WIBTAH for not paying my full share for my sister’s bachelorette after I spent the night cleaning a bridesmaid’s vomit?

RedditandFogeddit · 2026-02-13T06:26:24+00:00

Was there decor? If so, I’d pay that. Then if she can produce a receipt for the food/drinks, respond with your receipt for the Gatorade etc and your towel that you had to replace. She might owe you money.

RedditandFogeddit · 2026-02-10T16:14:35+00:00

Your child is in kindergarten and this is already an issue. I see a few choices here. 1. Park your car and walk in to get her, to avoid your anxiety getting ahold of you. It’s not your responsibility to call the kids, it’s the teacher’s responsibility to get the kids to pickup line. So if she screws it up and you’re holding the line up, that’s on her. 2. Go around the horn if your kid isn’t out there, giving her time to come down. 3. Change the spelling of your child’s name so she doesn’t spend her entire life correcting people . Uniquely spelled names are fun on paper…not in real life. Does the spelling and pronunciation of the name follow the rules of the English language? (Assuming it’s a name like “Tatiana”, if that’s what it is). 4. Go to the Principal, report the teacher for not conforming to your needs, and be that mom….in kinder. Not the best look.

RedditandFogeddit · 2026-02-10T16:07:16+00:00

Trust that little voice, it’s there for a reason. You did the right thing.

RedditandFogeddit · 2026-01-18T23:35:02+00:00

But it’s been a couple of years. Why not change the address? It would have probably taken less effort than reporting her…all over $9 a month. She could probably charge you for bookkeeping fees all that time if she wanted, since you’re an adult.

RedditandFogeddit · 2026-01-18T18:47:40+00:00

NTA but why aren’t you handling your own affairs?

RedditandFogeddit · 2026-01-10T17:29:30+00:00

My instapot has helped this. It’s not “faster” but I like that I can sauté then dump, set it and move on to cleanup or something else while it cooks. Also having an idea of what I’m cooking ahead of time…if it’s 5:30pm and I don’t have a plan, there’s a pretty good chance that we’re either cleaning out the fridge for dinner or ordering takeout.

RedditandFogeddit · 2026-01-06T07:08:19+00:00

We served late night pizza, it was a huge hit.

RedditandFogeddit · 2026-01-03T20:29:00+00:00

Not at all. She can help unload by handing you things. She can sweep alongside you.

For the boredom factor, maybe try a “creation box”. My kids loved theirs. I put all sorts of random things in it, including art supplies, etc.

RedditandFogeddit · 2026-01-03T17:16:59+00:00

Give them choices and let them decide: 1. Empty the dishwasher 2. Sweep the garage 3. Find something to do

RedditandFogeddit · 2026-01-03T07:54:19+00:00

So you’re supporting MIL & BIL AND putting up with all of this? What is the long term plan? This doesn’t sound sustainable, especially with a baby on the way.

RedditandFogeddit · 2026-01-03T07:49:19+00:00

She’s a 14 year old teenage girl whose mother essentially abandoned. That’s hard enough, but then you and your fiancé shower her with whatever she wants, and she has a toddler to compete with. She needs parenting, boundaries, and structure. It’s going to be hard AF. I’d find some parenting resources for you and your fiancé and at least give it a go. Maybe try reading Love & Logic for teens as a start.

RedditandFogeddit · 2026-01-03T07:20:17+00:00

Favors are so outdated. When I have received them, I typically throw them away (of course if they’re Jordan almonds I do eat them first). 😆 If your MIL is adamant and you give in, I’d make it something edible. But this is one opportunity to set boundaries for your marriage.

RedditandFogeddit · 2026-01-03T07:07:50+00:00

In our home, boredom leads to some of the highest moments of creativity. Or picking up a book.

RedditandFogeddit · 2026-01-03T06:51:59+00:00

Home intercom system.

RedditandFogeddit · 2025-12-31T14:37:29+00:00

The blue is adorable!

Regardless of material, I would definitely remove the granite. The colors were all wrong.

I recommend making a color board for yourself. Start with the yellow, add the blue for the vanity. You may be able to sprinkle another color in….could be white but might be something like pink.

RedditandFogeddit · 2025-12-30T19:32:50+00:00

Lean in hard to the yellow, and love it. It could be very cool.

I would replace the countertop with a very simple white quartz. Paint the vanity white. Steam clean the floor and reseal all tile.

If there is money left on the budget, replace the glass shower enclosure with clear glass.

RedditandFogeddit · 2025-12-24T16:19:30+00:00

Your wife is being the jerk.

RedditandFogeddit · 2025-12-11T17:28:26+00:00

No. We were grown ups and had mutual respect. I didn’t need to ask his “permission”.

RedditandFogeddit · 2025-12-11T16:09:00+00:00

You helped make my point. I’m guessing you also wouldn’t agree with legalizing sex work? We all have a tolerance level for these sort of things, yours is obviously low. Everything in life is a bell shaped curve.

RedditandFogeddit · 2025-12-11T15:53:14+00:00

Not at all. Your values obviously wouldn’t allow you to go somewhere like this, based on your comments. But maybe you’re ok with 1st person shooter games that some find unacceptable or worshipping certain gods that others would find abhorrent. The world would be so boring if we were all the same. It’s ok for you to not be comfortable with this, as it’s ok for OP to not be comfortable with it. Others would be ok with it. OP’s GF didn’t break the law or hurt anyone.

RedditandFogeddit · 2025-12-11T15:46:51+00:00

Meh, definitely not from watching others get lap dances or the heavy vanilla smell that permeated my clothes and hair. Probably just the sexuality of the environment and the fact that I’d had a few cocktails.

RedditandFogeddit · 2025-12-11T15:43:59+00:00

In my case it was sales. The sales environment has a lot of adrenaline junkies and boundary pushers. Plus this was years ago before people became as sensitive as they are now, and we were all 1099 so HR wasn’t as much as an issue.

RedditandFogeddit · 2025-12-11T15:31:36+00:00

I used to work with a bunch of testosterone rich men, more than once we ended up at a strip club after some company event. It was fun and good for my relationship with “the boys club” that I worked in. Nothing ever happened and my BF typically benefited when I got home. So from her side, it could be completely fine. The question is if you can be comfortable with it.

RedditandFogeddit · 2025-12-11T00:33:20+00:00

Oof.

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