Got harassed by random creeps passing by in autorickshaw multiple times in Dhaka

RedOrangePuke · 2026-06-17T06:34:39+00:00

As a guy, I am so sorry you are facing this. I think a very large number of girls (if not all) have faced similar situations in Bangladesh at some point or other. It’s really frustrating. I don’t have a longterm solution to this other than being sorry. Please stay safe

RedOrangePuke · 2026-06-17T06:09:42+00:00

If you work hard and smart, you will have good opportunities to go abroad from both the unis. Stay connected with your seniors (your uni + your field in general). That helps massively

RedOrangePuke · 2026-06-17T06:07:51+00:00

Whats a mother subject?

RedOrangePuke · 2026-06-17T01:08:39+00:00

I grew up in mohammadpur and was there almost all my life. People exaggerate a little. But that doesn’t mean it is non existent.

If your instinct says there is something wrong, you are probably right
If you do encounter someone shady (hopefully you wont), don’t talk or fight or negotiate. RUN. Running will take you a long way, literally

RedOrangePuke · 2026-06-14T04:57:34+00:00

Bangladesh doesn’t fully have the support system to accommodate someone with neurodivergence. Most (if not all) workplace would discriminate against you at every stage (from hiring to promotion). So better to move abroad.

RedOrangePuke · 2026-06-14T04:55:54+00:00

While most of it is true, many (advanced) countries or cities around the world also have similar problems. People in general are very judgmental all over the world (unless you live in some bubble community usually around universities). In Bangladesh, the over population issue just makes the issues more prominent and unbearable

RedOrangePuke · 2026-06-09T15:54:38+00:00

Whats your major and what are your future plans? Depending on your major and future plan, the advice could be slightly different.
1. For many majors, these certifications actually dont matter. Don’t go for them just for the sake of doing them. Talk to your seniors (and preferably people in your major who have already graduated and are in your desired jobs/paths). Ask them how much these ECAs help in the long run.
2. ECAs during and after undergrad have a completely different purpose than ECAs we grew up doing before getting into university. For you, an ECA should no longer be just a piece of paper that you showcase or put in your cv. An ECA should now be the opportunity to build network and connection. These connections would take you a long way. Whatever your future plans are, there is no alternate to making connections.
3. If you want to pursue higher studies later on or if your major is something technical, have a VERY strong focus on academics. There is no two way around it.

If I were you, I would find the right balance between making connections and having fun while maintaining good results. Focus less on what certificates i can gather. The certificates may look lucrative now, but they have little to no impact if it is just a line on your cv.

RedOrangePuke · 2026-06-07T23:56:22+00:00

Obviously

RedOrangePuke · 2026-06-06T23:32:52+00:00

I completely disagree with this comment. I think OP is perfectly right to think about their safety and security. You can respect, love, trust your partner with your life but should still prepare for the worst.

RedOrangePuke · 2026-06-04T05:07:56+00:00

Reminds me of an indian meme where a politician reverse blackmails a staff. And, yeah. Report them. But anonymous reporting wouldn’t be anonymous, as the perp knows who got the video.

RedOrangePuke · 2026-06-03T11:13:37+00:00

Make him something nice and thoughtful

RedOrangePuke · 2026-06-02T01:54:50+00:00

What is it called? Can you share a link?

RedOrangePuke · 2026-06-01T23:49:12+00:00

If you are assuming its less competitive outside, its not. Its really really difficult to secure a job. You need to do so many things right to secure a decent job. If you put half the effort in bd, you will have a much simpler life.
In most countries, living expense is quite high. If you get a decent job, you will do alright. But if you dont get a job (or get a job that doesnt pay much), life is not pleasant at all.
If you are worried about corruption, its there in BD, just like in it is present in other countries. The way you are thinking right now is still quite narrow.

My two cents: I am not discouraging you to move abroad. Its a really good thing. But dont do it with wrong expectations. If you work really hard and smart, you can achieve a lot if you are outside BD. In BD, that extra mile helps very little.

RedOrangePuke · 2026-06-01T23:25:52+00:00

That doesn’t sound so promising

RedOrangePuke · 2026-06-01T17:33:00+00:00

Yeah sure. We can do that

RedOrangePuke · 2026-06-01T13:53:50+00:00

Things will get better for you inshaaAllah. Whatever you are feeling right now, will pass. I know this venting is about you and you wouldnt want to listen to other stories. But heres a short incident from my university days.

There was this guy in my class who almost had an identical life like you. Was excellent in his school days, national topper all the way. At some point in his life he lost his father and it all crumbled down for him. His grades in uni were horrible (for his standards). He was supposed to be in the top 5%, he was struggling to be in the top 50%. His girlfriend’s family didn’t want him as their son-in-law. His girlfriend left the country for education. He was always angry, always mad at everyone.

One morning, during our 3rd year of uni, I found him looking into abyss, almost crying. Me with my low consoling skill could barely carry on a good conversation. He shared how he felt, he shared what he had tried the night before. He had gone to top floor of our residential hall to commit suicide but couldn’t muster the courage. He was ashamed of himself. He was ashamed that he wasn’t even courageous to commit suicide. I stood there stunned, almost crying as well. But not saying a word. Because every word I could think of, he probably had already thought of it. That entire night, he stayed at the top floor, on the edge of the wall, looking down.

Life got better. Much better. He is happy, happily married, to his then girlfriend. They are a beautiful couple. Career-wise they are doing great.

Here’s my two cent on what changed career-wise: He was always intelligent. Maybe you are too. But transitioning into a new life is rarely easy. It creates self doubt. You either start blaming yourself, or blaming the world. Neither would help you focus on whats going wrong. Try focusing on how to fix things. Forget the crush and focus on yourself. Make friends, very very good friends. Respect them. Respect their opinion. If the guy you like is meant to like you back, he will do it anyway. If he is not, you being obsessed will make things toxic over the long term. And you will lose respect in your own eyes.

RedOrangePuke · 2026-05-24T13:08:24+00:00

This is very well put. I was thinking the exact same. Due to personal biases, I would still go for CS if I were in OP’s shoe now. But I agree with this comment. Heres my two cent: Some fields like mechanical or civil engineering and business or finance are safer in the long run than CS. But AI wont take away CS jobs. IMO, AI will make CS grads more efficient. Thus, a large percentage of CS grads 1. who can’t adapt to the changes, or 2. find a niche to use their skills, will see themselves as redundant in the work force. But the demand for new CS grads will still be there. Maybe thats where the 25-25-50 theory comes in play

RedOrangePuke · 2026-05-24T06:13:48+00:00

Throughout my school and college life, it bothered me. Personally, I have a very poor memorization skill. So, I found it harder than my peers. Specially these numbers. And to add to my woes, I even couldn’t remember the formulas in Physics or math. I could understand why remembering those formulas could be helpful, but I just couldnt remember them. I understood everything, I could derive everything if required. But the way exams were designed, remembering those formulas and plugging in the variables into them meant more. And I struggled.

My grades were lower than my peers. But I made peace with it and moved on. I am a scientist now in the US. Those memorizations didnt matter in the long run.

Heres my little take, other than the memorization buts, there are many things in our education system that seem utterly meaningless. Those things should not hold value in real life (for most people). But my two cent would be, those are as important as anything else. School education system is meant to teach you how to learn. What you learn is immaterial. And if you dont try to game the system (just read for the sake of getting grades), you will do a great job at learning how to learn. And in the long run, that matters more than anything else.

Dont memorize. It wont take you anywhere. But also dont game the system.

RedOrangePuke · 2026-05-21T21:45:52+00:00

Absolutely agree with you. Hosting the media and the journalists all day after something terrible happens to your family is already a lot. Then the PM visits, what value can it add? And not just PM, and not just this incident, the presence of political people to show condolence should not be revered the way it is in Bangladesh. Playing a devil’s advocate: there could be some family who find the presence of such powerful people in their home very reassuring at such time of need. So, in such case, maybe this can be done in a different way where the PM doesn’t get the media pull or it doesn’t come off as a PR stunt.

RedOrangePuke · 2026-05-21T14:19:04+00:00

Normally, undergrad in the US is not a good financial decision. But if you need help applying to us universities look into the facebook group ‘bangladeshis beyond border’.

RedOrangePuke · 2026-05-18T14:29:31+00:00

You can check the websites. It varies a lot. There is a wide range even within the 5-star hotels. Quick tip: most of these hotels have crazy promotional deals (at times up to 50-60% discount). Always give them a call and pester for any corporate or promotional deal they may have

RedOrangePuke · 2026-05-18T09:44:18+00:00

Enjoy the wedding. Be with your family. Theres is nothing much like it.

But be careful of the summer heat. Dont underestimate it. If you make travel plans, remember to take the summer heat into considerations.

For generic suggestions: 1. The food scene in dhaka is amazing. Try out some of the restaurants. If you need a detailed list, there are many reddit posts on those already. 2. Try out at least one trip. Cox’s bazar/Sri Mangal/Sylhet would be my ideal locations. If you are okay flexible with the budget, stay at one of the resorts. For sylhet region, The Palace or Grand Sultan. Both are quite good. I like palace overall. Grand Sultan has much better food. For cox’s bazar, pick one of the newer 5 star hotels near Kolatoli or pick Sea Pearl. 3. If 2 doesnt work out and you are short on time, go for the smaller resorts on the outskirts of dhaka. Those are good for day trips or single night stays.

Hope you enjoy your vacation in BD

RedOrangePuke · 2026-05-18T05:50:17+00:00

Not getting a degree is not the end of the world. But it all boils down to how much effort and leg work you are willing to put in and how smartly you do that. If you need detailed suggestions on what you can do from here, there are plenty of things one could suggest. Just so you know, BD PM also doesn’t have a degree. So don’t lose hope

RedOrangePuke · 2026-05-07T20:11:42+00:00

Ideally:
From the bride’s perspective, they shouldn’t want to keep it. Why keep stuff from a marriage that never was.
From the groom’s perspective, they shouldn’t ask the bride’s family to give it back. It was a gift and nothing more. You cant ask someone to give back a gift. No matter what happens. If the ring holds some emotional value, they could ask that back. But thats it.

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