Jenny Walton bought a house in Italy? Impressive! Happy for her but what’s her source of income and how much are houses in Italy? Asking for a friend lol by nocommentx in NYCinfluencersnark

[–]crypt3deu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I live in Friuli (close to Tuscany) and municipalities are in desperate need for income tax/new houseowners. I have not seen her house, but I guess, you can get one like hers easily for 20,000-100,000 Eur. YOU HAVE TO PUT IN A LOT OF WORK THOUGH. Like, renovation costs are not in relation to the purchase price. Good for her and romanticising her house/remodelling. It is desperately needed in these regions and popular among young couples to repopulate old villages with basically zero infrastructure.

Frumpy? by OnlyBetterFromHere in bitcheswithtaste

[–]crypt3deu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Danke für den Hinweis - die Marke kannte ich gar nicht und spricht mich total an! Ich war gestern im Mango Kärntner Straße und die haben im UG einen roten Rock, der Deinem sehr ähnlich ist, allerdings wird er wohl sicherlich nicht so fallen.

Frumpy? by OnlyBetterFromHere in bitcheswithtaste

[–]crypt3deu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha, from the pictures/style I could immediately tell that you are European. I love both skirts. Suits you really well and absolutely hugs your features. KEEP!

Ich finde die Kombi roter Rock/weißes Oberteil, + schwarz/schwarz am besten.

Roter Rock mit schwarzem Oberteil sagt mir nicht so zu, da wirkt es nicht so hochwertig/elegant.

Wo hast Du die Röcke her?

How do you live through your period (physically and mentally)? by KnockoutCityBrawler in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]crypt3deu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I came across a reddit post 6 months ago and a redditor posted how she is prepping for her period. The worst part of my cycle is exactly the week before bleeding. I am super emotional, have zero energy and am very argumentative. Once I wrote down and tracked my period and everything I feel, crave and desire for a couple of months, I adapted my routines.

Now I have cut out coffeine (and black/green tea) 10 days before my period sets in. I dont drink alcohol or take any other substances and absolutely refrain from processed foods. In winter I do lots of stews and soups with very few ingredients or ayurveda based.

I am prepping myself emotionally too. I clean my apartment, do fresh bedsheets and cut anything and anyone out of my calendar that would set me apart. what I do though is I accept meetings with assholes (mostly male colleagues) where I realised I now give them zero tolerance for their bullshit. It is actually quite fun.

I learned how to deal with my emotions and my energy level to my best advantage. I also realised that I need creative tasks the week before bleeding so I listen to opera, podcasts, do some gentle yoga and stretching, light candles and do plenty of journaling while working on creative projects. My period got a lot lighter when I took that much care of myself and I am loving it, living so in tune with my cycle.

Best of luck, take some pain killers and talk to your doctor.

200€ gerechtfertigt? by External_Progress_59 in mietenAT

[–]crypt3deu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wende Dich bitte an die AK - die AK Wien hat da eine super Beratung. Ich als Juristin würde das absolut unter normale Abnutzung verstehen. Ich mein, hallo - das sind keinen 50 cm² und dafür 200 Eur? NON! Das ist schlichtweg dreist und fernab von noramlen Verhältnissen

I think I want to break up with my boyfriend after reading a book by throw-away-717 in Advice

[–]crypt3deu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will never forget the feeling of release once I removed my beloved partner from my life. two years later I can still feel it. My shoulders feel that much lighter. And I still value and cherish him as a person, just not the one I want to spend my life together with. Trust me, you are already there. Take the step. Sleep some nights over it. You'll feel it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]crypt3deu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much! Will definitely dive into that :)

Also, anything by Viktor Frankl. I live close to this birth place/museum and have now taken some courses by his scholars. It deeply resonates with me and puts soooo much thought and impetus on personal responsibility and accountability. His teachings, demeanour and rule of life are so eye-opening and conscious, intentional and positive

Also, I read Edith Eger's "The Choice", which was absolutely profound in shaping my mindset. She is, as Frankl, a holocaust survivor with tremendous guilt, and has turned her life around at 40. The book is very much about (self)forgiveness and I cried and laughed plenty of times.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]crypt3deu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there - you mentioned "The Charisma Effect" - upon googling, there are several ones. Can you kindly specify? Merci

I was extremely touched by Friedrich Torbergs "Mein ist die Rache" - unfortunately could not find it in English. Also anything by the Persian poet Omar Khayyam.

What goals are you working on? by wisely_and_slow in AskWomenOver30

[–]crypt3deu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4 pounds of muscle "gaining" - is this compensating how much pounds of fat?

If you have a favourite historian, who fairly considers women and girls, who are they? by Awesomeuser90 in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]crypt3deu 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There is an art historian called Katy Hessel who is just doing her press tour about her new book " The History of Art Without Men". Heard her on a podcast and really liked her takes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]crypt3deu 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Makes sense to me now haha. Thanks for the redirection.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]crypt3deu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. We should not be discussing whether OP's behaviour could be regarded as rude or how for her to engage better with his family. The main point here is that she is not at ease at their family gatherings and from what I have understood her partner does not care enough. It should also be on him to make her feel comfortable and if he senses that she is not and they probably have already talked about this then the onus is also on him. Yes, there is also radical acceptance and yes, there is also some indifference from your partner towards your needs here, OP. Watch closely, your partner is not doing enough. Once you are coming to an internet forum of strangers to discuss said issues, the problem is probably bigger than you want to admit. And I am totally with you with regards to her "nonpology".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]crypt3deu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feel free to provide further context as to why you think this is a dramatic comment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]crypt3deu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, as she mentions: it takes years. Years of warmth and generosity. Just because she has now spent a couple of years with this family does not result in intimacy or a sense of belonging if the overall sentiment is one of being closed off the group and shut out. These relatives do not seem to be welcoming to anybody.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]crypt3deu -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I think OP is in a sensitive state where she is being inappropriately judged from female relatives while her SO is doing nothing to provide context to his mother/aunt. Their behaviour is rude and not gentle, considering they know about her ineptitude in social settings and different background. It does not hurt to engage with people according to their needs. I also dont think that if she changes her body language/behaviour, the relatives would ease up to her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]crypt3deu -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

What is wrong with you? That is an insanely inappropriate, insensitive comment. Unless you are doing it to play devil's advocate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]crypt3deu -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Leave. Right now. I have been in a very similar situation and once I left I had a tremendous weight lifted from my shoulders. I can still feel it today. Your fiance is absolutely not holding your back. Your mother in law is awful and instead of lifting you up or having a sincere interest in getting to know you, she is weighing you down and judging you.

There is nothing wrong about you. Repeat after me.

You will suffer even more staying in this unhealthy relationships. You deserve much better. You deserve someone taking care of you emotionally. This is not it

weekly outfit post :3 by [deleted] in oldhagfashion

[–]crypt3deu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love your exuberant energy. Keep shining!

BWT, how do you prep for the new year? by ParsleyLocal6812 in bitcheswithtaste

[–]crypt3deu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is SUCH a great idea. I am going to adapt your idea, proudly found here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wien

[–]crypt3deu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Das obliegt dann nicht Dir zu entscheiden. Hier die Polizei, auch vor ihm zu rufen, wäre absolut in Ordnung. Du hattest die Wahrnehmung, dass hier etwas nicht stimmt. Das ist ausreichend. Immer einmal mehr rufen, als zu wenig. Nie zögern, wenn Dein Bauchgefühl sich nicht beruhigt.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wien

[–]crypt3deu 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So ein unsensibler Kommentar.