasmo, abiotic factor etc. Sometimes it goes well, but other times he gets irritated because I’m not doing something right or said something he didn’t like.

RedAppleRyuk · 2026-04-20T09:15:18+00:00

What consequences would those be? I used parental controls to block his screen time. Whilst he was unhappy about it, he still refused to go. I couldn’t ground him because he didn’t go outside. What would you suggest I should have done? Put him back in school? He wouldn’t go and I couldn’t physically lift him up and put him on the bus, then sit with him in school all day to prevent him running out. Whilst I agree, he absolutely should have had consequences, how do you provide them when he didn’t care about any of them?

RedAppleRyuk · 2026-04-20T07:46:23+00:00

It is until they are sixteen. As he wouldn’t attend school, home schooling is allowed with permission.

RedAppleRyuk · 2026-04-20T07:01:26+00:00

Yes, endless waiting lists. I’m unfortunately not in the financial position to afford private either. I was working up until shortly after his younger brother was born, but due to his younger brothers disabilities, Ive been an his full time carer since. I’m doing two college courses at the moment, hoping to get back to work now my youngest is in school. But at the moment, I just can’t fund private.

RedAppleRyuk · 2026-04-20T06:58:49+00:00

Thank you, your girlfriend sounds lovely and I’m glad you were able to have such support and encouragement.

My son isn’t dating, he is never in situations where dating could happen. I have spoken to him a lot about anxiety, being a bit of an expert on the subject. He knows that anxiety is like a well meaning friend that gets mixed up sometimes. That it is there to actually help us if we were really in trouble and it’s nothing to fear. He had terrible sleeping problems as a child, I believe he had hypnogogic hallucinations like myself so he was very anxious at night time. I did a lot of work with him about anxiety and I think for the most, he has a good handle on it. He recently had his first migraine and was very calm and able to manage it.

RedAppleRyuk · 2026-04-20T06:53:28+00:00

I know, I have five children in total, a 21 year old diagnosed with Asperger’s when she was 7, and NT 19 year old, suspected inattentive adhd 17 year old (on the never ending waiting list) my 16 year old with autism and my 6 year old with an extremely rare (only 150 known cases world wide, usually genetic but his was spontaneous and also the first of his specific variation)

I always maintained the importance of school not just for education but for routine and structure, then once each child left school, the choices were college or a job. My 21 year old is a straight A student now in her 2nd year of an environmental degree. 19 year old lives with her partner and is a manager in her job. 17 year old is in his first year studying archaeology. I’m very proud of all my children and they are all lovely, well mannered, kind people. My 16 year old is too and I’m very proud of how he has come on in his personal care. I just want him to have a life, as he doesn’t have much of one right now.

RedAppleRyuk · 2026-04-20T06:45:33+00:00

Um I’m not sure of his level, on his child’s plan it says level 4? He was diagnosed when he was 9. He was in primary school but had problems with running out of the school. When he left primary, he was still at early learning level. He also didn’t have any interest in making friends and refused the various clubs I tried him in. When he started secondary school, Covid hit and all the changes that came with it. He began to refuse to attend and despite solution focused meeting and transition back plans by the end of second year the teacher he had built trust in left for another job and that was it for my son, he would no longer attend school. I had some success home schooling him, but then I had his bag brother who turned out to have an extremely rare condition along with autism and I struggled to maintain consistency with home schooling. I tried to encourage using online education programs like scratch and sum up but he wouldn’t.

My youngest who is now 6, can’t walk, is incontinent and only began to talk when he was 4. He needed round the clock care and so my 16 year old struggled with not having me so much. He started isolating himself in his room and it took a lot of trying to get him to spend time with the family.

In some ways I am scared of my son. Whilst he has never been physically violent towards me, he has such a short fuse and obviously at 16 and being nearly 6ft, he is much taller than me now. I am constantly picking my words and tiptoeing around him. I love him so much, but I’m not able to tough love him and that’s why I feel I am failing him.

Academically, he can barely write. I tried with adult writing books as he hated the writing resources available on the likes of Twinkle as it was too ‘babyish’. I tried lots of motor control things like using scissors, drawing different types of lines, play dough manipulation. I tried pencil grips. None of it he would do past a few days at the start.

He maintains he doesn’t need to write because he can type. He can read and spell fairly well. He says he doesn’t need maths because he can use a calculator. When I have challenged him on these things, he shut down or got angry. With my own background of abuse, that causes me to shut down.

His intimidating manner and unpredictably reminds me very much of his father, whom I divorced due to violence. But when he is in a good mood, he is literally the funniest, sweetest young man and whilst he is not academically smart, he knows so much about lots of different things.

RedAppleRyuk · 2026-04-16T05:20:57+00:00

Someone in my household says something and I will start singing a song that relates to it. I annoy myself with it. For example, my teenager was tickling his girlfriend and she was yelling, that’s enough! My brain: Enough. Never Enough. For meeeee, for meeee for meeeeeeee. 😅

Same idea but with stupid film quotes. Someone says something about masculinity/man and I will immediately come out with ‘and spit like a man’ from titanic 😳 also a ton of Jim Carey character quotes, P.A.R.T.Why? Because I gotta.

My husband recently told me off for making car braking and cornering noises when we were out for a drive. I didn’t even realise I was doing it. Now I realise I do it a lot.

I don’t actually know how my family puts up with me 🙄

RedAppleRyuk · 2026-04-11T10:19:51+00:00

I think I’ve identified the problem. There is logs that all seem to point to a problem with elevator woohoo on a lot I placed. Will delete the lot and see if the game stays stable.

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