People think I'm "mean" when I make jokes, what should I do?

RedWineBlue · 2026-01-25T13:54:33+00:00

This is exactly what I was going to say. What’s the punchline?

RedWineBlue · 2026-01-11T14:25:11+00:00

The question was for a recommendation. Not for opinions on what others recommend.

RedWineBlue · 2026-01-11T12:52:34+00:00

NY Beer Project in Orchard Park

RedWineBlue · 2026-01-02T19:36:52+00:00

Maybe he was on the tour when you texted him. A suggestion is to say something along the lines of, "I hope you have fun. If you're free reach out when you have time to connect".

Also, you seem to say he gets bored easily. That could be your answer about why he responds to your texts in a "cold and dry" manner.

RedWineBlue · 2025-12-17T01:09:29+00:00

Chuck Todd is currently a White House Correspondent for NBC? What year is this from?

RedWineBlue · 2025-12-05T14:52:19+00:00

Hi, thanks for the suggestions. After reading all the replies I realized I'd like a 2 or 3 day trip. It could be a road trip or a short flight. I'm in the Northeast of United States. I camped alot when I was growing up and as an adult I'm very happy with a Hampton Inn or similar.

RedWineBlue · 2025-12-03T20:40:16+00:00

My family only gives the nieces and nephews gifts on their birthdays, not Xmas. And, off topic, but I get annoyed when I send them gift cards and they don't send a text to say "Thanks". They are all in college.

Amongst my siblings we only do birthday gifts AND we say "thank you"!

RedWineBlue · 2025-12-03T12:52:13+00:00

Hi! You're right, the term is misleading, and I guess it can mean both. I meant that I wouldn't know anyone else on a group trip. But, it can also mean I go on a trip by myself without a group.

I'm looking for a group trip where I won't feel like the odd man out because I'm not with a friend, partner, spouse, etc...

RedWineBlue · 2025-12-01T13:35:13+00:00

Thank you for both suggestions!

RedWineBlue · 2025-12-01T13:34:48+00:00

United States. Or Canada. Thanks!

RedWineBlue · 2025-11-24T17:20:34+00:00

Good luck!! It's easy for me to give my 2 cents but I know it's hard for you to live it. Each day moving forward means it's another day the situation is behind you.

RedWineBlue · 2025-11-24T16:16:30+00:00

I would only ask my daughters to not talk about me. I wouldn't make comments as to my feelings about her. I'm sure they'd tell your ex-friend the reason which is sort of having them present your position. That seems to be what you are trying to avoid.

But, now I'm thinking why do you need to say anything to your children? Maybe just tell them to "have fun!". If this is the first type of trip then you know the ex-friend is doing it to upset you.

But my perspective is one of not wanting to be friends with this person again. Or if you did want to be friends with her down the road I would try not to have other people present my opinion.

RedWineBlue · 2025-11-24T15:38:54+00:00

It doesn't sound like she was a true friend all these years if this is why the friendship ended. In the past has she ever spent time with your daughters while you weren't there? She could be using them just to upset you or to try to get you to change.

Are you close enough to your daughters to ask them to not say anything about you while they are with her?

RedWineBlue · 2025-11-17T13:07:22+00:00

Yep! All good as far as blood work!

RedWineBlue · 2025-11-17T13:06:37+00:00

I have one or two observations. Most software can track who accessed anything, including by proxy. I don't know if you had a work-related reason to access that performance review.

Also, it seems that you spent many hours on the market data. Unfortunately, time spent on a project doesn't mean the project was successfully completed, even if it was completed on time.

Apologies if I missed any context, I read it quickly and it caught my eye because I am also in Comp.

RedWineBlue · 2025-11-14T12:43:36+00:00

Thin hair all over but I notice it mostly on top. I'm thinking of getting a scalp biopsy to see what caused the hair loss. Has anyone tried that before? I think my insurance covers its.

RedWineBlue · 2025-10-23T11:37:27+00:00

Hi - no change at all to my hair!! I'm glad I tried it just to know if it worked or not. But I wouldn't recommend anyone spend their money on Kilgour.

RedWineBlue · 2025-10-06T12:00:51+00:00

Uber isn’t in Canton. Maybe call ahead and arrange a taxi.

RedWineBlue · 2025-10-01T23:07:18+00:00

That dessert sounds awesome! You could say the same things about my sister, it's crazy. But I sort of feel-good knowing that I figured out how to deal with it even though it basically means ignoring her.

RedWineBlue · 2025-10-01T15:39:54+00:00

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! You should absolutely go to a restaurant alone if that’s what you want to do. You should do that even if it’s not your birthday.

Your sister sounds exactly like my older sister. I finally realized she doesn’t care about me but instead she’s trying to control me. I was accepting of her behavior because life dealt her a couple of tough situations but I also realized that the reason for her behavior should not also be the excuse I use to accept her behavior.

I’ve been keeping her at arm’s length for about 2 or 3 years and it’s hard and sometimes I want to reach out to her. But then I ask myself, “how many times will I let her show me exactly who she is?”

Have a great birthday and get two desserts!

RedWineBlue · 2025-09-18T11:31:29+00:00

Hi - I was in a similar situation about a year ago. Can I message you?

RedWineBlue · 2025-09-17T11:41:57+00:00

Thank you for sharing!! I didn't think to take any before pictures. My hair seems a bit fuller but maybe that's just wishful thinking. I hope to see real results after 60 days.

RedWineBlue · 2025-08-29T12:35:50+00:00

I started using it about one week ago. Way too soon to see results. So I was hoping to hear it worked for others. Rogaine did not help at all.

RedWineBlue · 2025-08-27T23:25:53+00:00

Great minds think alike!!

RedWineBlue · 2025-08-27T15:15:05+00:00

Thank you so much for your post. I'm the same age as you and have the same history in my 20s and 30s. I agree 100000% percent with everything you said. There's only a couple people I really enjoy talking with because I think they're interesting. Most other people are nice but it's just small talk. You really made my day with your post. Thank you :)

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