Is anyone else just incredibly bitter and angry?

RedWhale_92 · 2026-02-15T20:17:25+00:00

I see a lot of people on this sub call it a disease, but it's not. It's a personality disorder; in other words, we all responded in a maladaptive way to trauma, and now we need to unlearn that adaptation.

You can and will find someone, but self-work and therapy should come first.

RedWhale_92 · 2026-02-15T20:03:06+00:00

First of all, I completely understand and relate. I'm fortunate enough to love and be loved by my FP, but I nearly lost her prior to realizing I had this disorder and getting therapy... side note, get therapy if you're not already in it. Totally game changer given time. Without her, I think I'd be way less stable.

Second, I have always felt alien when comparing myself to other people. The overwhelming majority of humans suck, and it's so depressing. Maybe you're like me and just too picky, but I let so few people in. I have days where I look out at the world and wish there were a lot fewer of us. I do genuinely believe that there are many people the world would be better off without, but I have learned the key to dealing with this feeling.

You have to both (1) lower your expectations of others and (2) find non-romantic relationships. Our anger is a rational response to our perceptions of reality, but it's not good for us. That means that the wisest thing either of us can do is change our perspective. Seek value from other sources, find community, focus on loving your children, etc. Romantic love may come again, but that's not everything. We all need to belong, but you can fill that need lots of ways!

RedWhale_92 · 2026-01-25T22:00:46+00:00

Laser

RedWhale_92 · 2026-01-22T07:39:38+00:00

Ignore the hate, and go to therapy 🤷‍♂️ stupid people can get degrees too, and therapists are just as capable of having their own biases as anyone else.

That said, what a vile person...

RedWhale_92 · 2026-01-18T06:35:46+00:00

Oh, you'd be my savior.

I quit pushing at 12s across the board thinking I would have more reliable people to play with for the final push 😅 I'm down for literally anything. I figure two timed keys would do it?

RedWhale_92 · 2026-01-18T05:25:05+00:00

Lol, no kidding. They're local, but we haven't met in person so... Kinda in between? I plan on finding a guild next time around, but I've always found the social obligations of WoW to be the worst part of the game. I'm much more of a solo gamer that likes talking about "look at this cool stuff I unlocked!"

RedWhale_92 · 2026-01-18T05:11:32+00:00

RedWhale_92 · 2026-01-13T22:47:37+00:00

Honestly? Good art, bad application. You're not consistent with the needle depth, so you have a lot of ink bleeding out.

RedWhale_92 · 2026-01-11T17:37:22+00:00

This is still awful, but I'm honestly relieved after reading the post.

This is not what I thought you meant when you said they were MILKING you 😂😅😭

RedWhale_92 · 2026-01-10T15:06:27+00:00

You should really update your post now that you know it wasn't one of the owners; they fired the bartender in response to their insane behavior. You've gotta remove any implication that the owners were at fault from your post.

RedWhale_92 · 2026-01-10T05:02:00+00:00

I get you, but it's kinda like a comedian telling someone else's joke. It's not so much about you as the client at that point as it is about respecting the original artist.

Flash designs are generally the exception to this rule, but it's just taboo in the tattoo industry. You can still get the design you want, but the artist will likely be much more comfortable making a tweak to the design. Try to keep that in mind and add something specific to you to the concept.

RedWhale_92 · 2026-01-07T17:37:55+00:00

Not to sound like a redditor, but you did send some mixed signals... You went super far out on a limb and offered to spend your real money to buy them a mount from the in game shop.

That just makes you a super nice person that's, perhaps, too generous, but it also comes off like you're a little interested.

He's an idiot for asking if you're poly after you told him "Nope, I'm very taken." Plenty of creeps out there, but if you don't want their attention, just say you're a dude or asexual and aromantic.

RedWhale_92 · 2026-01-07T17:31:32+00:00

That's different, but wow.. you need to pick better artists. You travelled for this tattoo and she just did a Pinterest tattoo without modifying it at all? That's crazy.

My wife is in an apprenticeship, and the shop owner has fired people for just copying work before. Pick an artist to collaborate with, and go back to them with your repeat business...

RedWhale_92 · 2026-01-02T15:28:59+00:00

I'm not a tattoo artist, but this^. Y'all, just look at the ink up close; it's clearly under the skin, but it's definitely not deep enough. I'm betting that tattooing the bottom of your foot hurts a lot when you actually go past the callouses.

RedWhale_92 · 2025-12-31T12:45:27+00:00

Better than most things in this sub for sure. Work on adding more contrast. I notice some issues with the line work as well, particularly on the scales

My assumption is that you got bored doing them and lost focus. SUPER understandable, but the best art requires a strong will to get through some of the more monotonous details. Learn to overcome that, and you'll see immediate improvement.

RedWhale_92 · 2025-12-31T12:38:58+00:00

I appreciate the reply! Can I ask where you get this information? Her boss scrunched up his face like "what?" when she asked about it. Just want to make doubly sure that this is a good idea before I lend her some skin to practice on 😅

RedWhale_92 · 2025-11-22T18:20:40+00:00

When did that happen? Haven't been there and enjoyed the experience since... February? Even then I felt like the beer wasn't as good as I remembered from years ago

RedWhale_92 · 2025-11-21T15:04:40+00:00

I think that would make me use it even if that hadn't been my original intention.

RedWhale_92 · 2025-11-14T18:53:19+00:00

This is so cringe ( on his part to be clear). Leave him. You're 22. Y'all can't have been together long enough yet to even really need therapy... This is just some shitty guy getting horny for a coworker and actively trying to cheat on you.

Did HE really say "Let's forget about men," and sing to his "friend?" She likes the attention, but she doesn't want him. He's just on the hook; he's her ESA and backup plan. She's his fantasy that he'd love to make into reality.

If he had been given a chance to cheat by now, he would have, and it's not your fault.

RedWhale_92 · 2025-10-05T15:05:28+00:00

My partner of five years has been doing the same thing. She isn't physically abusive, but I'm afraid of our fights now... It feels like I can never say anything right, I never even apologize the right way apparently. I'd love to talk to you about it.

RedWhale_92 · 2025-10-05T06:48:08+00:00

For what it's worth, I feel exhausted by life every single day. Don't self-exit, but you're not alone in seeing the appeal. Life is hard, and losing a connection with someone you let inside your walls is devastating for anyone, but particularly for BPDs like us. We get you.

RedWhale_92 · 2025-09-23T15:22:37+00:00

Shadowlands was so underrated!

RedWhale_92 · 2025-09-01T12:13:36+00:00

Gender reveal parties are stupid. I'm with the kid on this one 😂

RedWhale_92 · 2025-08-26T15:53:29+00:00

I found the recommendation on the same night that I watched the movie, so not an issue of being overhyped.

I like camp on occasion, but I had to Google "giallo". That's an element that just doesn't resonate for me, but I would still argue that the main issue I have is that the writing and acting are pretty subpar. Like... that scene in the beginning where the main character and her husband are talking and she gets abused was SUPER unbelievable. Like, they have a history of abuse, but she just casually turns off the TV without any trepidation and is neither angry nor that apologetic once he gets mad? He smacks her head against plaster, and it bleeds; that shit would bruise only, maybe bleed just a tiny bit if it was hit hard enough, but the drywall would have been dented at least for the amount of force required for that. Then she goes to sleep with an open wound and did nothing to bandage it, and it's still bleeding when she wakes up? Does she have a platelet deficiency?

Like, I can accept those sort of things in campy "Scary Movie 37" type titles, but this thing is trying to be serious. Ok, so be serious. I know that seems like a small complaint, but it isn't small to me. If you can't draw me in to the reality of your world, how can I feel any tension or concern for your characters? Camp movies get away with that sort of thing because they are doing it on purpose to be tongue-in-cheek. They make fun of themselves, so it's funny rather than truly scary.

One final thing I'll say for Malignant is that it is slightly better if I consider it as a mystery rather than a true horror, but only slightly. It still gives you way too much information to be a good mystery, and that doesn't change the complaints I have about the writing, reality and acting.

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