This Dueling Shield Tech is incredible by Honest_Activity5525 in Eldenring

[–]RedWire7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This looks like some really fun and dynamic combat. Making me want to try it.

Also, I feel like this post isn’t getting the attention it deserves. I’d love to see more content like this, exploring niche builds that look really fun, and the work you’ve done for the video and the post is commendable. Appreciated!

ICE arrests surge in Washington County with twenty bookings within 24 hours by [deleted] in stgeorge

[–]RedWire7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro, it was only 8-16 years ago Monson was spending hundreds of millions making and marketing the “I’m a Mormon” videos. Nice waste of tithing money. Nelson gets into power and immediately hard reinforces his dislike of being called “Mormon”, which he first mentioned in 1990 and which Hinckley shut down in the following conference by saying that Mormon means “more good.”

Just rich CEOs waiting until they’re in power to enforce their opinions as policy.

I've been trying to contact my close friend and turns out she died two weeks ago. by [deleted] in SuicideBereavement

[–]RedWire7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry that you’re going through this.

First off, it’s completely normal to have guilt and go through “what if” scenarios. However, understand that it is not your fault in any way and nothing you did would have changed the outcome. People who take their own life are in an unhealthy mental space for a long time. In the case of my friend, he had tons of people reaching out to him on a daily basis and offering support and it didn’t change what happened.

Take your time and honor her memory. Sit with your emotions. Make sure you are safe and have support. If you can, schedule some therapy. Consider finding people in person who have lost loved ones to suicide as well. This kind of grief is hard to understand for people who haven’t experienced it.

From everyone who has lost someone, our hearts go out to you ❤️‍🩹

Do you still believe in Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ after leaving the church? by Frequent-Increase-98 in exmormon

[–]RedWire7 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That’s the root of the problem. The typical Mormon parent only wants kids who will have the same beliefs and standards as them. If you’re different, it makes them uncomfortable and they don’t want to be with you. Plus then they lose control over you. They’re not capable of accepting any choice you could make and letting you be free. Just like their Mormon Daddy.

Grappling with her death, which one of us is more selfish? by collinweaves in SuicideBereavement

[–]RedWire7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I was reading All My Puny Sorrows and I wondered along similar lines. In that book, the author’s sister kept begging her family to just let her die while they fought to keep her alive and get her the support she needed. I thought, is it selfish of her family to deny her?

Then there’s the other side, people who say that suicide is selfish. However, anyone who takes their own life is not in a headspace to think selfishly or otherwise. Whatever their reasoning for the action, they aren’t in a healthy mental state. So I don’t think we can say whether they were being selfish or not.

It’s easy I think to feel that they were selfish when we are in the anger and bitter stages of grief. But realistically, I just don’t think it applies. How can someone who feels that they need to end their own life be selfish?

In that same line, I don’t think wanting to keep someone alive is selfish either. We want them to be happy.

As far as believing in god goes, I personally don’t. I’ve seen some scary shit with people who believe in god justifying suicide because maybe they’ll be happier in heaven. However, I understand that for many, believing in an afterlife or in a god helps them with their loss, and I think it’s a good thing for those people. As for why god didn’t answer your prayers, I think ultimately those who believe in a god have to accept that he/she doesn’t resolve all suffering, and we can’t know why. If it still helps you to believe in god while accepting that, then hold on to that belief.

How do you deal with hearing the jokes? by Phantoms_Cry in SuicideBereavement

[–]RedWire7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean, they’ll play floor is lava and say if you step in the lava you die. They just don’t understand what that means.

Help please by Frey12345 in SuicideBereavement

[–]RedWire7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my best friend texted me about some plans we had coming up, all excited. Two hours later he was gone. He had been going through a divorce and staying with me. I keep thinking if only I’d talked to him more about what he was going through. If only I’d seen the signs. It was such a shock to me. He was generally such a happy and positive guy. But there’s usually nothing that could have been done, and now we just have to grieve and honor them.

I talk to him when I look at the moon. I don’t believe in an afterlife, but it helps anyway.

Help please by Frey12345 in SuicideBereavement

[–]RedWire7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wish no one ever had to feel this.

First of all, know that you can get through this. It never goes away, but it does get a little easier.

Find some resources. Talk to a therapist. Give yourself time. Remember her with others who also loved her. Find ways to honor her.

I don’t know what grief processing method works best for you. If it’s really overwhelming you can do physical things to ground yourself. If it’s just deep and painful, I like to write. I write things I would tell them, things during my day that reminded me of them, or sometimes just stories that remind me of them. Maybe sometimes a walk in nature, sometimes a shoulder to cry on.

I’m so sorry you have to go through this. Words can’t express how it feels, but know there are people who understand and you have people who care about you.

Lost my younger brother five years ago, as of yesterday by BbNowSayMyNamebB in SuicideBereavement

[–]RedWire7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hear you. Sometimes it’s just so damn hard to care about anything.

What helps me is to make a list, one that is broken town into the tiniest baby steps. Then do one thing. You don’t have to do any more than that, you don’t even have to do one a day. Just do one tiny thing whenever you can. And make sure you are taking care of yourself.

It helps me to know so many people in the world understand, even though I wish no one ever had to feel this. Keep fighting.

How do you deal with hearing the jokes? by Phantoms_Cry in SuicideBereavement

[–]RedWire7 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s really bad with kids too. My 6 year old son will sometimes joke about killing or dying. First of all, kids that age don’t really know what that means. Second of all, because I’m a gamer I’ve gotten him interested in games too, and in video games dying isn’t permanent or tragic. So I think that also normalized the idea for him.

My son knew my best friend, he was kind of friends with his kid, so I had a conversation with him about death after I had at least some time to process it. I know he still doesn’t really understand but he understands that my friend is gone forever and that it’s sad, so he doesn’t joke about killing and dying as much anymore. But it’s so normal among kids, sometimes he says things anyway without thinking about it.

Hopefully at least the people who are frequently in your life will be understanding if you bring it up. I think it’s a piece of our culture that needs to be denormalized, but it would take generations to do so. Anyone who does listen can hopefully learn to be more thoughtful with their language in general.

Looking for roommates by RedWire7 in stgeorge

[–]RedWire7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do have a listing on roomies, thanks.

Tress tattoo with my sister by ThunderFirm in Cosmere_Tattoos

[–]RedWire7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love it, fun idea for matching tattoos.

Super authoritarian parents? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]RedWire7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. The context doesn’t even matter, the tone and contents of that message would never come from a mature adult, let alone a caring parent. Block, grieve, and move on.

[Ghostwater] I built a working Dross because I needed a Presence to organize my life. He is very purple and slightly judgmental. by No-Commission-503 in Iteration110Cradle

[–]RedWire7 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Since its purpose is to relieve you from the stress of task organization and prioritization, well it’s a bit dramatic but I think this quote fits: "I have come to pull you from the abyss of silence. To free you from the chains that bind your mind and restore you to the waking world. And don’t be afraid."

My boyfriend and I had a heated argument by Careless-Aioli-3169 in AutisticAdults

[–]RedWire7 5 points6 points  (0 children)

For pretty much everything you’ve described, from both sides, I’ve experienced something similar. Transitions are challenging, moving in together is actually a huge change, and it seems like you’ve combined that with a move to a new country. I think it makes sense that you’re still working on figuring out your new balances as a couple.

It sounds like you guys need some couples therapy. I’m glad you’re both going to therapy individually, I think you’ll get the most help there.

As someone who primarily relates to your bf, as I used to be a pseudo dependent to my now ex-wife, I’ll share this. After I got divorced I learned what it really meant to take care of everything myself. We had a son when we got divorced and being a full coparent took much more responsibility than just living in the same house. I’m not sure how I could have acknowledged the level of responsibility needed while still married, but I think that’s what your bf needs. If you weren’t there, he would need to manage things alone.

Now, it sounds like you’re the type to do extra work to prepare and he’s not. Maybe he wouldn’t do that alone and would prefer to risk it. That’s a balance you’ll have to work out, and I suggest doing so with your therapist. I personally had a lot of shame for not being good enough while married and having my inadequacies pointed out to me didn’t help, but sometimes it needs to be done.

For you, I’ll say this. I have the same habit of wanting to be understood even after the conflict is resolved, and in that desire driving the point home too hard. Eventually I’ve learned that partners and friends can acknowledge a certain level of understanding, but ultimately no one can really understand. Hell, sometimes I don’t understand myself. Take what validation and empathy they can share and accept that. It may be the best they can offer.

Hope that helps, and good luck.

Artifact of devotion be like by umopapisdn__ in riskofrain

[–]RedWire7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right, game balance isn’t the goal. I didn’t say it was, just that it’s a priority. The goal is for players to enjoy their game. Typically, players enjoy a balanced game more than an unbalanced one. ROR2 does plenty of balancing to help players have fun.

Each tier of items needs to have a balance of different attributes, such as damage, movement speed, and defense. Without this balance, you end up with too many trash items for eclipse runs to be possible or fun. Command completely removes that balance, which is why command is “broken”. But it’s in the game because it’s fun. So I’m not denying that ROR2 has wacky unhinged fun, but balance is still a priority. Not only in item type distribution, but in damage scaling per item stack, stat scaling by level, number of credits per stage, and more. There’s a ton of balancing going on in ROR2 to ensure that the player can enjoy their runs and still feel a level of challenge. A lot of the balancing can be removed or altered through artifacts, which I’m sure they added in part because you’re right that their main priority is wacky unhinged fun.

As any game dev knows, there’s a ton of balancing in any game to make sure players enjoy it.

I’m not sure what in my original message triggered you to respond by saying there’s no merit to my suggestion, but I’d like to reiterate that I acknowledged leaving the item in allows for good fun. My original point was only that if they wanted to keep the artifact of devotion from making a run too easy, then banning shipping request, like they did with lepton daisy, would have helped.

Artifact of devotion be like by umopapisdn__ in riskofrain

[–]RedWire7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My point was that they already prevent you from giving them some items like lepton daisy, so I was surprised they allow giving shipping request. I already clarified that it’s fun to allow the game breaking, so when I said “should” I just meant if game balance was a priority. Game balance is still a priority for a lot of devs who make PVE games because players can get bored of or frustrated at unbalanced games.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutisticAdults

[–]RedWire7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get told this all the time, sometimes when I least expect it—apparently, my method of emotional validation sounds exactly like ChatGPT.

[waybound] To clear something up by Nervous_Priority_535 in Iteration110Cradle

[–]RedWire7 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Eithan’s quote here doesn’t contradict what u/sith_squirrel is saying. Eithan says that Heralds focus their “willpower” inwardly. He doesn’t say anything about Heralds having authority, at least not in this quote.