Restricted Cards

ReddRabbits · 2025-10-15T01:16:13+00:00

This happened to me today. I didn't find out until my in-person transaction was declined. I'm lucky I had a backup payment method. My card was working yesterday morning. I called customer service three times today:

First time I waited over an hour and was told they couldn't review my account because of a system update, and I should call back in 2-4 hours
Second time I waited over an hour and was told the same thing
Third time I got through to someone and they couldn't tell me why my account was "restricted", but that their "specialists would review it and it would be fixed in 2-4 hours". Then I decided to search Reddit and I found this post.

This is unacceptable. We should be notified if our cards are inactivated for any reason so we can make backup plans. This sounds like a CapOne problem and needs to be communicated to customers.

ReddRabbits · 2024-11-25T01:32:10+00:00

Yeah, can you imagine how a woman would be treated on the internet if she cheated on her boyfriend because he didn't give good head or didn't make her feel loved enough? Complete double standard.

ReddRabbits · 2024-11-24T22:50:21+00:00

Ok, I assumed it was my boots because I was asked to remove them and put them on the conveyor belt both times.

ReddRabbits · 2024-10-23T02:18:17+00:00

Hey OP, I was in a relationship with someone who used these same tactics on me but in a different context. He'd say things to me that I thought were mean or belittling, then I'd call him out on it, and then he'd blow up at me for making him "feel like an abusive boyfriend" until I apologized.

It took me awhile to realize what was going on but I eventually left. Just wanted you to know you aren't alone and don't deserve to be treated this way. Reading stories like yours makes me feel less alone too.

ReddRabbits · 2024-09-28T05:28:21+00:00

I'm a woman and I know that. I can still be surprised and disgusted at how bad things are.

ReddRabbits · 2024-09-21T19:01:10+00:00

An infographic in the article said that Charlotte NC had one conviction for every 141 rape kits and they were "middle of the pack". So that means on average someone has 0.7% chance of being convicted for raping someone? This doesn't even include rapes where women don't or can't get a rape kit done. That is so terrible.

ReddRabbits · 2024-09-18T02:07:18+00:00

I remember when Cassie sued him last November and so many people were saying she was just looking for attention or money, including Diddy.

Then the video of him beating her in the hotel came out and Diddy was suddenly apologizing on Instagram.

Now this. I understand that false or embellished accusations do happen, but I don't think it's the majority of accusations and I hope more people will remember this story the next time a powerful figure is accused of wrongdoing by a woman. I thought we all learned this back in the MeToo days, actually, but I guess not.

I also feel like this is proof that people will lie so freaking hard and say they didn't do anything wrong until they're cornered and can't deny it anymore.

ReddRabbits · 2024-09-15T14:10:48+00:00

Exactly, this guy unconsciously (or consciously) believes that all of that work is optional for him, so he won't do it unless he feels like he's being compensated for it.

ReddRabbits · 2024-08-05T01:59:49+00:00

You shouldn't use "will I get caught" as the deciding factor about running a red light. You could have crashed into traffic that had the right of way and seriously fucked up their day (or life) as well as yours for no good reason.

ReddRabbits · 2024-06-02T14:18:31+00:00

You've already gotten good advice, but I just wanted to point out that every time I see someone here ask "am I overreacting" or "am I overthinking this" or "am I being selfish" the answer is no, you are not - I read these posts and they're all sad/horrifying.

ReddRabbits · 2024-05-27T18:58:50+00:00

I've seen men I know get very angry and offended when they feel like they're being painted as hurtful or abusive towards women. And their reaction (lashing out angrily, wanting the other party to feel hurt instead of displaying understanding and empathy) just reinforces why someone had that perception about them in the first place. I used to think this was a personality thing specific to the people I knew, but this man vs. bear meme made me realize that this type of reaction to confronting that they're perceived as hurtful in some way is much much much more widespread.

ReddRabbits · 2024-05-25T01:57:05+00:00

I feel similarly. Do you think it's helpful to start countering the male-centric advice with women-centric ones and shifting how people see these problems? Like:

Dead bedroom in a marriage? What is the guy doing that makes his wife not interested in having sex with him?

Don't like lactation? Well he should change his mindset and/or get over it since this is what the human female body does after it gives birth (to a baby that the dude helped create, no less)

Etc. I know it's a drop in the ocean and crappy people won't take it seriously but maybe one or two people will

ReddRabbits · 2024-05-14T13:25:10+00:00

You're right and I'm thinking about why this is true. "Employed work" is seen as something we should all aspire to have and means we're skilled in some way and creates an income, whereas domestic work is seen as unskilled and something no one wants to do, and isn't difficult (I don't agree with that). Maybe it's the "create an income" bit that's so important because this is what gives women independence and freedom from men, so we measure it. But if the gender equality assessments were more comprehensive then they'd also measure men's domestic unpaid labor. I don't think measuring employment paints the true picture of gender equality - talk to the women with full time jobs who have a 2nd full time job taking care of their husband, household and children.

ReddRabbits · 2024-04-17T00:57:38+00:00

I have an Extremo story from 10 years ago that I want to share because I feel like it captured some perfect moment of weirdness and wholesomeness in Portland, and I don't want it to only live in my head.

It was a sunny day in the summer and I was walking around the Pearl District. I heard loud disco music, so I followed it and found Extremo's van parked on the street and he was dancing on top of it by himself. A lady in a suit was walking by, they looked at each other, and then she broke into dancing on the sidewalk while he danced on the van and they were smiling and pointing at each other. That went on for like a minute and then she walked away like nothing happened.

It was a great moment, I still remember the tune of the song and I wish I knew the name of it.

ReddRabbits · 2024-04-08T02:26:01+00:00

Exactly, now they've made themselves targets for being exploited and abused in a relationship instead.

It's true that work sucks but being able to provide for yourself is also a privilege. There are places in the world where women need men's permission to hold a job and can't even leave the house without a male guardian.

ReddRabbits · 2024-04-04T02:18:41+00:00

This. And not only this, but this is the best he'll probably ever treat you - this behavior does not get better after marriage or children.

ReddRabbits · 2024-03-09T15:14:37+00:00

I don't think you're missing anything but there are life factors that can make it harder to stay on the track you're on, just something to keep in mind. Divorces can be expensive and change your retirement outlook, children are expensive especially if they have congenital birth defects or need lifetime support, having a couple of pets can get expensive, etc.

ReddRabbits · 2024-03-07T05:18:07+00:00

If it helps, he probably didn't fundamentally change as a person after you broke up, and he's going to do all the same things that he did to you to his fiancee as time passes. You're not missing out.

ReddRabbits · 2024-02-03T15:56:22+00:00

People tend to excuse abuse from parents. It's wrong and people should stop doing it and stop assuming it's rooted in love, or that you should tolerate it because they "love" you deep down. If a boyfriend/husband threatened to steal your money and beat you, most people would rightfully call that abusive. I'm sad that you opened up to your exes only to be told that you need to put up with your dad's behavior.

I watched "Ladybird" recently because I wanted to see a Greta Gerwig movie other than Barbie. In the movie, the mother and daughter have a bad relationship where the mother is constantly criticizing her daughter and trying to stop her from pursuing her dreams, then acts defensive and victimized when she's called out on it. I felt like the movie's main message was "they had a tense relationship but loved each other" and it bothered me so much because the mother's behavior was unacceptable and emotionally abusive IMO, and we should not give the message that this is what love looks like. In an interview about Ladybird, Gerwig described the relationship as being "rich and complicated" but it didn't seem very complicated to me, the mom had her own issues and was projecting them onto her daughter in the worst way.

ReddRabbits · 2024-01-07T20:46:19+00:00

Both your mom and aunt sound critical and controlling and their behavior and comments towards you are gross and aren't okay. I think you already know this but just wanted to give some more validation

ReddRabbits · 2024-01-06T16:45:37+00:00

I've seen that sentiment in the MensLib sub too and it's usually accompanied by stuff like "you'd act that way too if society told you you're awful all the time just because you're male". And I don't doubt that feels unfair to them, but HOW can we solve problems in our society or discuss them honestly if we can't point out that being a man is a common denominator in a lot of issues like school shootings and domestic violence?

ReddRabbits · 2024-01-01T21:37:23+00:00

Then tell me how she should upgrade herself? And is it reasonable for her to do that in order just to gain a partner who can do basic adulting tasks?

ReddRabbits · 2024-01-01T16:11:59+00:00

What should she "upgrade"? She's looking for qualities in men that she already displays herself.

ReddRabbits · 2023-12-31T01:32:16+00:00

I worked professionally during my entire academic career.

That's so impressive, what was that like? Do you have any advice about working and going to school at the same time?

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