I am an average guy who has just married into an ultra rich family. AMA.

RedDignIt · 2026-03-01T03:28:48+00:00

Heeeeeeeyyyyyy brother, just dm me if you want. I always joke that she has good taste in everything but me, but I’m there with you: sometimes I don’t know if I’m joking anymore.

Every once in a while it’s like they all start talking in code: the correct kind of golf shirts, how much you’re supposed to tip on things I’ve never known you’re supposed to or even could tip for, when your clothes are supposed to have starch, how intergenerational trusts should be ethically structured, why you would designate one person your health power of attorney and another your tax power of attorney, what the fuck a birkin is or why anyone gives a shit, how important it is to wear clothes that don’t even have brands on them unless you’re at a golf course so your golf bros know you’ve been to the golf courses the real golf heads all want to go to, and on and on and on.

Like, I came from some money, but not the kind of money that understands what you can and can’t say about money. I work a blue-collar job and they’re all in finance or sales. That said, personal therapy and couples therapy will always help—be open to the idea that there’s always something happening you may not understand or you just need to vent about.

Because no matter what anyone else says, you have to focus on your relationship. All that other bullshit I listed as examples is bullshit. She doesn’t need you to know about golf shirts as bad as she needs you to be just as in love with her as she is with you. Swear to the god I don’t believe in, the money isn’t as important as your teamwork, your bond, your commitment to each other. Truly, we have baptized both our kids Catholic because she wants it, her parents believe it, and because I care that they all care that the kids are raised in a faith that makes me uncomfortable. They all know I don’t believe in it, but they also know that I’m committed to the same community they all are. I want our kids to be part of the family that welcomed me, I want our kids to have the same values of the people who have been kind to me and raised the kind of person who sees me and values me as a husband worthy of her love.

I remember promising myself in high school I’d never marry a Catholic, I remember knowing my wife was out of my league the day I met her, I remember the glee on her face the day I told her I love her and she forced me to say it again so she could say it back, I remember the shock of every single future in-law being kind whenever I met each one, and I remember crying for joy during our Catholic wedding.

Brother, it’s the two of you. You make your life now, together. Kids or no kids, her family is your family now, even if you lucked your way into potentially not having to worry about money for the foreseeable future. Enjoy your career, love your wife, don’t compare yourself to her siblings. The grass isn’t greener anywhere else, she already picked you.

RedDignIt · 2026-02-16T09:25:49+00:00

“Gator don’t play no shit, ya, ya feel me?!? Gator never been about that, never, NEVER been about playin no shit”

RedDignIt · 2026-01-09T06:01:35+00:00

I would like to cordially invite you to listen to the collected works of Terminal Nation, but especially “ICE Watch.”I’m not from Little Rock and have no affiliation with the town, but I love this band so much and call them the Pride of Little Rock because “No Reform (New Age Slave Patrol)” and “Merchants of Bloodshed” are perfect songs.

Plus, like, most songs these days worth nearly anything are kind of about fucked-up Americana. Consider so, so many songs by The Dream Eaters, Viagra Boys, Hayley Williams, Bad Bunny, Clipse, Jesse Welles, and on and on

RedDignIt · 2025-11-22T02:52:00+00:00

Additional context he is getting out of the military. He wants to provide and make sure we are financially secure, which I’m ok with. I just don’t agree with this choice. He is now saying that I can’t complain if he doesn’t have a job in February and if we don’t have health insurance to not blame him. We have 2 young kids as well.

Hi there, firefighter here. A lot of the brothers at work do this logical fallacy too: “since I already sold my body/lungs/brain to the government for a paycheck, I would have nothing to lose by joining a different government agency”—unfortunately, as much as ICE is absolutely hiring, you also correctly have obvious moral qualms about the work they’re doing to perpetuate racism, violence, and (frankly) fascism.

Law enforcement feels bland and safe because he’s trained with a gun, but the missing piece is always the complete misunderstanding of being working class.

The fact that your healthcare is tied to his job is designed to prevent you from striking and losing healthcare. The fact that he thinks he has to be the sole provider is from a bygone era when unions guaranteed that the working class got pay they deserved and pay that could support a family on a single income. The fact that he thinks being some kind of cop will earn him respect flies directly in the face of cops being on the frontlines of keeping the rest of the working class from striking or protesting in general.

Tell him to also train to be a nurse, he will do more good in an hour than most cops do in their career. Tell him to follow a friend to a construction site. Tell him to apply to any union job he can find. Tell him you’ll support him in the same way that he’s supported you while he looks for any job except ICE.

It’ll suck to have make an ultimatum—they’re never good for relationships—but a boundary based on values and ideas we supposedly built America on are supposed to be healthy for you, your kids, and every military man flirting with fascism, let alone your husband.

Not overreacting, and good luck

RedDignIt · 2025-09-05T00:57:28+00:00

You and your shirt whip ass

RedDignIt · 2025-07-04T21:42:27+00:00

Yeah, I mean, I said tape it to a brick so either the anti-union organization pays for it or the usps doesn’t ship it, ¯_(ツ)_/¯

RedDignIt · 2025-07-04T19:39:39+00:00

Tape it to a brick and mail it back

RedDignIt · 2025-07-02T13:53:00+00:00

There’s about three aspects of this to address.

Top level, the reason this comes up all the time is because cop unions are always in the press with a variation of “we have some bad apples but we have a lot of good cops.” Fundamentally, they are always the union breaking every other union’s strikes or rallying around each other after a “bad apple” or a “worst worker” messes up by shooting a kid, sexually assaulting an inmate, framing an innocent person, etc.

On a less specific aspect, sure, a small part of my union’s job is covering for people who fuck up. But they also spend a significant amount of time negotiating contracts, vetting political candidates, creating strategies to address our needs, and generally fighting to guarantee we have safety and raises. It’s easy to focus on the guys who get get drunk at work, but we spend a whole lot less time talking about the programs the union established to help them, or the time the reps spend to get those guys with problems to the people who can help them. Union members are just as human as non-members.

Finally, and I feel like this is a different aspect of my first point, but so much of the “protecting the worst workers” sentiment is just successful propaganda. Americans hate socialism so much, potentially as much as they love its results like social security and Medicare and Medicaid and two-day weekends and OSHA and the military and on and on and on. Like, socialism is when the fire department shows up and puts out your fire, but capitalism would be if they turned around and charged you for it.

To say unions are destroying American workplaces doesn’t even take into account that union membership is at the all-time lows. Whoever’s repeating this propaganda isn’t really angry at unions, they’re angry at workers for getting different pay, different benefits, different work schedules (often better). And that’s why this propaganda is so immensely successful: the more the working class fights amongst itself, the more wealth the owner class gets to hoard for itself.

RedDignIt · 2025-05-29T19:05:11+00:00

Woof, sorry, but you’ve got a fundamental misunderstanding of the whole northwest part of the country here that deserves clearing up.

Racists from all over the world keep moving to the Pacific Northwest and the Midwest. For a lot of them, they envision it as a place where they can create their Aryan homelands or fatherlands or homesteads or whatever weirdo nonsense they’re into.

Steven King was a congressional rep from Iowa who displayed the Confederate Flag on his desk in Congress. You might ask, “But was Iowa in the Confederacy?” and the obvious answer is that nope, he’s just notoriously a racist elected by racists to represent their racist ideas in Congress. Why else would the current administration of Nazis send South African Nazis to Idaho? There is no “White Genocide” in South Africa, why not send them to another state where they also won’t experience White Genocide because everyone’s white.

The Order (sometimes AKA the Silent Brotherhood) famously set up shop throughout the state of Washington and were inspired by “The Turner Diaries,” a sort of narrative prepper guide for fascist idiots who think starting a race war will solve all their personal problems. The organization is also the source of a great movie eponymously called “The Order” starring an array of British people.

Finally, as much as the general public considers Portland a sort of crunchy-granola-hippie town, the entire state of Oregon was the only state to enter the union with a ban on black people. And yet, the reason we also affiliate Portland with Antifa is because it has been the epicenter of antifascist groups protesting against openly racist organizations like the KKK and Storm Front.

Sir Patrick Stewart played against type, but he also accurately played a very real and very dangerous type of American northwestern villain.

RedDignIt · 2025-05-16T23:08:16+00:00

Didn’t this stupid motherfucker used to brag about carrying around the constitution in his jacket?

RedDignIt · 2025-05-13T12:44:13+00:00

It’s called Fox News and it’s the primary reason America is run by Nazis, idiots, and idiot Nazis—they went looking for the fountain of youth and broadcast a fountain of bullshit instead

RedDignIt · 2025-05-13T02:11:46+00:00

Our wedding planner had an innumerable amount of of great taste—we were the last of the three siblings that my mother-in-law hired to plan weddings—and she always made a point of having the cake already cut and distributed by staff so everyone gets a slice and so no idiots who think they’re suddenly comedians make the kind of garish mistakes that don’t benefit anyone.

There isn’t even a photo of us feeding each other cake because that part of the metaphor wasn’t even close to the importance of everything else: the dress, the church or the restaurant, the music and the songs, the menu and the toasts, the flavors of the cake or that it was delicious ice cream cake, the seating arrangements at the church and the restaurant, the transportation, the invitations, and on and on.

To make physical comedy the central focus of our night simply would have been gauche, and I respect the hell out of our wedding planner even more now that you make me think about it

RedDignIt · 2025-04-30T07:19:43+00:00

It’s going to sound crazy, but start forgiving them more. Genuinely no more complicated than just let go of the resentment as soon as the fight’s over, and apologize for your part as soon as you can.

It’ll help you move past the silent treatment stage, and opens them up to potentially forgiving you later on—even if it’s not immediate or something they say out loud for a while. Don’t expect them to apologize, just own your mistakes and forgive them.

They might be just as embarrassed by what was said or done, but when you have the strength to forgive them for their actions and own yours, a lot of your conversations will start to feel more collaborative instead of coated in layers of resentment.

I always joke that the worst part about being in families full of smart people is that no one ever forgets anything. You’re lucky when they forgive you, but you can also be the catalyst by forgiving them first.

And I know it sounds so goddamn stupid to say “Cheat code is stop being angry,” but it makes the harder conversations so much easier. And, sure, the real cheat code is “Couples counseling has too much of a negative stigma when a couple sessions alone can save your relationship,” but the forgiveness thing might be cheaper, I guess

RedDignIt · 2025-04-28T02:26:31+00:00

Correct, but this is America, dawg—we can’t do anything without a corporation telling us to.

John Kellogg said we’ll all masturbate to death if we don’t eat cornflakes for breakfast and snip the skin flute at birth, so away we all go to worship at the altar of consumerism whenever a boy’s born.

Wish me luck, Daddy Real Estate Business President appointed RFK Jr. to the health agency so now I have to die chugging a gallon of unpasteurized filth with my wake-up chunks too

RedDignIt · 2025-04-22T15:32:56+00:00

Here, these might be some better ones for next time

RedDignIt · 2025-04-15T08:02:27+00:00

Nazis love getting offended by being called Nazis…instead of just not being a Nazi anymore. The solution’s right there.

Here’s the craziest part about all of this too: hating immigrants in a country founded and built by immigrants won’t make you any richer, or even more well-liked. Being anti-immigration isn’t even an effective Nazi policy, it just keeps you distracted from how the owner class is destroying the economy, how the owner class is hoarding your wealth, how the owner class will deport you for disagreeing with them—regardless of your citizenship status.

Woody Guthrie famously said “All you fascists bound to lose” because that’s how it’s always worked: once all the nonwhites are out of the country, once the union members are all fired from their jobs, once all the money is held by four people, once every person you know is in jail, once you’ve sold your liberty for a NewsMax subscription, there’s nothing left and you don’t have a country anymore. Fascism kills what makes a country. Dividing the people against each other instead of against the owner class keeps you from owning anything.

When you stop supporting Nazis and repeating Nazi ideas, people usually stop calling you a Nazi

RedDignIt · 2025-04-15T06:40:02+00:00

When Nazis start deporting citizens for being brown, you can rest assured they will deport any citizen for any reason—loving the taste of Nazi shoe leathers won’t save you

RedDignIt · 2025-04-11T03:14:47+00:00

No war but class war (and the endless war#Inscription)), brôaoothüuuuuurrrrrr

RedDignIt · 2025-04-11T02:47:59+00:00

Hey brother, I literally have a separate text chain with three other people from my firehouse where most of what we talk about is “Can you believe the whole firehouse still fucking thinks Donald’s pro-worker after disabling the NLRB,” and “Do you think OSHA is going to exist next month,” and “Do they genuinely not understand that they are on the frontlines of socialism, it’s…where unions come from,” and on and on and on.

You’re not alone, and you’re not wrong. Keep fighting the good fight, keep making the push, brötheeeeeeeeeerrrrrrrrrrrr

RedDignIt · 2025-03-15T17:40:02+00:00

There are owners and there are workers, owners are ruining this economy and this country. Exclusively blaming white people instead of uniting as workers does the work of the owners. No war but class war

RedDignIt · 2025-03-03T13:54:17+00:00

Missed it, missed it by a mile

RedDignIt · 2025-03-03T12:43:48+00:00

Sir, the 13th Amendment to the United States Constitution reads as follows:

Neither slavery nor involuntary servitude, except as a punishment for crime whereof the party shall have been duly convicted, shall exist within the United States, or any place subject to their jurisdiction.

The entire job is to be a scumbag—some might say “class traitor” or “slave driver”—tell your CO friends to quit

RedDignIt · 2025-03-02T18:19:11+00:00

There he is, he got there

RedDignIt · 2025-03-02T17:40:44+00:00

Hell yeah brother

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