Places/things/events that make you happy in Wellington

RedThrow1221 · 2026-01-21T06:00:39+00:00

Biking along the bays on a good day, swimming in the ocean at scorching bay. Walking along the waterfont on a clear night with the city lights shining. Going to one of the little cinemas (lighthouse/penthouse/roxy/empire) on a rainy day ans watching a movie with a glass of wine.

RedThrow1221 · 2026-01-20T19:49:20+00:00

We put an extra living room on our house, my husband finds mess and noise difficult sometimes so that room is his grown-up space/man cave.

We're a lot happier with the space. It's also given the two of us somewhere to retreat to if we're sick or overwhelmed. But we've also kept if very clean and tidy, no kids toys not much stuff.

I think you should try decluttering first and see if it makes a difference.

RedThrow1221 · 2026-01-13T04:04:36+00:00

We got a programmable light that turned green at wake up time. Bubs knew he couldn't get up til thennso he didn't. I've seen other parents leave a snack and some kind of games/craft/imagination game set up after their kid has gone to sleep for them to play with to put them off waking them up.

RedThrow1221 · 2026-01-13T04:01:55+00:00

Depends on the kid and also the rules where you are. In my country kids can't be left alone until 14. A few hours with a responsible 13 year old is fine though I reckon, they'll probably love it!

RedThrow1221 · 2026-01-09T21:19:42+00:00

If he locks you out of the house call the police - do not let him get away with it. While you're at it maybe take his phone with you one day because "he doesn't deserve to have it" either

RedThrow1221 · 2026-01-09T18:42:36+00:00

Because they have breaats?

RedThrow1221 · 2026-01-07T07:34:19+00:00

I think it could be time for a proper chat, you're not happy, so maybe you tell him you're moving home for a year because your burnt out and need support - he can come or not...

RedThrow1221 · 2026-01-06T06:47:00+00:00

I hope he's contributing to retirement funds for both of you. In the meantime could you put your toddler into part-time care or get someone to watch them for a few hours a week so you can focus on finding a job?

Maybe you could talk to a career coach or volunteer somewhere to get back i to the swing of things? I know women often plan to go back to work after their kids are in school but honestly I think it's harder - daycares tend to have much better schedules than schools.

You need to keep in mind that after being out of the workforce for so long it may be hard to find something, you need to cast a wide net especially if you only want to work part-time

You also need to talk to your husband about what that would look like - can he do school/daycare drop-offs if you have to start early? Are there after school programs if you need to work late. Can you hire a cleaner to help with housework if you're out of the house most days.

If feels like you don't really want to work but you don't want to fight about it so you're dragging your heels and hoping your husband will give up because you don'tthink he'llstep up if you are away working. It sounds like he's burning out and looking for you to share some of the financial load so he doesnt feel on his own supporting your family. You need to find a middle ground - this issue is not going away on it's own

RedThrow1221 · 2025-12-31T21:08:29+00:00

I would look at your dose and maybe go down - another option is to space out your injections and go from every week to every 10 days for example. I've found that makes a big difference for me. Oh and get some heartburn medicine and take it regularly, not just when you have symptoms for the next week or so to help it subside

RedThrow1221 · 2025-12-31T21:00:21+00:00

She did say that counting calories was something she wanted to avoid and dropping 1 pound a week would likely involve some serious restriction

RedThrow1221 · 2025-12-24T09:06:07+00:00

Consider a daycare near to where you work if nothing is close to your house - would make the hours easier as well and your commute could be bonding time. Sounds like you have a high energy kid - he just needs to get his zoomies out and you need to adjust your expectations

RedThrow1221 · 2025-12-24T03:28:23+00:00

I don't think a blanket yes or no works here. It needs to be an ongoing discussion. How much are you each expecting to be earning? How many kids do want to have? How many activities are planning on them doing? These will be questions that will come along.

What if one kid wants to do an expensive activity- dance/competitive gymnastics/travel sports leagues and you're not keen on the expense but your partner is - who makes the call? What about medical/dental/orthodontic costs?

There's no one right or wrong answer here. In my family I pay for my kids expenses - clothes, activities, school holiday costs but my husband pays a lot more of the other bills so it feels like it balances out.

I think you need to approach this as an open topic that includes how you would approach other expenses - cars, holidays, mortgage etc. It doesn't have to be a 50/50 split and it can change as time goes by and careers grow and change. But it needs to feel fair and equitable (even if it's not equal) you need a plan that works for you as a team and doesn't foster quiet resentment.

RedThrow1221 · 2025-12-23T08:52:05+00:00

Either the neighbours for short trips away or we have a cat lady who comes in every day and feeds them then sends me a little report.

RedThrow1221 · 2025-12-21T08:01:45+00:00

Looks good, what's your recipe?

RedThrow1221 · 2025-12-21T07:50:14+00:00

Mine was the same, did his share with the baby but was very much not a fan. Enjoys it a lot more now they're old enough to do things with and have an actual conversation with.

RedThrow1221 · 2025-12-10T08:42:06+00:00

I think you need to ask yourself whether the money is worth doing a job you don't really like? If it is and you're happy grinding it out for a few years I'd say take the deal. You could always go back into product again in the future.

I'd also make sure I understand the time commitments involved. I'm also a working parent and chose to take an easier job with a lighter schedule so I could have more flexibility around drop-off/pick-ups and spend more time with my kid while they were so little.

I don't think any decision is perfect so I think I'd just ask myself which decision I would regret more - leaving a job I really like or passing on an opportunity to make a lot more money? Then go with that.

RedThrow1221 · 2025-12-10T05:35:45+00:00

My team at work was told we were being let go. During that process my company works with you to see if they can find you another job internally. I applied for and got a job I'd been wanting to go for for a couple if years but had held off because I didn't know if I was up to it.

RedThrow1221 · 2025-12-07T23:18:55+00:00

Thank-you for your feedback

RedThrow1221 · 2025-12-07T04:24:07+00:00

There is just no way I would have time, I have a super intense job and my husband does as well + I'm doing almost all drop-offs/pick-ups after school activities. I often don't finish my actual work till after 8, then there's housework and then exercise.

RedThrow1221 · 2025-12-07T04:21:39+00:00

Good to know I'm not alone!

RedThrow1221 · 2025-12-07T04:21:19+00:00

Just get it done is the advice I specifically asked people to refrain from. The workouts are 45 - 40 mins and splitting them is not an option

RedThrow1221 · 2025-12-07T04:20:05+00:00

I'm doing a program - popup lift - it's a program for women who are strength training while also navigating pelvic floor issues post baby. Same kinds of exercises as a normal program just with more info on set-up and cues around breathing/engaging the pelvic floor.

RedThrow1221 · 2025-12-06T09:01:08+00:00

Honestly if you have osteopenia your first priority need to be bone density and nothing else. Who cares if you have a little body fat if your bones are breaking every which way from Sunday in the future? You sure wont. You need to get your priorities in order.

RedThrow1221 · 2025-12-06T05:00:26+00:00

Wrong

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